Did my girlfriend of 1 year use her work trip as a way to create distance for a future breakup or am I overthinking?

[Anonymous]

She went on a film shoot for work for 2 weeks and she warned me that she might not be able to be in touch much as it will be intense and all day. I texted her something nice halfway through and she responded to say sorry she hasn’t been in touch much it’s really intense and she’ll need to hibernate when she’s back.

She got back and it was radio silence so I messaged and we had a brief chat where she basically said she’s exhausted and has stuff to catch up on so won’t be able to come to an event with me a few days after she got back as originally planned. She said she had a lot of fun on the trip though and she got a bit ill and it was stressful but they all bonded so well and it was the best film experience she’s had.

To be fair its only been a few days so I do think its just me being anxious and overthinking. My gut instinct says I just need to trust her and give her space so that’s what I plan to do.

You’re overthinking

There’s an issue - expect a breakup soon

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Do you have reason to believe she would want to break up with you, aside from her needing space? Like a recent fight or something?

[Asker]

Nothing, things are great. And knowing her I think if she had an issue, she’d bring it up. And we always said we both prefer that

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Do you just need external validation to comfort yourself?

[Asker]

Yes to relieve my uncertainty and anxiety. I bet all the guys here will say she’s about to break up with me though.

[Asker]

And I guess there’s something in the back of my head which keeps fearing it

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Address the anxiety with a therapist, otherwise she won’t dump you

[Asker]

Thanks. It is unusual for her though to not talk to me like this. Like she hasn’t acknowledged my latest messages or asked about me.

[Asker]

Interesting how there’s a clear gender split in the answers

[Ariesman81]

As long as you believe she's not getting her back blown out for an OF film... you should be good👍🏻

[Asker]

Interesting how there’s a clear gender split in the answers

[Ariesman81]

Yeah, ones really good at deception, while the other actually wants to see you succeed

[Asker]

How do you mean?

[Ariesman81]

Trust your gut