Why do men assume that just because a woman is very pretty, they are either taken or have many admirers? (Page 2)
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Some guys might fear that if they're that hot not only will they have many admirers, but that they might be more likely to cheat. They might assume that guys are constantly flirting with her & he couldn't ever measure up to all of them. So he starts to feel like he has no chance of keeping her even if she agrees to go out with him.
May guys make the mistake of thinking top-tier-looking women are always taken, presuming many guys approach these gals.
Talking to talk-tier-looking women myself... you'll be surprised how little they get approached by men! Sadly, the few with the guts to approach these gals, are usually guys that aren't looking for serious relationships.
I have been an Patrol Officer for over 20yrs and its true most beautiful woman are usually taken and its always very hard for them to date or to pick one because a lot of men have approached them especially if they're blessed with intimidating sexy looks.
Because predators prey on the most beautiful. It's just a fact of life. So genetically attractive females will probably be taken by the age of 12 or 13. 15 at the very latest. Then after that it's just a matter of whether they're currently with someone or "between boyfriends."
(Note: By "predators," I don't necessarily mean rapists. Just guys looking to get laid.)
Because men have self confidence issues and it usually manifests in the form of
"She's too good for me and anyone who is better than me would be crazy not to have picked her up already so I've got not shot."
You also have to take into consideration that guys think girls that look like that are out of their league. Lots of us suffer from the lack of self-confidence to not having the guts to go up and ask someone out
1. Not all men do this.
2. The 80s ended a long time ago.
3. Today's men assume all pretty women have a cell phone full of simps and 2 and 3 ex's that she's still "best friends with" - which... sadly practically all pretty women under 30 have today.
4. Not worth the effort.
cuz the vast majority of pretty women are taken or get hit on constantly, what you describe is very rare ime. They will say they have a hard time getting a boyfriend or guys won't hit on them but there’s usually some major detail or character flaw of theirs that they’re leaving out.
Because men are men, we know how we operate and we know how other men operate similarly, we have a thing with low self confidence and hate competition, if she’s outta our league we are going to assume she’s either of the market or just that out of our league to assume she’d never pick us, doesn’t matter if she would want us our preconceived mentality will lead us to walk away unfortunately, we’ve grown tired of having to fight for something we may not even get, different world different approach
I found this teson a while back on a blog. Since then, I do not ever take their beauty into consideration.
But this behavior will take a bit of a time to get habituated with as I thought like other guys before that.
Work in progress.
Knowing some exceptions doesn't change the accuracy of the general assumption.
Most good looking women are not single for long. But most guys who are interested in her will at least ask about her status from someone who'd know.
I know many pretty ladies who had been single for a long time and it is difficult for them for guys to have interest in them or dont ask her out and the ones who may had ask her out is for ulterior motives.
@kitty71
Pretty girls tend to know they have a lot of admirers, its just that refuse to take the initiative to ask any of them out. I've been a very pretty girl once upon a time in my life, even though I never had any guys ask me out. I can easily see with the expressions on their faces that they were very impressed with what they saw or even shocked by my looks (in a good way). I used to turn heads (and trust me, I notice it). I've seen strangers on the streets tell me I'm beautiful. I've seen job interviewers melt and get all nervous when they saw me.
But having good looks is a very temporary thing in life. Enjoy it while you have it.
@kitty71
I used to have guys ranging from police officers to married men to delivery boys stare at me so stunned they were unable to move. Trust me, if you're really pretty. You would know.
Well because the prettier a person is, that person will usually have more opportunities to get with others as more people are attracted to them.
From what I have observed, by puberty most boys are attracted to pretty girls.
Boys don't. Men do. Because they focus on women who are slightly older and it is mostly correct for assume they are not single. To find a really beautiful or attractive woman being single is in fact an outside chance.
That probably get that opinion because the make-up of society and media, TV etc make it seem that a pretty woman is bound to have men after her and never want for male companionship due to her looks.
A "beautiful" woman who is "single" is so by choice. Her "difficulty" in dating stems from her wildly unrealistic expectations of a man.
In that case the same would apply to men...
@Subarugirl yes exactly
@Birdlegs Agreed.
@Subarugirl ok how? Explain
"Physical beauty not always is an advantage ". This is complete gibberish. Physically attractive people will always have significant advantages over unattractive people.
@Subarugirl Physical beauty has always been an advantage. And it is a known fact within Psychology. You can stop spreading dumb misinformation.
Logic. Men admire beauty. So a beautiful girl mostly will be taken or certainly admired by many.
e. g. A PhD scientist will have 1/10th the social media followers than a beautiful hot looking school dropout.
Dating in an of itself right now is a miserable experience. Pursuing overly attractive women just seems like a waste of time.
Sounds like shallow dudes. A lot of pretty women are pretty shallow as well though. Like some of these dating sites, their demands can be outright funny as hell. Like, good luck with all that...
Even the ugliest woman has a far greatest greater advantage in dating than the average man.
Yup so true. I have a female friend who is not attractive at all and she is dating like 3 different dudes a week and yet she still has like 2- or 3 different dudes who she sleeps with a week. She tells me all this stuff. It's mind blowing and I'm pretty much saddened on how desperate guys are. I even saw her tinder profile and she has over 500 matches. Imagine the girls who are just average like a 5 or 6 in looks?
Plus my female friend I would puke if I see her naked. Yeah it's that bad. Not trying to mean or anything I'm just stating reality.
When I used to work for a big clinic in my town. The majority of the gender with stds were women which is crazy to think about. Thinking that men were the ones who had all the sex but the reality is that women are the ones who have more sex then men. It's very true. You can look at the stats on who is more likely to develop an std and it will tell you the gender.
100% correct. I've seen it way too many times in real life and it is a known fact within online dating as well. Men are generally more desperate and also less picky.