Why do guys assume beautiful women are all taken?

[shannon21]

Some of them are single as guys are intimidated or assume they'll get shot down. If you never try how will you know?

I've seen guys look at some women like their aliens, when there human too. You can say hi lol. Why is it they looked startled too and there mouth opens a bit, are guys amazed by a womans beauty?

I reckon average looking girls have it easier as guys aren't afraid of them and will be themselves around them. With hot women a loud chatty guy becomes stoked and stumbles on his words.

I find it cute if guys are like that but I hate that a guy says she's out of my league. That's bs in my opinion. We all have a lot to offer even if we aren't oil paintings.

You'll find most hot ladies date ugly men. Ones who are insecure anyway.

I generally have a straight face day to day. Guys who are attracted to me say to smile and I find it irritating. What if I've had a bad day lol. I guess a guy loves a girls smile.

I'm single an I've dated jerks. Only one was hot. An the others were ugly, but I went for personality. A guy who made me laugh. I don't want a perfect guy. I do like looking at handsome men, but they usually don't have a good warm heart or the right intention. I like middle guys, a bit handsome, funny, nice smile, caring etc. That matters more. How they treat me.

[Theguyoverthere]

The thing is, when a guy does talk to a woman who really is taken, some boyfriends can go insane and get ridiculously adamant and even threaten violence. As sad as it sounds, I've talked to some girls who gave me their number and when I'd text (no intentions or anything), I've gotten threatening calls from an angry boyfriend that I had to calm down. Other guys have very similar stories.

The other thing is that some guys view "beautiful women" as tough relationship potential in the sense that they just don't want to have to worry about whether or not their girlfriend is getting hit on a lot. Some girls have mentioned the frequency of how often they get hit on and it sounds like trouble. I've even talked to girls who even have bosses that hit on them consistently. Who really wants to date a girl and get serious knowing they work at a job that has a boss trying to sleep with them constantly?

I don't see girls who date ugly men as insecure either. That's like saying that guys who date fat girls are insecure, some people actually don't care about appearance that much and some also just want companionship.

I've had a girl tell me I had to smile too. I saw her point but it is not in my nature, but many people are attracted to optimistic personalities, smiling's only one aspect of optimism.

You may base things on personality, it's just that each person factors in different aspects of dating that they find important. For me, sexual attraction is important in different ways and appearance definitely has an impact on that. Many girls say they "don't want to be seen as meat" and as a guy who makes an effort to keep fit, I can relate to it every time a fat girl messages my dating profile/ad.

[shannon21]

Yeah ok. So because a guys afraid to lose her to someone else. That's silly really

[lifesavor77]

Because most guys are not confident. if you are beautiful and you think a guy is cute and you see him staring at you maybe sometimes it just takes the girl to say hello. because most guys would look at a beautiful girl and think that they are not good enough or they will think you are already into someone. its really hard.

[shannon21]

Yeah I see your point

[Slimart]

yea..well you're young and attractive..why should you be right..it doesn't have to deal with the fact that there's some crazy bitches like me out there, trappin guys with our looks but once they get close enough..They soon realize how "beautiful" we are actually..

Lol..This is all a joke

[shannon21]

Whaaatt lol

[Slimart]

lol...

[melissa2]

Probably because if a girl is attractive she has more guys after her, and the guy probably worries that some guy more attractive than him got to her first.

[Agrojag]

Oftentimes, in my experience, they are. The few who weren't that I approached rejected me. I think you're the exception more than the norm. Another factor is that attractive women are assumed to be approached more oftfn so there's a mathematical probabikity she's unavailable. Many times average guys with good personalities are locked in the friendzone. There are many logical reasons most guys won't approach attractive women. Like you said that attractive guys have bad personalities, the same is true for beautiful women. There are many reasons -- all of which have some basis in fact.

[Gegalix]

Most young women are shallow. Actually most young people are shallow, but young girls tend to be extra picky. They also gravitate towards jerks; you even admitted that you've dated jerks!

[shannon21]

Yeah but I didn't know they was until I got to know them. I like a nice guy atm. I approached. Gave my number. He asked me out hours after but I was busy. Tried rescheduling but he's been so busy so I'm stuck. Also went to see him fri at work to make sure he knows I'm interested. He said he would call. Hasn't yet

[Gegalix]

Also, take things slow. Men and Women are both attracted to people who are calm and collected, as opposed to people who are spontaneous and unreliable. Sure, spontaneous people are fun AT FIRST, but eventually, they get aggravating and they can ruin your life.

[shannon21]

I'm calm. I just hate unreliable guys

[anyonomousperson]

Hey @shannon21 can I give you some advice? From my experience as a guy when dating women it's really intimidating when I barely know them and things start off as a date. With the romantic tone dates have, getting to know each other is colored by trying to impress each other and prove worth.

If you start things off more casually, like as a friendship, then there isn't nearly as much romantic pressure and everyone can be themselves. Once your comfortable to be yourselves around each other THEN move to dating. Might make the guys more comfortable if you get to know them as friends first and get to the point where you two can joke around each other and open up about intimate stories and deep talks

[Distant]

In my experience, nearly all of the beautiful women I've met in person are in a relationship. I don't assume they're taken. In fact, I assume the opposite until I'm told otherwise. Even so, 9.5/10 times she has a boyfriend.

[shannon21]

Hmm ok

[DianaWest]

well, I've never been in a relationship. guess i'm probably ugly af then. everyone's been lying to me.

[Prilee1992]

Yeah because most guys DO REJECTED themselves first before even approaching the girls (GIRLS REJECT THEM FAST). However, the fact is women appreciate someone who are ballsy (not cocky&arrogant) enough and come over and show interests.

[shacodraco]

Honestly I always assume beautiful girls are single unless I see a ring. And it's usually true a lot of the time.

[shannon21]

Yeah ok

[steven5678]

Guys say''they are out of our league'' cause it is true.MOST young attractive women early 20s' and before that don't date ugly guys or average looking guys.MOST only date good looking guys.Just because you are different from MOST attractive young women doesn't mean most attractive women will date ugly and average looking men.Look around, you know it is not true what you said.There are average looking and below average looking guys that get shot down constantly when asking out attractive women.That's why they don't bother anymore.Also, many attractive women say they feel annoyed when average or ugly guys approach them.Many of them also say''Average and ugly guys should stay in their own league.''

[shannon21]

The leagues are stupid! Yeah some not all! Are you the guy who gets shot down. Ranting away lol

[steven5678]

It is not some it is MOST.Like 98%.You are one of the 2%.No I am not that guy who gets shot down.I am not going to waste my time asking attractive women out.I will only ask her out or approach her if she gives me a hint.I am just saying what other guys have experienced.

[shannon21]

You can't say 98 % when you don't know all women.

[TouglyforaGF]

This I agree with 100%. He's right attractive women would rather hit a rusty nail than date someone who wasn't attractive.

[shannon21]

Oh hello touglyforagf. If you say so

[steven5678]

I said LIKE 98% of young attractive women.I was guessing the percentage of YOUNG attractive women.It is somewhere in the 90s though.Once again I said MOST attractive women not all.What don't you understand about that? Proof, look around.When you see an attractive young woman on a date with a guy MOST of the time the guy is good looking.FACT.I am not talking about attractive older women in their mid to late twenties I am talking about the ones that are in their early 20s and before that.

[shannon21]

Well you believe that and I'll stick to what I said! Ok :) an don't question my understanding I'm a smart girl thank you very much. Clearly I'm sensing aggression or something from your side.

[shannon21]

Maybe due to your lack of luck

[steven5678]

Listen, just look around.Look at many young attractive women.How do most of the guys that they are on dates with look like? Come back and tell me when you figure it out.

[shannon21]

Don't tell me figure it out. Nothing to figure out.think what you want but don't try change what I think k

[Werenotsure]

If we’re being honest In my experience not all attractive girls are that bad some are but not all I think is like an age thing immaturity and just people that think that they are better than one another no one can can do anything about the way they look it’s not about looks ladies and gentlemen it’s about attitude it’s about the work you wanna put in if they are a jerk move on it’s not that serious don’t lose your confidence because they are “out of your league” who cares if u get shot down just be cool about it don’t get mad or say things u shouldn’t just be cool and move on to the next person it’s never that serious

[noesbueno]

Eh. I've run into the problem that women who are single want nothing to do with me and that taken women love to flirt but that's it. Nobody wants me. I've approached over nine hundred women and have been rejected every time. Out of fourteen years of searching, I've had four dates, three of whom used me for food and had someone, while one we just didn't click. Honestly for me it is just taxing to approach now, too many rejections have taken a toll on my self esteem

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't know but we do.. After reading your post I'm confident to approach women now

[shannon21]

That's what I like to hear

[rocksongwriter]

"I'm single an I've dated jerks. Only one was hot. An the others were ugly, but I went for personality."

So you went for their personality even though they're jerks?

[Thatguy321]

I like your insight (:

[shannon21]

:) thanks

[meditate]

it is the other way around dear. most men think all good looking chicks are taken so nobody makes a move.

[shannon21]

That's what I said

[TheOneTurv]

besides some guys having lack of confidence this scale is 99% of the time true from my experience:

Hotter the girl = More drama that comes with her

[shannon21]

Not necessarily. Guys put them on a pedestal

[TheOneTurv]

yeah ik but MOST of the time

[shannon21]

Hmm no