Why do I get hurt when one person or some others don’t like me or interact with me? Do people not like autistic people?

[Anonymous]

I know I'm unlikable to neurotypical people and I never understood why. I am autistic. Im sweet, hardworking, nurturing and so and so. I can be repetitive, bossy and according to some people annoying and rude. Also overreact. People say hi when I say good morning. The thing is they don’t talk to me. This one girl doesn’t talk to me. She quickly moves away when I say hi and talks to my three coworkers that I work with. When I talk she gives me a “I don’t like you” or annoyed look. She would walk out of the room when I talk. People usually like me and I thought people will like me because I’m “special”. I overheard her say working with autistic kids she can handle but being around an autistic adult and employee, is about things. She thinks she’s so special and all that. She’s insufferable, annoying, rude and I’m very uncomfortable around her.”
That broke my heart. I’m usually someone people like and all but why does it bother me when me or someone doesn’t like me. In high school, this one girl that I thought she was so sweet and so cool, I found out she didn’t like me. Most people like her and she’s honest, beautiful and it hurts that she ignores me. I wanted to be her friend but I said something inappropriate and my chances of being her friend was DONE. She was rude, ignored me and even my sped friends said I took it too far. I was joking and didn’t mean anything.

[Ask105]

You may have a disability but don’t let that effect your self esteem or self worth women can be really mean to each-other regardless (i once had a girl tell me that not everyone going to like you) and i thought of it today hiking hours alone on a mountain do most people like me yes im a stand up guy those that don’t it can really effect me then i think what she told me , as you get older people can be really mean to people they don’t understand i went to school with quote on quote special people and i loved them and was friends with them nearly everyone and even tho i have a memory issues and im completely normal i have very small autistic traits being I usually can only learn what i like means i wasn’t passing all my classes and sometimes excel in things i like but i was in normal classes and some extra help classes and always told my so called normal friends to shut up because you’re not that smart for being mean to someone

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re not unlikable because you’re autistic. You’re unlikable because you’re too pushy in trying to get people to like you.

[Asker]

How am I pushy?

[Asker]

I am very likable

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You clearly struggle to recognize common social boundaries, this is a result of the autism but you can gain an awareness with more time understanding other people’s points of view

[Asker]

I do respect boundaries!! I do my job, work with kids and makes sure things are decent. Some people say I ignore kids and I rub them the wrong way. Some of my coworkers don’t talk to me anymore. What’s up? Nobody appreciates me and some kids prefer other other teachers over me. It hurt when one kid refused to do something with me like play a game in music and says yes to another teacher. Why would someone say no to me! I was told in the past kids will like me because of my good nature and kindness.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

This is exactly what I’m talking about. I understand being sensitive to rejection as someone who’s also on the autism spectrum, but you’re so caught up in your own head and your own feelings you can’t understand why people might not like you. Depending on who you ask, you exhibit what’s commonly known as a “victim mentality.”

[Asker]

You’re right I don’t understand why people don’t like me. I am a very likable person and sweet! Why aren’t people appreciating me? 😤😤😤
Im sick of being ignored. Most kids aren’t so fond of me even though I’m so sweet. One of my coworkers said I try to always take over and I need to back off a bit. Okay rude

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe you should listen to them. You just very rudely refused to listen to me

[Asker]

I’m not rude! I’ll sick of being disliked! I’m sick of being ignored and even when I kindly say good morning, I get ignored.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yeah, because you’re rude in how you refuse to acknowledge other people. You might have a form of narcissism alongside your autism at this rate.

[Asker]

You’re rude to autistic people.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Only because you were rude first

[Asker]

😤😤

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

That’s the part you don’t get. All of the stuff you’re getting is reactionary to your actions. You are the reason why these people don’t like you.

[Anonymous]

Only you can know that.

[Asker]

What’s that supposed to mean?

[Anonymous]

What did u say that was inappropriate?

[Asker]

It was inappropriate that she was really hurt and shouted at me

[Opinion Owner]

Im confused did she say something to you or the other way around?