Why do guys assume it’s a woman’s job to be a wife and mother?

Question

Many heterosexual women don’t do those things and yet she remains happily alone loving her best life.  Why does this upset the male race so much?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Same reason a majority of women assume it’s a man’s job to take care of the bills, provide her a place to live, protect her, possibly even die for her, open her door, be romantic, be her therapist, listen to every little problem she has, read her mind, etc, etc, etc. Oh I forgot to include Fox the car, maintain the yard, fix things around the house, wake up in the middle of the night to see what that loud noise was. Trust me you don’t want to be the man here in Arizona where temps are triple digits in the summer when you’re outside doing yard work. It’s in the 90s a lot of times when you get up. Between being inside as the female “washing” laundry, “washing” dishes vs being outside. I’d rather be inside where the washing machine and the dish washer are doing the job, not you.
You’re young right now so enjoy living your best life as women say. I’ve never really heard men say stupid bs like this. Living her best life. I’m strong and independent lol but in 20 years when you’ve lived your best life, you’ll be single, you’ll wonder why men don’t want you. It’ll be the men’s fault of course like most everything women blame men for. Eventually your friends will meet someone, then it’ll just be you w no one to share that best life w.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, first of all, men are not a race, they are a sex.

I have yet to meet a wife and/or mother who wasn't a woman. Personally, I would never marry someone and make her my wife if she wasn't a she.

You're right that many heterosexual women don’t do those things, but there's a reason they remain single. Heterosexual men have no use for them.

You do you, but remember that there are things men value in a woman, and they are not going to commit their lives to a woman who doesn't bring those things to the table.

Nature

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Reading your question and your responses here, you seem like an unhappy person. Why are you so bitter toward half of the population?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well let's see, woman wife, ok, woman mother, yep, it checks out.

Summeroflove · Answer

Let me tell you something what everyone wants to do in life is different…. For many women yes absolutely being a wife and mother brings them extreme joy whether they’re working moms or stay at home moms.

But every woman is different the same as every man is. Not all men think this way just like not all women want to have kids or at least don’t want kids now. People who are bitter and cannot find who they’re wanting as a partner tend to take their frustrations out on the entire opposite sex instead of finding the woman/man they’re wanting.

If you’re saying all men are like this you’re just as bad as men who think all women are the same. I personally don’t care what women are doing I just care about finding ONE person…. Who is wanting the same things in life that I’m looking for. I don’t expect all women to conform to that the same as most women who are normal thinking women don’t expect me to conform to their way of living.

I am not their husband and they are not my wives.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

The male race? It's a gender. Anyways, I grew up with a Mother that refused to mother... yeah, she didn't take care of me. My two sisters hated it too by the way. We all were neglected as fuck. But Hooray, she refused to do her job. I raised my sister and changed her diapers, cooked all the food and eventually ran away while she was beating the shit out of another man she pulled.

With that said, obviously I don't assume a woman would do that job... I just think it would be better. Is it sex roles you're talking about? My wife works all day but she's still a mother when she comes home. Should she come home and punch the kids or some shit?

I'm trying to understand what the fuck you're getting at. You talking about women that just don't want kids? ... and probably prefer a septum ring, colored hair, funky glasses, armpit hair, cats, boxed wine... all of which would be fine, buuuuuuuut, they have to constantly bitch about men as if their man problems are not because of their own choices as well as their choices in men. <--is that you right now? Just bitching about men? You that bitch right now doing that?

SkipPerk · Answer

So, it is easy for women to avoid men who seek out wives. Women do not need to get married or be in serious relationships with men. If women are honest, they can avoid men who are seeking serious relationships.

you simply need to make it clear that you have no interest in getting married or having a family. Once you do that, men who are looking for a woman to marry will avoid you. There are plenty of men who want casual relationships with women: Engaging with them should be far easier than seeking out a husband.

for example, I have always wanted a serious, long-term relationship. I was honest about this, and with a few painful exceptions, women respected that. I am married now and happy, although my first wife was a disaster.

you just need to be direct and make your intentions clear. You should have a far easier time finding men with no interest in a long-term relationships than the majority of women who are seeking out fathers and family men.

tulgablake · Answer

Some men assume it’s a woman’s job to be a wife and mother because of deep-rooted cultural, religious, and historical gender roles. For centuries, society has framed women’s primary value around caregiving, family, and homemaking, while men were seen as providers. Even though times have changed, those outdated beliefs still linger in many communities. Media, traditions, and family expectations often reinforce this stereotype. The assumption isn’t based on biology but on social conditioning. In reality, being a wife or mother is a personal choice, not a predetermined duty, and men share equal responsibility in family and caregiving roles.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

The majority of men do not care. It is fully her choice. They may have a preference of having a relationship they may have expectations but otherwise we just do not care.

I will counter this with, Why do women assume a financially stable, in shape successful man need to be married to be happy? Why can't they prefer to be single and loving their best life? perfer not to date single mothers?

Why does this upset women so much?

I was widowed in 2002, I spent years telling women who tried to hook me up with x friend or relative that I was not and at 57 still not interested in tying myself down in a relationship and completely against getting married again.

You can throw all kinds of mud in the mix but essentially it is a preference and highly personal to each.

scrodge · Answer

Its changing, many men are starting to get it. The whole idea of women beig the nurturer and the man the provider goes back to the ancient hunter gatherer model and is part of our DNA. But this model has become out dated and recently the sterotypes that imprisioned the sexes into defined roles have began to melt. What many men haven't yet realized is that women are great at many roles, it is the multi tasking ability that is begining to make them so fluid in society. I say this: if you allow women to do what they want, be what they wand and you pay them the same and give them all rights then the world will be a better place for it.

Sensmind · Answer

Possibly it could be an upbringing/societal/cultural thing. Personally I believe this view is somewhat old fashioned especially nowadays when most couples need two full time jobs to support their household and any children they have. Again a personal view but I believe the household/parental duties/responsibilities should be shared as fairly as possible

TrueConfection · Answer

If I could give you a million dollars, I would assume you would want the money.

Being a wife and mother is an honor that only women are blessed with and while it really is rewarding work, calling it a “job” makes it sound undesirable. It’s so desirable that many men have even tried to become a wife and mother.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

Due to the fact that you have breast. Mother natures food source for those who have not yet developed teeth. Men developed skills like knapping flint to be able to bring kill to the table. Children came from your body, and you had the equipment for provide nutrition. .

OneViewpoint · Answer

Simple. Because the "wife & mother" thing benefits men in most cases. Women who aren't dependent on a man confuse and scare a lot of insecure men. And men don't want to work to keep a woman. Much easier if they are simply entitled to ownership. It's really not any more complicated than that.

Ask105 · Answer

Did you have a mother or a father its not a role its how life works and I've seen other women same mind as you 20 years later you’ll still be where you at thats fine real men are looking for the last one percent of women that wouldn’t see that as a question in their mind and once all women think like you marriage won't be a thing anymore and more young kids throwing there young lifes away

RavVid · Answer

Regrettably basic biology mandates gender roles.

Obviously only women can give birth and nurse. If society wants an indefinite lifetime than that gender role must be performed.

From a society view point it is a conceit not to perform your gender role.

A solution might be to preferential seek single women as legal immigrants who want to be mothers.

That seems best to me.

AviatorTom · Answer

Mother Nature gave males and females an innate desire to procreate and continue the human species. Though that's not appropriate for every male and female, it does apply to the majority.

Simply put, nature's role for females is to have children and raise them, with the male role to support and defend them.

Agape93 · Answer

It's a few millenia old enforced cultural norm. Guys made us do that, and forced that on us for thousands of years, legally and culturally. But now that we are finally equal and they are made to pick up some of the slack, they're mad because we aren't willing to go back to that, generally speaking.

Staximus · Answer

Happily and alone rarely go together for long. It's not a woman's job to be a mother and a wife but a man can't be those things. If a man wants to be a family man, he's going to need a wife and mother to his children. If you want a guy who is a fuck off and will not commit to you, then I guess marriage and children is not for you.

Anonymous · Answer

That is the main role of a women for 99.999... % of history. For the human race to get where it is at, that was one of the main cogs. Today you have more rights and opportunities. You can fight against your primal instincts, but they have been developed by evolution for the entire length our species.

Dennisjf12 · Answer

I am very sorry that your husband thinks that it is your job to be Nanny, If I were you I would hire a baby sitter from time to time & go out with your girlfriends & then tell him this is because you don't ever want to watch the children that he is the father of. Dennis

Miristheiss · Answer

That is why women exist. Boy, the BC pill coming out in 70' sure turned women into morons. Well western women are imploding civilizations in western countries. Way to deny truth and BIOLOGY.

WhiteThought · Answer

Well, female unhappiness is on the rise, and second, if a woman is married and has children, then it is her job to be a mother and a wife. You think the man is gonna do that? If she wants to stay single, she can.

basementfox1 · Answer

I mean it has been like this for centuries, so a lot of men around the world, especially in non-western countries want women to be in that role because it benefits them and because of religion as well. Patriarchy want women to birth as many babies as possible and have them just stay in the house and do free labor.

Genosexy · Answer

I think mostly, or maybe only controlling men assume that. Personally I see women equal to men and everyone has the right be whatever they want to be and in a relationship you should just live your partner for who they are and accept whatever it is they want to become and do with their life.

Slim57 · Answer

It's all of our "jobs" to keep the earth re-populated, but am I going to help? No thanks. Also, if you have express how so very happy you are single and without a man, deep down you're not, the people who really don't care don't have to say anything whatsoever

Nikki1989 · Answer

A man's desire for his partner to fulfill these traditional roles can be tied to his sense of identity. It seems from a man's insecurity.

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys don't make that assumption about ALL women, but MOST women - eventually - do want to be married and have children. If that's not you. that's okay, but not a reason to be pissed off at every9one else.

Keyboardkat · Answer

Uh, sorry, but "male" is not a race. It is the sex that around half the world's population was born into.

glennos89 · Answer

Yes ofcourse just like men should be husband's and fathers

Pohjolan · Answer

Its their right to leave the gene pool. However if egalitarian societies don't fix their birth rate, they will be eventually replaced by non-egalitarian ones. A price for everything.

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

Nothing has to be your job. There is just a certain set of men who will not find you attractive and if you are ok with that then it's ok with them. There's someone out there for everyone.

jshm2 · Answer

LOL, because guys can't have kids? What other answer were you expecting?

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

If you are living the best life why even bother to ask this question let it upset whom it upsets what for you.. You live your best life 🧬

Sal_Monella · Answer

Because a man's job will always be Husband and Father.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

you're profile says you are 20. lets see if you are going to keep these same exact views in 10 years from now

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Because isn't that what women are supposed to do? I mean, I don't want either, but, I mean, isn't that what it's SUPPOSED TO BE

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not upset about it. When these women start forcing their "happy" lives down my throat on social media, then I have a problem.

zagor · Answer

Because men giving birth isn't a thing... yet.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not sure. That’s a good question. Luckily not all guys are like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Only patriarchal guys and male chauvinists assume that.  A girl can be whatever she wants to be.

Twalli · Answer

Most heterosexual women do get married and have kids, thus becoming a wife and mother.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

I don’t. I’d find you rather dull if you did

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

Considering the % of women on antidepressants, it's upsetting y'all more than men.

grega239 · Answer

I assume its because its been so since forever.

Skyros · Answer

Since our original ancestors were kicked out of the Garden of Eden it has been like that for women. It’s God’s natural plan like it or not.

qwerty2469 · Answer

What else is she gonna be? A whore or a childless cat lady? Lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably for the same reason women think it's a man's job to be the provider.

Fulcrum010 · Answer

Because only women are capable od giving birth and nurturing a kid. That's a biological fact.

Anonymous · Answer

Because Women assume it's a Guys job to provide everything for them.

sage2021 · Answer

We used to call the single aged women spinsters.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Oh yes it makes me so enraged 😡

fonduegirl · Answer

sexism

Vegasrunner · Answer

Who else would he a mother and wife?

jahaims · Answer

Gender and race are different

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Because you assume all guys hate women.

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

because science

shortster · Answer

Because men can only be husbands and fathers?

spy4in · Answer

You can be the wife!

Why do guys assume it’s a woman’s job to be a wife and mother?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is a woman's role in life is to only to make a family, while men can do whatever they want?

Why do guys assume it’s a woman’s job to be a wife and mother?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is a woman's role in life is to only to make a family, while men can do whatever they want?

We're glad to see you liked this post.