Not necessarily. I mean I had known many beautiful women who always had struggled to date or have boyfriend or seeing guys and they are still single or continue to be single. Physical beauty not always is an advantage and they may had the worst of luck ever in dating, seeing guys or even just for hook ups could be a issue for beautiful women therefore many peopleget surprised or shocked when a gorgeous woman say "Well Im single, and Im not dating or seeing anyone" But then some men are even bold to ask "Ok, you are not dating, you are single, but are you getting laid at least, you are no virgin right? I mean as if getting laid or have sex just like that must be a requirement for single, not taken pretty women who does not want to date but they are beautiful.
I’ll say it how it is. Being good looking and being a women is a curse. Good looking women are only there for guys to hook up with at least in a mans eyes. Most good looking women do have simps chasing them and fuckboys too. You won’t ever find the majority of men trying to connect with women on a personal level. Not in this day and age. Because most men just wanna fuck. Women get showered with attention by the fuckboys and simps and as a result they never improve and find a good quality man. A high quality man on the other hand is not showered with attention and will improve. Also I don’t think this question is fair coming from a gender that doesn't approach as much as men do. A women would do the same damn thing and not approach whilst making assumptions that he is taken. It’s easy to make such questions when you are not the ones approaching as much as men do. How do I know? Because I would ask the same question if I was a women 🤣. With hookups on the rise why would any sane person not think that the good looking person hasn’t been laid or taken. Men understand how trash men can be. So why wouldn’t they think that some girl that is pretty hasn’t been used up as a cumdumpster 💀? It’s only logical to think like that. And as a result of all of this dating is dying. Most men are just going with hookups because they are that desperate. They don’t wanna sit there and connect when they could just fuck. And as mentioned before, most women are getting simps on their knees for them making them think they are a 10 when they really aren’t. Most women will use this ego boost to their advantage to get all slutty. They fail to become a high quality female to get that high quality man. They will then commit to the fuckboy who uses them. And then we have the vicious cycle that begins when those same women come on this site and blame men for being trash and how they can’t trust men 🤦🏻. Or even the classic question “do all men just want sex?” 🤣 I’ve seen this shit so many times it’s getting way too repetitive. The worst part is most of these women deny it. Who is to blame here? The men or the women.
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I've seen this for myself. I happen to know some female friends who were high flyers and successful in their working careers who were unable to find a good husband, so ended up being single (for years). It also happens much in the entertainment industry with say actresses, because people equate them as not just beautiful, but actually high maintenance. And that's probably the bit that scares guys the most. No guy is going to approach her if he doesn’t have the financial means to support her.
Then you have things at the other end of the scale. Those who are beautiful and married and…are deeply unhappy with their marriage. I once had a friend who was like this whom I’d known since college. She had gotten on and got married and had kids and was unhappy with her life and ended up almost on the brink of suicide. Because a) her husband was out most of the time working b) expected her just to be a housewife to cook/look after the kids c) didn’t really look after her feelings properly and d) she was living in a remote city far away from her previous social circle of friends in another part of the country. She just wanted someone to talk to, to have an outlet to share her grief and frustration - so I entertained it for a while, being her ‘emotional support rock’ if you will by writing to her my messages of support to try to help basically raise her morale. This went on and off for about 2 years. Other than being a supportive friend, I had no other inclination towards her.
I’m considered pretty. I do get a lot of guys hitting on me but I am seldom seriously interested. I would rather be single than with someone I am not really that into. People call me picky but I just know exactly what I want.
I think I’m in the minority though in my social circles- a lot of my pretty friends are happily dating and some of them are rarely single. I don’t think it’s necessarily to do with looks; it’s to do with how picky you are as to how often you’re in a relationship.
And to answer your question, I think men assume this because they think women have it really easy in dating, and even more so attractive women. So they think there’s no reason for them to ever be single.
People assume whatever, can't really change that but that's okay if someone assumes someone is taken and they never make a move. Their loss, they'll never know... even if she is taken, could potentially be a great friend who might have a single friend too that she could set you up with.
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That isn't an assumption, it's fact. The vast majority of very attractive women I've known or met throughout my life really were taken or really did have a lot of guys after them. And even the ones who were single were still sleeping with someone for their needs. Which really is a truth about women most people don't think about or don't want to: just because a woman is claiming to be single doesn't mean she's still not having sex with someone, which many really are doing.
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I think many guys are intimidated by women who are very attractive and they like having an excuse - the assumption that she is taken - for not trying to approach her.
Big mistake. Assuming.
Because IN GENERAL, that is the case. Just because it *may* not apply to you, doesn't mean it doesn't apply to the rest.
Okay here is the thing. The reality is, yes these pretty women DO have a lot of admirerers and suitors. If not in real life (which I find highly unlikely), then most definitely online. The most "irrelevant", yet.
Saying "well it's all assumptions and is not always like that" is just stating the obvious and downplaying what we all know. Yes, it is not always the case, but like I said, IN GENERAL, that is the case. Whenever I see a pretty girl outside or in the gym, I already assume she got at the very least a bunch of dudes she is ignoring in her DMs. So I'm not going to be one of the sheep to boost her ego more (not that I should anyway, because I'm in a relationship). That's what has become of society with all this social media.
Also, saying that (pretty) women cannot find any suitors. The reality is they can, only they think they are unlucky. Why? Because the men that THEY WANT don't want them back. These often are the men who have their pick in women. While the majority of men don't. It is far easier for a woman to find a guy than it is the way around. Especially online. So when I hear women say they find it hard to get into a relationship, I always say "look in your friendzone"
I recommend watching this video.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/5u13_Bdw5eYBecause most women today are more delusional on the men they want. Thanks to all the dating apps and social media such as Instagram, facebook etc. You get hundreds of dudes message you but you ignore them because you were brainwashed by the feminist movement that it's always greener in the outside.
this is why I always broke up with my exes because they expected more and I'm not going to change for anyone. Women are never happy for what they have and it's true. No wonder there so many single mothers today and so many divorced women initiating 70% of all divorces. Many women will probably end up single for the rest of their life's because they could never find that prince charming they wanted. The man never showed up. For god sakes I'm seeing so many single 40 year old women on dating apps it's so ridiculous. These are women today and it's sad. Before we never heard that. That was not the case back in the day. Most people were in a relationship or married back when social media didn't exist. Also don't come up with the myth that because women are free and financially independent. That has nothing to do with it. You can live by yourself with roommates or own you're own apartment and still make a relationship work. women who are single are single by choice not by force. There's a huge difference there.
How would you feel if you had your hopes up, only to have them all taken away in one fell swoop? Maybe she's the one? Hell, I would give her the world if I could... but nope she's already taken, or she's not interested. I'd be pretty devastated. It's easier just to engage in everyday activities that I know I'll get pleasure from. My record collection (or whatever hobby you have) will never reject or dismiss me. The days go by... weeks... months... years. I sit in my basement and spin my favourite records. I work and I spin records. I would love to have a partner. Someone who understands me and accepts me. Everything is a risk though. My last partner was verbally abusive and she laid waste to my finances. How do I find someone who's right for me? How do I even approach someone? I mean I can start a conversation with someone no problem. I can make friends. But that's all it ever amounts to. Sometimes I feel like it's just too much of an effort. Sigh, I think I'll put another record on.
Because it’s true. Younger women today who are pretty or beautiful or gorgeous know it and they use it to their advantage. I’m not hating. But I’m not sure why guys have the moniker as fuck boys for shooting their shot at girls. When girls seek validation on social media it’s extremely easy to get DM’s or get courted in public. And in todays era — girls have these types of relationship statuses “it’s complicated”, so if she’s in a toxic relationship or “open” relationship she’ll never commit because well “I just want some fun”.
80%+ of the answer I get from young women today on GAG about marriage or relationships is “fuck marriage” or “fuck relationships”, 100000000000000% goes towards my career and friends and that’s it. I think young women today look at relationships or especially marriage as a death sentence, something to dread. That’s why I don’t care about asking out girls, they come off as bitchy, mean, off putting, selfish, not loyal, not committing. Welcome to 2022 this is the reason. But one day people will realize the dishonesty of companies, the broken promises from universities, the manipulation of politicians we continue to vote for, the world will wake up to what’s the truth.
Right now we live in a materialistic, self centred, let’s cancel that person or this person, narcissistic, hateful, misguided world. Trying to live life vicariously and aimlessly with no real faith and turning to outlets that worsen our life, not better it. In the whole scope of my answer this is why guys and men are hesitant to approach women or girls in general and that’s the cold hard facts, I don’t care if a girl reads this and gives my comment a thumbs down…Go ahead, my life isn’t based on likes.
It’s fairly common for girls who are really good looking to actually be single or have long dry spells.
There always seems to be an assumption that good looking means lots of action.
Just because a girl is really good looking does not mean she sleeps around, has had a lot of previous partners.
Some really want to hold out for someone they are compatible with, others may be focusing on career and getting their lives sorted first.
Never assume anything, nothing wrong with chatting to her and just being nice without hitting on her.
There are plenty girls out there who are really good looking but shy, feel a bit socially awkward etc.
Because it's easy for us to assume and reason to think that majority of the women out there who are 9/10s or even a solid 11.
I mean, don't women think handsome guys are taken 99% of the time? The reason we think so as well is because we think it's easier to believe. You see, as men, we aren't generally perceived as the more attractive sex because that's how human biology works, unfortunately. So think of it as a sort of coping mechanism of our's. It's easy to tell ourselves "she's probably taken" instead of something like "she's way out of our league."
And that's not the only reason we think all pretty women are taken either. Most of us guys, even if the girl isn't taken, will go around telling us that they're taken or they're seeing someone, even if they aren't, because they don't want to say no to a guy.I used to know a lady over 15 years ago, who was divorced and very beautiful. She struggled because she thought after she got divorced, she would have no problem finding men to date. It didn't work out that way for her. I don't know if men were too intimidated by her or what. On the other hand, I didn't date her either but that's because I didn't see any common interests. She did sadly end up dying by suicide but I think she was bipolar and swung towards depression. Very sad indeed. Every time I run into someone I know who knew her, we talk about how neat of a lady she was.
In the context of meeting and speaking to ANY female. A male in today's world has to be careful. I have seen men asked to leave a bar/club simply because a female complained they were bothering them. This dynamic is also true on the grounds of a college or major University. AND in the workplace! I know several men that were expelled from school without a chance to even defend themselves. In this context, many men will not risk being told to leave and will simply ignore that female. Not long ago I saw a young man be asked to leave by the bartender simply because he said "hello" to a female and she made a face at the bartender. I am not saying this is the case 100% of the time. I am saying men are slowly starting to learn to avoid them. As much as I hate it, this is why more and more people both male and female have turned to dating sites on the internet!
damn, good question.
when i see a beautiful girl, i think "no guy is dumb enough to leave her single, she's probably taken already."
i don't put too much thought before i come to that conclusion, but when you think about it, it makes sense, well at least in my perspective; she undoubtedly has a close guy (or just a regular but acquainted) friend or two in the least, with one of them who has a liking towards her. he's got a higher chance compared to all of us strangers out here (except Chris hemmingsworth ig).
i guess it has something to do with courage though? you know, "no harm in trying at least."
Because it is the truth. Just because a woman doesn't count the guys she doesn't want, in no way does that imply there are not dozens to hundreds of guys she meets that would love to have her. Because she can't get the one guy out of hundred that she wants, all pretty girls say, "No guy wants me" when all she has to is snap her fingers and a dozen guys will come running.
Even is she is nasty rude evil bitch, there never has been any such thing as a pretty girl that doesn't have guys interested in her.
Woman like this love to use men for free validation among other things, after awhile men adapt.. Personally I just stopped caring. I show apathy to most women unless they approach me, personally I don't see a problem with this seeing as we're all equal now. Not sure what's going on these days but seems to me like who cares the least wins. I'd never invest my heart & soul in someone that treats it like some game.. This has happened to the point where I don't care anymore.
#actions/consequences :p
Well, TBH, they usually (but not always) are in relationships. Or maybe some guys don't want to compete with lots of other guys. Or they know that many hot women are shallow or have impossible standards.
That said, if you interested in a woman, you should talk to her, because you never know.
Because more often than not it's true. A truly attractive, in-demand woman definitely has admirers. And if she's single, it's most likely by choice. If an attractive woman says she's struggled with getting a boyfriend, it's more likely because the guys she's been dating haven't met her standards than the other way around. If she can't even get a date, it's because of the vibe she's putting out.
I agree.. But logically with a woman that is closer to the conventional standard, it's probably safer for men to assume she is accounted for than not.. But, you're right the truth is a surprisingly number of attractive women do have trouble dating.. And guys today just don't go up to women like we used to..
It's a sound assumption. The woman you described is going to draw attention at a much higher rate than your average woman. It's not a matter of if she has admirers, it's an absolute given. Someone like that is completely off the table for all but the pinnacle of men, or perhaps all men if she's not interested in any kind of relationship. She can have exactly who she wants. There's no reason to assume I'd be that or that she doesn't have it already.
I think it´s kind of mixture of gossip and self experience. Gossip because it´s told everywhere that beautiful women get more male attention especially on dating apps.
But it´s sometimes also self-experience because either in school or college later there were girls all guys talked about and there were girls few talked about.
To be fair it doesn´t work for all beautiful women but the chance that they are taken or get more than enough male attention is higher.
They could ask the guys out...
Ooor just pick one of the guys that does go after them, cause there absolutely no women under the age of 40 that are on a dating site with zero men in their dms.
Sorry but picky women holding out for the perfect man or think they are above asking a man out cause it's " the man's job" aren't a concern to me.
There is no reason for a women to be single if she dosent want to be.
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