Can guys ever just admire a woman as beautiful without lustful intentions?

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Even if it's kinda a thirst trap but she wanted to feel hot, but she doesn't want men to talk about how much they'll pound her to make he come  Then start asking for her to take her clothes off

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

We non-sexually admire women's beauty all the time - but that's generally going to be women who dress reasonably modest.

If you are posting a thirst trap, you are overtly inviting sexual thoughts and comments, and you know it, because that's exactly why you do it. You want "sexual" levels of attention, and you know you'll only get that much attention by leading with sex, so you do. You can't be surprised or even disappointed that the resulting attention is sexual. You can't live in that kind of contradiction.

What you are asking is as naive as asking why you can't buy a mansion for only $20,000. Mansions are very expensive, and to get one, you have to be able to pay a high price. You want the "mansion" level of attention while only having to pay a "garden shed" price, but that's not the way the world works, and not how it will ever work.

If you want good results in this world, the first step is to understand how the world actually works. Then, you can find ways to be successful within that framework. If you allow yourself to believe the delusions of how you WISH the world worked, you will, at best, always be disappointed and almost never get what you want, but more likely, your mental health is going to suffer because reality will never match your delusions.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. I have always loved the sight of beautiful women but that didn't mean that I had lustful "intentions". They are like works of art. I can appreciate without wanting to possess them.
Okay, a fleeting image of her naked and wondering what it would be like to fuck her might run though my head. That's almost automatic. But is stops there. The circumstances would have to be just right for me to take any action. And, even then, I would treat her with respect and not like a piece of meat.

My eyes might pop out at a thirst trap. But I would also be turned off by her overt attempt to be one.

On the other hand, most women try to look attractive. One example is a lawyer in spike heels and stockings wearing a pencil skirt that hugs ass and a blouse with the top buttons undone. She looks professional but sexy af. Is she a thirst trap?
Or a lady in a flaring, knee-length skirt with waist band that accentuates her hips. She looks hot af. But is she a thirst trap or is she just dressed nicely?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

in my opinion, no, not really. A part of their brain is perpetually in bloodhound mode, ready to chase whatever they detect as "hot" and "sexy" even if they're not interested in the girl in any serious way.

My one guy friend told me that a guy will either be around a girl because he enjoys her company (and on some level sexual) OR he will tell her he's busy and brush her off in some way, clearly indicating a lack of interest. (Then in my experience are the neutral chickensh*ts who freeze and don't take a step either way.)

Vevv123 · Accepted Answer

Well if it’s a thirst trap… it’s a thirst trap.. “A thirst trap is a type of social media post intended to entice viewers sexually” Men can admire beauty, but it’s up to you to show and give the signs that you should be respected, so by creating a thirst trap, whatever that means, you give off signs that will lure these kinds of men, you’re creating that atmosphere. And beauty isn’t always visible and there are men that can appreciate all kinds of beauty.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Yes we can! But usually "they dress to impress" so no matter how hard we try, we can't hold it back... as an experiment go on a Tube/Metro station and sit on a side of an escalator and See a beautiful woman going up the escalator stairs, and see how many men will pop out their heads to "admire" her going up...

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes done that. Specific example, I had a heart for someone in a movie. Obviously, it's acting and it isn't a real person, but I admired her qualities of strength and beauty... the inner beauty. She was portrayed not as the young vibrant flirtatious one but the older strong sister. She won my heart, wasn't lustful. But, she was not sexualizing herself. If you play that game and think guys will see past it to see your brilliant mind, please seek a rational therapist... haha.

Purpleronnie · Answer

First of all , ‘lustful intentions’ ? You’re painting a picture that guys are not even in control and that’s just not true. Thoughts and intentions are not the same thing.
I’d agree that some guys may have normal sexual / lustful thoughts but it’s a thirst trap , it’s literally designed to attract ‘thirsty’guys, what the hell do you expect?

it’s my view that , growing up a lot of guys are conditioned to believe to be manly is to be overtly sexual that “always wanting sex” is part of the persona we should wear to show that we are manly. This strongly influences the way that communicate with other guys and that drips through to how they are perceived by women but it’s generally all male competitive bravado

Finally , the anonymity of the internet and therefore the websites you’re referring to make it open season for certain guys to talk a certain way. They will do it to shock and compete and with that same overtly sexual persona they were conditioned to beleive they need to be perceived as “manly” and sometimes just because they are vile , lonely undesirable and sexually inactive cretins.

Anonymous · Answer

There's a woman i know she's very beautiful but it's not only her beauty that defines her she has a lot of good qualities too. For example she's a great mom a great provider for her daughters she's strong has inner strength even though she sometimes doubts her own inner strength she's had a difficult life but still remains beautiful she has inner qualities that most women don't have and seem to lack. She knows how to cook she repairs washing machines or dryers 😉 she's very motivated and tries her best to give daily affirmations to others reminding others of 3 things they love about themselves and 3 things people are grateful for. Yes she may seem serious sometimes and she may seem like she has a cold exterior and cold interior but believe me when i tell you this she is a good person she may not always show her emotions but she does have them and when she breaks you can feel the hurt too that she's going through. There are so many reasons why i fell in love with her (even though she constantly tells people not to fall in love with her and constantly like a broken record this isn't tinder) but i still love her and i think that's what hurts the most 😔😞 she's a part of my heart has been a part of my heart for the longest time now that's why i love her 😞😔

ohsheeT · Answer

When you meet someone you like you. Come to a point in the relationship. Where you have to make a choice

If you really like her friendship. And like hanging around her.

Or you find her hot sexy so you want to make love to her with her..

But now your grown up. You ask your self if I date her how long is it going to last. Because you know down deep she's your kind. But not.

So you have to weigh it out. A good friend for ever. Or a lover for. Maybe 6 months

And then you break up and don't see each other again. So you do the right thing and she turns it to a very good friend for many many years.

I've had to make this choice many times. Life is way better this way

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

There are plenty of women I interact with in a respectful way that doesn't involve any sort of lustful intention. They're the modest, intelligent, and classy types. However, I must add that I don't have female friends outside of groups and I don't approach women in a lustful way even if I see "thirst traps".

If women want to be taken serious like this then they need to have the necessary attributes. Walking around half naked and carrying on like bimbos isn't gonna get that. I avoid those types completely.

Anonymous · Answer

Men biologically have impulses but that doesn’t mean they can’t have self control.

Personally I can turn it off pretty quickly if I know the woman is married. Given my spiritual beliefs it’s sinful (Jesus said “you have already committed adultery in your heart” if you look at woman lustfully).

With that said woman have a clear responsibility here as well which they continue to shirk in modern times. Don’t dress provocatively and then get upset when you get attention from where you don’t want to. Really sick of the ridiculously asinine expectation.

Yes it’s not okay for men to stare inappropriately. But men are wired that way. Quit making it worse.

RingOfFire · Answer

Even the question highlights one of the differences in the way men and women experience attraction to the opposite sex.

For men, "beautiful" includes lust. The two things are less mutually exclusive concepts to a man than a woman. They don't separate the physical from the rest of their feelings as much as women do. Men attach the physical appearance of a woman more to their concept of beauty, romance and even love than woman attach the physical appearance of a man to those things. Both looks and other factors are important to both men and women, but men put more weight on the looks part when they think of what "beautiful" is in a woman. It isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's part of human nature and we should be thankful for it because it is part of why we are still here as a species today.

Alex_Bright · Answer

I appreciate a beautiful woman as much as I appreciate a beautiful painting, even without me knowing the woman or the painter.
It doesn't mean I want to take the woman home, just as I don't feel the urge to take the painting home.

In the online world though, I wouldn't put anything online if you're concerned about the responses.

Son_Goku59 · Answer

The solution to this is rather simple. If you want to be taken seriously instead of in a lustful way, maybe don’t carry yourself in a lustful way. There are plenty of men that like women but may not have a desire for them in that manner. The example you used didn’t exactly help. That’s like you jumping into a tiger cage by your own volition and getting mad at the tigers for biting/killing you. You can’t get mad at a response that was caused by your own actions that elicited said response. Not sure why this was even a question.

ryanrhino · Answer

Yes, all the time, as I'm happily married. Beautiful people are everywhere and I certainly don't want to go after any person just because they're physically beautiful. Plus, maybe the person is beautiful on the inside, but has the soul of Dorian Gray.

Levin · Answer

Depends on the man, depends on the woman.

But if the woman sells herself on sex, then she will be seen in that way.

If she cultivates herself in higher ways, then she will attract men who resonate on that level.

I'm that way, I can appreciate women in, for want of a better word, very pure platonic ways. But only certain women (I ain't no simp).

RavVid · Answer

Theoretically yes. In practice we think girls we want to fuck are beautiful and we are inclined to want to fuck girls we think are beautiful.

So it is not very likely but we might not do anything about it. An 18 yo girl is a bit young for me and a 17 yo girl is illegal.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, we do it all the time... The amount guys I see in comments just calling a woman beautiful, and asking how her day is is astounding... Even on thirst traps.. But you shouldn't expect admiration from those because their designed to illicit lust.. Unless it's just the woman's face..

Summeroflove · Answer

There is a difference between sexual attraction and thinking someone looks good. Yes, absolutely there is a difference you can admire someone’s beauty without feeling a ounce of sexual feelings

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men that are not immature can keep those lustful intentions in check, but finding a man who is not immature is not easy.

AviatorTom · Answer

Mother Nature made us males and females to procreate. When we guys see an attractive woman, that's what our instincts tell us. It doesn't mean we're going to do anything about it, but the thoughts are there.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Absolutely! I can separate a beautiful woman from... Her IQ of 82 Her STD's Her sense of entitlement Her neediness She may be beautiful. It doesn't mean I won't avoid her like the plague.

EmmaMary · Answer

That must surely be a feat of complete and utter impossibility! lol

Miristheiss · Answer

Beauty? Admiring beauty? I can of think of her face for that. I can admire pretty eyes, beautiful hair and smile.  A hot body? Sexy curves and luscious skin? That usually just triggers sexual desire.

dave123dfff · Answer

Yes - Particularly if he has a type and she might be very attractive, but a different type. I am into very fat women and older women. I can look at a woman who would be conventionally very attractive and admire her beauty without necessarily lusting after her.

Similarly, I can lust after a woman who might not be conventionally attractive and recognize her as as not.

Shiprex · Answer

Yes men in general have lots of admiration for women based on their appearance and would prefer that these women didn't open their mouths or do stuff to spoil the illusion of perfection they create in their minds.

Kaneki05 · Answer

What? No of course we can't. Though we can refrain from saying something but no if you attractive we're going to be thinking about something lustful.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

In general, yes we can... but the thirst trap is designed to generate sexual energy. I feel like that's kind of stacking the deck against us 😂

exitseven · Answer

This is a good question. I just tried it and I couldn't do it. All of a sudden I pictured her naked

genericname85 · Answer

we typically find "beautiful" whoever seems most healthy and fit which incidentally are the same values that we look for for procreation so it's quite rare for a man to find a girl pretty and not have a desire to fuck them.

WhiteThought · Answer

To answer your question, yes, guys can do that
however, if she is going to objectify herself, then she should prepared to be objectified by men. If it's a thirst trap, she is literally inviting that attention to herself.

Grond21 · Answer

It's very possible, but it takes heroic levels of virtue. You can't expect that of the average man. Sadly

juleyboo74 · Answer

NO! LOL they ALL will want to sleep with you given the opportunity! And that's not a bad thing - we controi the dynamics of the relationship!

matchrestore · Answer

I often find myself taking not of other people's beauty without any sexual thoughts about them.

TrimmedTip · Answer

Yes, it’s possible. But it requires emotional maturity and respect—qualities not everyone has.

Anonymous · Answer

To set free is to love.  Takers are fun for a while but not worth the effort to change. They will settle only when they find their match.  Those willing to learn the woman are time well spent

lorenzomichael · Answer

Yeah I can all the time. Maybe it’s because I’m an attractive male and I get hit on a lot more than some of my friends ever since Jr high school and I gets kinda old. But I can appreciate a nice attractive woman without it getting weird sure.

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

how much they'll pound her to make he come Then start asking for her to take her clothes off?

Which bar or strip club are you finding those men in? The actions of the men that you are accounting for are not normal men.

jazzy34 · Answer

Of course they can. It's just the men who only want sex from her that lust.

molonski2 · Answer

I think this happens ALL the time frankly , but also I take your point.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Sure, no problem.  Its even easier depending on what her personality is. Some maybe pretty on the outside, but horrible on the inside.

FreyaRed · Answer

Even if some boys maybe do, sooner or later starts their PP to itch anyway.

glennos89 · Answer

No that's not how nature designed us to be. This lustfull attraction is part of our reproductive system ensuring the survival of mankind

Mangospacho · Answer

Of course.  For instance, I can find a painting beautiful but…

Greek_goddess_Iris · Answer

Since I'm female, I can't answer, but came straight to the comments to see the answers LOL.

Anonymous · Answer

We're designed to give them lustful intentions so they mate and reproduce.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yes but lust is a necessary component of capitalism and we're just doing our part for the economy...

noohair · Answer

No, this is the male caveman brain at work and this is why humans were so successful. One issue is that young men are not learning to be gentlemen.

Anonymous · Answer

That's pretty much the vast majority of women I see. I never see a women and think immediately about the sexual possibilities.

Anonymous · Answer

As much as a woman can ever just love a man without trying to change, exploit, or manipulate him?

QuestionObsession · Answer

Can women ever admire a guy just for his good nature instead of for how he looks or how much money he has?

fivebyfour · Answer

Yes the more I like the lady as a person the fewer lustful thoughts I have,,,

soe11 · Answer

The answer of your question is yes.

Shy_Steve · Answer

That’s like asking if you’d ever want a guy to sleep with you who isn’t confident, successful, or attractive.

Caughtulookin · Answer

You mean a completely celibate couple until death do you part?

Ariesman81 · Answer

Nope. And how dare you expect me to control myself.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

More often than not, at my age. Particularly with the meds I'm taking.

qwerty2469 · Answer

All the time. Beautiful woman are to look at. Every guy under 8/10 looks is lustful of the 6's most girls we ignore. Especially the pretty ones

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve tried but unfortunately that’s resulted in me getting slapped in the face or kicked in the balls.

onedarkcloud · Answer

LOL Everyone knows that guys think of girls with their LITTLE BRAIN!

Twalli · Answer

I've seen plenty of women I find beautiful without any ideas about how they look naked.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Pretty sure women would view the same as either a guy they find hot

Passerby2 · Answer

Yes but she has to be beautiful she can't just be hot enough to get your rocks off

Anonymous · Answer

Without lustful intentions, of course. Without lustful thoughts, not usually.

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