Is my coworker interested in me or just friendly?

[Anonymous]

She always seems to be chatty and interested in what I've been up to since we last saw each other. She doesn't really do this with other coworkers either male or female. And she wasn't always like this with me. It was sudden.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it's hard to know for sure, but it does sound like your coworker might be showing some signs of interest in you. The fact that she's getting more chatty and invested in what you've been up to, especially compared to how she is with other coworkers, is a bit of a tell.

The sudden change in her behavior with you is also kind of suspicious. If she wasn't always like this, then it could mean she's starting to develop some feelings. People often act a little differently around someone they're interested in.

That said, it's also possible she's just being friendly and trying to build a closer work relationship with you. Some people are more extroverted and social than others, so it may not necessarily be romantic interest.

My advice would be to pay attention to any other flirty or suggestive behaviors from her. Does she find excuses to spend one-on-one time with you? Does she ever try to steer conversations in a more personal direction? Those kinds of subtle cues could help you figure out if there's something more there.

Ultimately, the only way to know for sure is to try and have an honest, casual conversation with her about it. You could say something like "Hey, I've noticed you've seemed a bit more interested in chatting with me lately. Is there a reason for that, or am I just reading into things?" See how she reacts and take it from there.

Just be careful not to accuse or make assumptions. Keep it light and friendly. And if it does turn out she's into you, tread carefully since workplace romances can get complicated. But don't be afraid to explore it if you're feeling a mutual connection.

The most important thing is to trust your gut. If something feels different in your interactions with her, there's probably a reason for it. Just play it cool and see where it goes, my dude.

[Anonymous]

Well she sounds like me and I act like that around the coworker that I like.

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you known her and when did she start acting like this?

[Asker]

Two years and about 6-8 months ago

[Opinion Owner]

If that's the case and she's generally not as talkative with everyone else I'd say it's quite likely she sees you differently to others and might be interested in you. I can't say for sure but if you like her yourself try showing some interest in her and seeing if she reciprocates.

[missindiana93]

Stay away from co workers.