Should I surprise visit my long distance girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

So i met this girl online about 3 months ago and we instantly clicked. We started dating after few weeks of knowing each other. 1.5 month ago she fell sick and had a surgery. She has been hospitalized ever since. I wanted to visit her and even stay closer for some time so i could support her but she didn't want me to see her in such bad shape so i agreed with her. Our relationship is still going strong and I'm support her by being there whenever she needs to talk. She has been feeling down lately. I was wondering if i should surprise visit her. We have never met before so i was wondering if you guys can give your opinion on this idea.

GO MEET HER

NO LET HER GET BETTER

Updates

+1 y

Just an update on situation guys😊 I'm here with her at hospital. She was overjoyed to see me here and i'm going to take her out on a date even tho she'll be on wheelchair.

[Valkyriecain]

I would love if someone did this for me, but she might not necessarily like it. You're the only one who can properly know the answer to this because you're the one who knows her and knows your relationship. If you think she's genuinely deadly serious about you not seeing her unwell, then she could be hurt and angry that you disrespected her wishes. On the other hand, she could be thrilled to see you. I know I would be.

[Asker]

Nah she is not like that. She won't mad for something like this. She might say that i should've waited but she'll be happy af

[Valkyriecain]

Then you know what you want to do! Go for it!

[TrixiePooch]

Some questions before I answer since it is one of those on line relationships. Have you ever talked to her on the phone or have you actually seen her on Skype or FaceTalk, or Facebook videochat? I mean how do you know this person is not...

[Asker]

Yes we video call everyday after i come home from work

[asman100]

Go man she just doesn't want to be a burden. Be with her she'll love u being there plus itll be great for her health. Would love to see how this turns out.

[Asker]

I agree with you on that. Yes I'm planning to visit her within next 2 days.

[Browneye57]

Online? You can't 'meet someone online'. Consider this isn't really a relationship. When she's healthy consider actually DATING.

[Asker]

Yes, i understand where you're coming from. I was thinking about relocating to her city by October even before i 'met her online'. So yeah i will consider actual dating too😊

[Izumiblu]

Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. You should do it and let us know how it goes.

[Asker]

Um disaster in what way?

[Izumiblu]

You should tell her before you just randomly show up.

[TrixiePooch]

What if she has had a bad week or is having a bad period. I would not enjoy someone springing a surprise on me under those circumstances.

[Asker]

It wasn't a disaster 😊 everything worked out well. She was extremely happy to see me there and i took her out as well 😊

[Izumiblu]

Good for you!

[ChronicThinker]

I don't think so, if she's not expecting you, she can't accommodate you.

[Asker]

Well im not going to live there. Im just thinking of going to her hospital in morning and coming back home at night

[witherwing]

Why does this sound like a textbook catfish story to me?

[Asker]

We vid call and send stuff to each other all the time

[Anonymous]

Go meet her, but keep in the back of your mind, it may not turn out as planned.

[Asker]

Umm we video call and send each other gifts all the time. I'm just worried that she might not like that i ruined our first meeting plans.

[Opinion Owner]

OK! Here it is. Turn up there, but get someone to tell her you are there and will SHE see you!

[Asker]

I have to take a flight to get there and go to her hospital so it'll be weird if i used this trick n she said no😐

[Opinion Owner]

That is what I meant about not working out as planned.

[Asker]

Hmm i understand. I'll think about it.

[Opinion Owner]

So happy for you!

[ImagineSketchy]

Don't surprise visit. Make it known. You don't know what she may have going on and you will show up and she's gone elsewhere.
Personally I don't like when my friends show up unannounced.

[Jemini_Crocket]

I'd say meet her. I don't think it would have any reason to end up badly.

[Asker]

No it won't end up badly. Im sure of it. She won't be mad or anything. She'll be happy instead that im sure about

[BoneslikeGlass]

Man you're old as fuck! 118? I wish I could live that long xD anyway, yes go meet her :P

[kauzd]

It's important to respect her wishes but if she's like any other girl I know she will love that you thought enough about her to come see her.

[cth96190]

Never surprise anyone, especially someone who lives far away.
Chances are, you will find her with Harley MacBadBoy, or Chad Thundercock.

[Kayla45]

It's thoughtful you want to go meet her, however she may not be ready.

[Finchie40]

No make sure you call her first so I can make sure I am not there lol

[bea95]

Maybe yoi should respect her opinion. I mean, meeting for the fiirst time is always something special, and if she does not feel like it right now, just because her condition, maybe you should wait. :)

[Asker]

Yes i understand that'swhy im trying to respect her decision but she has been feeling down lately and there's literally no one that is around her most of the time except nurses n doctors

[debi2622]

I think it is a great idea!!! Take flowers!

[Asker]

Yes im thinking about it

[debi2622]

Glad you did it, and sounds like she is too! So awesome!!!

[melissahere]

RUN TOWARDS HER, AS FAST AS YOU CAN! GO!

[Asker]

I want to and i can. I just have to take 1 hour flight. I'm just worried that she might not like that i dropped by without her knowing anything and ruined plans for our first meeting.

[melissahere]

NOPE! GO, JUST GO!

[melissahere]

You can still make it just as special. Bring flowers. My LDR boyfriend never brings me flowers and I wish he did lmao.

[Asker]

I guess you're right. I'll take a lot of flowers for her

[melissahere]

Sorry, I'll be serious. I know you two may have had specific plans, but that doesn't mean it can't still work out some ways you had it planned. If you had places you wanted to go visit or see then you can still do that! I think she'll be over the moon happy that you came unexpectedly, no matter what plans you may have had. I wouldn't worry about that and if she is mad, she doesn't deserve you.

[Asker]

Hmm😐 i kinda agree with you. We can do all that stuff later and this can be our special story😊
Thanks for your input on this. You're a nice person

[melissahere]

Ahhh I'm so happy you visited her! How is it?

[Asker]

It was great meeting her. We went out on a date. She couldn't stop her happy tears and she loved that i came all the way for her

[melissahere]

AHHH I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!

[weebirl]

I think she's just shy. If you do end up surprising her be in supportive mode and show her how much you care about her! Good luck!

[Asker]

Yes thats what im planning to do😊

[x_hannah_x]

Awww that would be so cute

[Asker]

I want to and i can. I just have to take 1 hour flight. I'm just worried that she might not like that i dropped by without her knowing anything and ruined plans for our first meeting.

[debi2622]

It is nice that you are thoughtful about that. But, the most important thing is making her feel better, and what other way to do that then showing up. Yeah, she might be embarrassed because she is not looking her best or something. But what a great first meet story. The goal is to cheer her up.

[Asker]

Yes, i just want her happy and i think this will make her happiest 😐

[x_hannah_x]

She's lucky

[Asker]

I just wish she likes me visiting her

[x_hannah_x]

She will love it any girl would be lucky to have someone who cares

[Asker]

Thank you hannah😊 i'm gonna book a flight and skip work tomorrow.

[x_hannah_x]

No problem😊

[YHL6965]

Surprise visits are a bad idea, don't just pop out of nowhere, at least tell her you're coming.

[HornetsFanAllDay]

meet her with good intentions and hope all goes well

[Zachary1]

I would say do it dude, it would show her you really care.

[Asker]

Hmm yeah i think so too. Thank you

[Snaah]

You've never met? I don't want to be cruel, but are you sure she's not Greg, 58 years old?

[Asker]

We video call everyday😊