It is like they just want to play around with the guy's feelings. And then as soon as they got someone they really want, drop in him like a pound of bricks. It's happened to me, and it don't feel good.
Because most females’ are prone to receiving a lot of attention from men , she is so use to it happening to the point it just comes natural to her , so it isn’t that big of a deal to her , she just likes the attention and validation she receives. Most Guys’ on the other hand don’t receive as much attention then females’ do , so he might automatically assume she is flirting with him when really she is just being polite and friendly. Why some guys’ prefer a girl hitting on him first , so he knows she more than likely likes him more than just acquaintances. When a girl makes the first move , it’s easier for a guy to know what her true intentions are instead of just assuming she has interest in him when really she doesn’t.
I agree with this!
I could see a platonic relationship but anyone that involves desire will end in bed. Might take longer/shorter but, unless trauma occurs such as couple moving cross country. I thought about that quite bit because it certainly wasn't the PC answer I assumed I get.
Some women flirt with men even when they have no intention of dating or sleeping with them. Often, it’s about the dopamine hit from attention—like scrolling reels, it’s quick, addictive, and feels good in the moment. Psychologically, this ties to validation-seeking: the compliments, smiles, or interest reinforce feelings of being wanted.
The problem is that it can become a habit, even in committed relationships. While it may seem harmless, it risks eroding trust and making a genuine partner feel undervalued. Attention from strangers is fleeting; emotional loyalty is what sustains real love. If you’ve got a serious, caring partner, protect that bond—don’t trade it for momentary ego boosts.
Yea most females’ love receiving validation whether she is in a relationship or not , from other men. She is so use to receiving it that it just comes natural to her and makes her feel she can get whatever she wants or she is clueless about the whole thing and just assumes the guy is being friendly with her , which she honestly should be careful about whether she has a partner or not , because little does she realize , she can put herself or her partner at danger by constantly accepting that validation , it takes one crazy obsessed person that wants her , to stir up the pot and possible cause a lot of drama , my one ex girlfriend had an older coworker that wanted more than friendship with her , when I met the guy , I saw right through his ass and told my girlfriend to distance herself from him, She got upset with me and said I was being insecure , I said that’s not the case at all, but think whatever you want to think. So I backed off of the whole thing , even though my gut instincts knew I was right. Well they were right, because shortly after I told her about him , he started text messaging her inappropriate sexual messages , luckily I saw them pop up on her phone when her phone was on the table , I immediately grabbed her phone and said , you have such a nice friend , a friend that clearly wants to bang you as I was showing her the messages he sent , I said so do you still want to call me insecure? Her mouth dropped and she got a little teary eyed , because she really did just like him as a friend , but when she realized I was right about what I said to begin with about him , she immediately apologized to me and said sorry and she blocked him on her phone , luckily she no longer worked with him , because he retired , but this motherfucker waited until he was retired to finally make his move on my girlfriend. I texted the motherfucker back and said if I ever see him on the streets , he better be prepared to run , because I am going to knock you the fuck out!
Because women love attention and validation… it’s a drug to a lot of them.. they’ll keep you around just to having you jumping around like a puppy dog, then when their toxic ex unblocks them, they’re gone like a fart in the wind.
MHO well deserved..
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Majority of guys do it too it’s just harmless fun flirting after it dépend on the location but for example a man that flirt with me in the street without knowing me i m gonna assume he just want to do it for fun ego boost and that he do it to hundred of other girls so no need to imagine anything sérious as it would only lead to heartbreak
What happened to me, happened at a school I cleaned. It went on for 9 years.
You made me afraid at first I thought you meant with a student 😹
Are you sure it was flirting thought? What did she do? And you?
Also flirting at work is extremely common Even for married folks the amount of Time I saw people flirting while they were married and they just flirted for fun is extremely common. It mean nothing and it’s just for fun.
Some people are serious like you but most men and women aren’t sadly which make it hard to know people true intention k usually always assume it’s for fun to avoid getting my Hope up and feelings hurt
it was a woman teacher and i was a second shift janitor. Both of us were single, and we were both the same age. She winked at me. She said my name different ways. it was never a normal hi to me. And she used to leave me cupcakes. When she walked by me, she would say my name, and then sway her hips extra far.
Si this was all in your head winking leaving cupcake etc … just mean shés a friendly person and an extravertie which is normal in this situation
Did she ask about your end shift? Your hobbies? Your number in those 9 years? If she did not then she was juste being her friendly self.
Sometime it’s hard to make différence between flirt and friendly people but here she was just being friendly
@alice55
We talked about our hobbies. None of the other women at that school treated me like her.
Why did she give me a Valentines card? Why did she tell me happy valentines day?
A mid-thirtyish teacher hit on me when I was eighteen and in her Grade Thirteen class.
@beefcakebradybatson Sounds like you were lucky. You should of asked her, when would like to get married?
@beefcakebradybatson what did she do?
So at EIGHTEEN, I should have wanted to wed a broad twice my age? No thanks.
@beefcakebradybatson I think if you would of offered marriage she would of backed down. That's my guess.
@Pohjolan I agree with you!
I think she was married.
i think because flirting doesn’t necessarily have to be something serious🤷🏻♀️ if a cute guy starts flirting with me and i was into it, i would flirt back but it doesn’t necessarily mean i was looking for anything more than just flirting!!🤷🏻♀️😅😅
@valentina4eva make sense.
Yeah as a guy, seriously don’t do that, it just gives false hope to a guy who assumes you’re interested and this is why women and girls are confusing. It’s like me applying for 2 jobs, I get 2 job offers, 1 job offer I’m reading to agree upon, the other I’m just toying with when the other company has other candidates to look at. Don’t waste anyone’s time, if there’s a particular guy you want based on height, hair style, persona, then…don’t be flirting with 5ft8 guys who have an odd sense of humour you may deem as “creepy”. I know you might say it’s my life don’t tell me what to do, but for warning—it usually causes more stress, anxiety, and other matters that aren’t good. I’m just keeping it real, whether you choose to agree to this is out of my hands, I merely stated from a guys POV.
So by that logic then @valentina4eva if you initiate flirting with a guy that you have interest in, he flirts back, and then does no more. Then that's ok to you?
@ChiTown33 yess if i was flirting with a guy and he didn’t progress things then i would assume he wasn’t interested in going further with me and i would accept it🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ (and maybe take a hit to my ego😅🙈) but it’s just flirting it’s not serious!!😅
@Deserter3 i was describing a situation where a man started flirting with me, and i reciprocated🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ so how am i the attention seeker if he’s the one that started the flirting?🤔😵💫😵💫
@pass_the_celery98 i appreciate u explaining the man’s pov to me, but i still kinda feel like men flirt allll the time without necessarily intending to go further?😵💫😵💫 so if a man flirts with me, how am i supposed to decipher if it’s serious flirting or just casual flirting?🤔😅😅
@ChiTown33 okie sozz i misunderstood what u meant😵💫😵💫 if i was flirting with a guy and we were talking for days/weeks and then he just ghosted me, i would be upset😭
So in other words while you're right flirting doesn't have to be serious many times it is. Because In my scenario I gave, you were serious and he was not. Well many times a guy is serious and women are not. Those women are just getting thier attention fix. And this is why guys feel led on and get angry.👍
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One woman from way back when that was part of my family did this exact thing , I think she got a thrill (sexual or just a rush of adrenaline or something) being so persuasive and so alluring to get men’s attention every-time without fail.
I’ve heard stories of a lot of people doing this regardless of gender and it is stupid.
Like really selfish and twisted to do this. Don’t give false hope… Just sad.
Are they flirting or just being friendly... Friendliness is so rare these days that it gets mistaken for flirting. When I'm friendly towards a man they ALWAYS think I'm flirting. So maybe she was just being friendly and you misread her body language. The other option is, if this was at a bar, then she probably just wanted free drinks. If this is the case, hold off offering to buy a drink till like 30min into the conversation. If it's for the drinks and you are not buying, she will quickly become less flirty towards you, probably excuse herself, walk away, and move on to someone else. But in my situation, I'm usually just being friendly - not flirting.
I'm not sure that women should even be friendly to men, because it is impossible to tell when they are being friendly or being flirty.
If they laugh with you, they are being friendly. If they laugh and touch your arm, shoulder, leg, etc, then they are flirting.
The girl I knew was more confusing than this! It's even hard to describe in text.
Man, some of you guys never matured beyond 8th grade. You treat flirting as purely transactional. A prelude to sex. If there's no sex you're crushed and angry. Like a child. Ever flirt just to have fun and kill time? Like joking around with your buddies? Make her laugh. She makes you laugh. One of you needs to leave. Hug. Say bye. Leave with a smile. That was fun.
Time for bed, grandpa.
@BazookaTrouper,
Time for you to fire up XBox incel. Mom will bring you and your friends cookies later. She'll tell you what a handsome boy you are. Face it, that's probably the best you're ever gonna do in life.
That does it. Back in the padded room with you. Now get in the straitjacket, it's time for your for your boinky-boinky pills again.
m Flirting is an intricate social and cognitive activity, plus it's a sandbox. Flirting is going to hurt
If you tick the 3 boxes, then I can see how it would hurt you 300%
What you just described is the exact immature, insecure, perpetually scared man babies who are here whining about getting hurt. They need to grow up, man up, and lighten up. They are the problem, not the women who flirt with them. Guys take at least the tiniest amount of accountability for your own situation. You're making men look like whining wimps. I actually don't blame women who decide to torture these guys for entertainment.
It's all for ego boosting... its the same way with men, they pretend to like you so you can validate them but once someone they really likes comes around they ditch you or become distant until they are lonely or need an ego boost again.
Women flirt for fun too. You ever consider that?
"And then as soon as they got someone they really want, drop in him like a pound of bricks. "
Most men are desperate. That's not our fault. A woman cannot talk to a guy nicely for a week without him trying to get something romantic and sexual out of her.
Literally how's that our fault?
Nobody should be doing that.
@BazookaTrouper doing what? Being desperate?
Some women really dig the attention. They oddly consider it a bit of fun that doesn't hurt anyone, but if the guy is really interested, then they've led them on for no reason other than for their own selfish entertainment.
It's abit of a ego thing but as a neurodivergent woman most men assume im flirting with them when im just being friendly.
Maybe they want to have fun taking you for a ride in the sense that they would make you believe that they are into you when they are not, or maybe they are just in the mood to flirt a bit I guess. One of the 2 come to my mind.
People confuse me for flirting when I am nice and then when I am not they think I am a bitch
sometimes you can't win
Yeah, I think it's like a cat sharpening it's claws. They're honing their charms and taking a bit of pleasure at drawing their prey in so effortlessly. You better watches. You think you're immune and then wham!! You're stuck on one.
Flirting is only a few minutes of fun. I wouldn't get involved with a guy and then just drop him.
because they are insatiable sex-starved creatures without a soul
Maybe they just being nice to you.
Why some men always think that every nice girls are flirting on them 🙄
In my situation, the other women just ignored me, and almost never even said hi. Contrast that with someone being flirty. It is like a shock to my system.
At 21, I was chased into the London, Ont., Greyhound Bus Depot boys' room by an old broad I wouldn't have given the first, let alone second look.
My simple theory is simply "cuz they like the attention".
Because women like male attention. They don’t care if they hurt our feelings
That's the way I see it.
I think they just want a form of validation. They want the guy to like them and then when he does they don't want him anymore. It's a lack of confidence.
girls are crazy
Bingo.
2 reasons
1. They don't get the hint, and she's just being nice
2. she's' playing hard to get
Because flirting is fun? Guys and gals both do this without any real intent of it going anywhere.
Flirting is flirting. It's innocent and at the same time it doesn't always mean anything. And it can be a game to a lot of people.
Just to "kill time"...
obviously, because it boosts their egos and dopamine activity
Why do guys do precisely THE SAME THING?
Some folks are just self-centered dbags.
m I think it's just who doesn't understand or get the point of what flirting is, or can be...
Where are these women. If there is any, my DMs are open :D
They like to tease and torment their victims bring them to the edge i and then deny their orgasm
Sometime guys think that a woman is flirting but it is not. It is her personality.
People, not just women, people.
It's the thrill of the forbidden, the chase, the furtiveness, the ego. It's mostly harmless.
We were on a Carnival Cruise and someone flirted with me in front of my wife and it became a big brawl and even made it onto TikTok.
Because that is their best tool amd they want something from you
Not all women do that, but those who do, are not really serious... sad but true.
Maybe you should try being true with your feelings 😲 like you wanna have the cake and eat it too?
Maybe she thought u are a player. U would never treat a decent good guy like that
Why would she think that if I never had a girlfriend before.
The same reason predators toy with their prey before killing it.
Flirting is a game you practice to sharpen your game!
Just to satisfy their needs ig. Everyone wants to be wanted.
Or simply to mess someone up.
Because, naturally women are like that.
I flirt for fun but still can get to more later
Time wasters and ego boost. I hate it too.
If a woman flirts with me, or even picks on me. I want her to be serious enough, that if the relationship grows, it is a good thing. But so far the one's that have done those things with me, never had any intention of going anywhere. Therefor it hurt me emotionally.
they do it for an ego boost. Fucking jackasses. Here is a classic documentary excerpt. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBOtj1RmaUE&t=69s
Ego and control.
It feels good when a cute guy smiles back.
Practice, see if they still can draw a guy.
I think so girls just like the attention.
We get bored easily
. these are matters of fortune.
Validation
Validation.
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