I have very attractive female friends. Is that going to make potential girlfriends insecure?

[MrGreatMan]

I was told “yes” and that it’s going to be harder now because women wouldn’t ever feel secure with me being so close to a woman like that.

They then asked how I’d feel if a woman was very close friends with some hunk of a man?

[loveslongnails]

And when asked about the situation in reverse, what was your answer?

This has always been a very easy question for me. The new girlfriend, or potential new girlfriend, doesn't get to tell me who I "can" be friends with, who I "should" be friends with, or who I "shouldn't" be friends with. She would never make it girlfriend status if she tried to do that, or if I discovered that she had a problem because my female friends were good looking.

My high school sweetheart was and is a stunner. She's the one who turns heads everywhere she goes without dressing up. Women "hate her" until they know what a great woman she is. We've remained close friends for over 20 years. She's been married and divorced, currently single, and still drop dead gorgeous. If a new girlfriend were to tell me I am supposed to drop a 20+ year friendship with a woman I will always love as my friend, because it made her worried, or she thought it was inappropriate, she'd be out the door before her next heart beat.

Any kind of jealousy like that or attempt to control you is a HUGE red flag and is based on deeply rooted insecurity and fears of abandonment. Whoever she is, she's not worth putting yourself through that. It's just the tip of the iceberg.

NEVER give up your true friends in life because some romantic interest can't handle your former relationships. NEVER do that.

[drummerdude25]

This almost sounds like a “social status” type of issue or situation. I could see maybe if the girl you date didn’t feel “part of the group” or like she compared, she could feel insecure about it.

I don't know, kind of a tough thing… I guess use your best judgement and guesstimate how a potential S. O. would assimilate to your friend group. Does she fit in? Is she a jealous type? Would (or DO) your friends develop jealousy if you’re seeing another woman?

Some things to consider for sure…

[Beckybooboo]

When I first started having serious relationships it did, it also bothered him if I had attractive guy friends within my friend circle but wear I am now, it has not been an issue. I mean, we both work with attractive people but chose each other.

[DishLady]

Realistically, yes most likely. Not for nothing, but most people are insecure to begin e with and if you’re surrounding yourself with a bunch of bombshells a gal isn’t likely to feel special.

[MrGreatMan]

I understand, but I’m not just willing to throw my good friends away. It’s hard to find a good friendship these days.

[DishLady]

🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[Miristheiss]

If you expect to get serious and have a committed relationship withe one woman the chances you hanging out alone with other girls alone and sharing intimate info with them then you will have problems

Be SINGLE or be COMMITTED to one person.

Being in a relationship has BENEFITS but it also has duties.

If you expect to keeping acting single... a lot of girls will not be up for that.

[Twodogs0525]

I never had what I considered close female friends, just girls I knew through a friend and some I would talk to when I was out. Early on in a relationship, I learned not to spend a lot of time talking to them if I saw them but later on in the relationship, it wasn't a problem.

[RavVid]

That they are friends with you is an unwritten recommendation in your favor. If you could have, you probably would have had sex with your attractive female friends. Presume these friends will be friendly with your chosen girl and be welcoming to her.

I think it is more likely to be a plus.

[YTuber417]

Typically, the answer is yes - I mean, if your girl was around Brad Pitt looking guys how would you feel about that? A lot of it comes down to a person's integrity, but the problem is that if you fuck up, she'll or you may have a back up option.

Personally, I don't care if she has male friends before we met (unless there's a questionable past between them), but new ones might be an issue unless it's for work or something.

[Jupiter1]

I ended up with one of my hot female friends and the rest of rest of the hotties support our marriage. The guys hate me because they claim that I have not made efforts to get the other hotties to pair up with them. I tried but there simply wasn’t enough attraction or spark between them to make it happen. Am I really supposed to take any blame for that?

[DeeDeeDeVour]

You succeeded where they failed.

Their loss.

Your win.

Big win.

[Jupiter1]

Thanks Dee ❤️

[EzraIsShy76028]

In general it probably shouldn't as long as you make it clear as day that she's the only one for you and the others are just 100% platonic friends.

[abc3643]

This is a good question and I was going to create a somewhat similar question about young people with a gorgeous parent, but I held off.

[LongLiveBillGates]

Who gives a fuck. If they get insecure about you having friends they're not worth having as a girlfriend.

[exitseven]

my wife was very jealous of the female friends I had before we got married.

[MJVillarama]

Not if you’re transparent and respectful. Insecurity usually comes from secrecy or emotional distance, not just having attractive friends.

[AviatorTom]

Some will be insecure. Those aren't the ones you want a long-term relationship with.

[Twalli]

It might. It could also make her very happy. You chose her, and you have friends that are very attractive. So, despite the option of hot people who you knew well, you still chose her. It could go either way.

[MemeSupreme]

it definitely can

i think it just depends on them and how you handle it

[katiesmuff]

Don 't know the situation, but my guess would be YES

[Curmudgeon]

i suggest you introduce your date to them. Have her befriend them and vice versa, ideally.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

It shouldn't, and the person should know if any of you liked each other like that, you wouldn't be friends

[Staximus]

Just don't hang out alone with another girl if you want your relationship to last

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yes, since plain broads are often jealous of babes.

[blackeagle007]

Depends on your partner. Some get jealous easily, some don’t

[dragoblack]

Yep, but that makes it easier to weed out the insecure and emotionally immature ones

[40andabellygoingon]

Dude it’s 2025 everything makes everyone uncomfortable and offended

[Unycorn]

Yes. I guess more than 50 %

[beenherebefore]

That can be an issue for some girlfriends.

[WonderingManII]

I never had that problem.

[LiamJHayden]

In some cases it will.

[Bloodparadise]

No..

Sisters before misters! 😊

[Evsisa]

Yeah.