My long-distance boyfriend cried in my arms—was it just emotions and did I respond right?

[Anonymous]

I know my boyfriend for 5 months now, and we're on a distance relationship. Before he asked me out and officalized things we had 4 dates, from morning to night as we don't meet that often. The last 2 dates were in a diff city and he invited me to go to a concert with his friends. I am from Spain, he is from Italy.

So it's the 1st day, the day of the concert, i came, we met, he got us the hotel ( two different rooms, he paid for both of us, he did everything right ). After the concert, i gave him the gifts i got him, we kissed, we hugged. I went back to my room, we planned to meet next morning. I got us the tickets for a museum he wanted to go, the whole day we visited the city, it was good, couple vibes, without being official yet.

So the night we go back to the hotel, he comes inside of my room, huggs me and it's at that moment that he confessed and said that he wants to make things official, meet my family and all. I agreed of course. So next day, it's the 3rd and last day ( from Friday - Sunday ) and we should leave.

He stayed in my room the night, we didn't do anything, just slept so we walk up together, got ready and we went to eat. We walked a bit, and went to a park. In the park he said how he enjoyed everyhting, that he is glad i accepted to go to the concert, that it felt amazing. And hugged me.

We were laying on the grass, and i felt tears falling on my cheeks. I looked up and saw him in tears, crying. I asked him straight away what was the issue, what happened, he said " it's nothing, just, i thought about you going back". I wanted to reassure him, so i hugged him, told him that i'll always be there for him, that he's so sweet. But deep down I'm not sure why he cried. It was the first time i saw him crying like a baby in my arms, it felt really nice, but i hope i reacted in the right way at that moment.

Was it emotions? What was that? Why would you as a guy cry in the arms of a girl?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I was 36 when I had my first LDR, our first meeting lasted for about a week, return trip was a 1000km one. At the first kilometre back I was already crying. I cried because I wasn't sure we would meet again, the fact that we met was already a miracle to me, I didn't think there would be a second meeting. I cried because this relationship set a precedent in my love life, it gave me hope and uncertainties at the same time, it collided within me. And tears came, naturally.

I don't know your boyfriend, his life story, his personality, but I know that emotions can hit hard. Some choose to contain them, some don't even feel them anymore, and some choose to go with the flow.

[NathanDavis]

you must have really really long arms...

[Screenwriter]

He might be an emotional guy. They exist. LD relationships are intrinsically difficult. If you can't see each other regularly and date regularly, your relationship will have a difficult time moving forward.

Do you want to put your relationship life on hold until you see each other again if it's few and far between?

Be realistic. Maybe that's why he was crying.

[Asker]

I don't see what is the link in here between him getting emotional and the relationship not moving forward. He is literally going to meet my parents and me his, what's the problem?

[Screenwriter]

I get that you're both going to meet each other's parents... But how often will you be able to realistically see each other, parent meetings notwithstanding? Maybe I'm off about the why of his crying... So be that. It's nice he wants the families to know you two are dating. But how regularly will you be able to be with each other? That's all I'm talking about.

[exitseven]

Guys cry sometimes. I wonder if he was just as surprised as you were..

[Asker]

He apologized for his emotions and it made me really sad. Even afterwards he brought it up a few times. Told him it was just sweet and natural.

[exitseven]

This happened to me once a long time ago. All of a suddenly I started to cry. I had no idea I was going to do that.

[whosnumber_1]

Yeah definitely some big emotions there and it's nice that you feel concerned enough to query it. What you should go is follow up with him on our and let him know you hope you were supportive.

[Alex-Snow]

It was emotions and he sounds like a great guy who did not push you into sex right away. Crying is ok and it means something.

[Jeff51]

He just might be emotional guy. You only spend a few dates with him. Ask him more questions. He should eventually open up.

[In_Trance]

You posted this twice

[Asker]

Read correctly, it's not the same

[In_Trance]

You can alter the wording however you want... It's the same thing

[realbiggrin]

Maybe she didn't get it answered to her satisfaction and is trying again. What do you are if she has asked it already?

[In_Trance]

@realbiggrin you're telling me she didn't get the answer she wanted so just minutes later she posts the question worded differently one more time in a different category and anonymously?

This is probably the most retarded comment you've ever made

[Asker]

I think you need a treatment ASAP. You’re a danger to yourself and others…