Leave her alone. You've hurt her enough. You REALLY hurt her. Why do you want to go back into her life and rip open wounds that are starting to heal? If it's taken you this long to realize she is so special, then be a little considerate. Cheating is unforgivable. It hurts someone for life. Don't go after her, move on with your life and give the girl some peace. It'll only hurt her if you bring your face back around. Trust me. I cried every time my ex tried to contact me but I was too weak to tell him to go the hell away. Part of me liked it, but I knew I should tell him to go away, I just couldn't, because I cared about him. It was incredibly painful, stressful, and not worth it. I've cut off complete contact. Don't bring those negative feelings back into her life. I found someone new, and now I don't think about my ex. Ever. I'm glad... I used to torment myself every day wondering why he left me. He made me insecure when we hung out together since the breakup. I was constantly wondering what I did wrong. It drove me crazy.
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YOU HURT HER. leave her alone. She deserves someone nicer and better. you screwed up and made up your bed, so lie in it, Hope it feels like cement. Stop playing with girls hearts, guys like you are the reason why us nice guys never get a chance. grow up dude, life isn't a mini game of LIFE where everything is make believe and you can get everything you want instantly. You screwed up. Leave her alone. she deserves better and can do way better. But for next time, maybe try to care just a little bit. Maybe realize that your females have something called a heart... maybe you should get one too.
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I don't think you have to never contact her ever again, I just don't think you should come running up to her all out of nowhere, like LIVE and in the flesh. Call her first, or if you can't call her, send her a card with your contact info, and if she wants to see you, go for it. And if not... well, not much you can do but respect her wishes. Also, if you go that route, be prepared for her to sit on it for a while- you may not hear back right away. She may need time to digest. Feel me?
No! No surprise visits. There's nothing wrong with trying to reconnect with her, but give her a warning in advance and the chance to say she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. What if she has a new boyfriend, and you just show up, and he's over there and he sees you and it causes problems for her or something? Message her on Facebook, or text her or something to test the waters before you go see her.
Please don't, I was in a similar situation. I took him back had and after some time dating he hurt me and broke my heart again. I was just a door mat. Please let her move on, and take what you have learned to another relationship (hopefully a more successful one!).
NO you are using her. Like yeah you like her now but you know she was always there waiting for you while you did your stuff out there. You didn't realize what you had, now you want her. That's selfish. I hope she has moved on and if I were her and you ever showed up randomly, I wouldn't take a second look. Newsflash the grass isn't always greener on the other side.. Just saying. Let this be a lesson for you.
Don't do it. Best to just forget about her and move on. You broke her heart but she would have healed by now, if you surprise visit her it'll reopen that wound.
No she is probably oved on by now, and you stopping by will only bring back old feelings and pain you left her with,
call her up, text her, or fb her
she might be busy, not at home, maybe even with a new boyfriend if you just randomly stop byDon't surprise her, it is the worst possible thing you can do right now. If you ring the bell she will think you're stalking her or couldn't find any other girl to be in a relationship with. She won't feel special. What you could do is give her a text saying how she has been or "accidentally" meet her on the streets when you hang out in her neighborhood. All the best.
Calling or texting might be a better option. Imagine if she lives with her new boyfriend, or is sick or whatever... make a contact before.
Don't! Just .. don't.
Don't. Do. That.
text her..
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