Do women ever come around?

[Anonymous]

Me and this girl have been going well for 6 months and it's great but she tells me she don't want a formal relationship right now.. I asked if that's forever or what she said she don't know what tomorrow holds but right now she likes how we are she don't want so eying where she has to give p rights and demands while she's in school and working.. I said but yo could come to me in 2months and say I want you to be mine she said right! No one knows.. What I want to know is will she ever want anything more or no.. She loves me and cares for me so much she said..

[Southerngal10]

Maybe maybe not. I'm starting to be the same way. Just got out of a relationship with a guy that I really loved and cared about. And before him I was in few other failed relationships. So now I'm to the point where I'm just tired of it. I feel I need to get my life in order and reevaluate things before I commit myself to another man. I can only get my heart broken but so many times before I lose hope. That being said there are guys who would want to be with me. And that's not to say I truly wouldn't want to be with them... but id just need time. Maybe her situation is different, maybe its the same. School and work are important and are the only stable things that she can honestly depend on. I say if you care enough, wait. Last thing you want to have her end up doing is making a half hearted decision and have y'alls relationship go down the drain

[Asker]

She got out of a 10 year relationship and it was bad so she has been hurt really bad and I understand that. She needs time to herself and get things situated I never asked to be her boyfriend but to know if maybe one day it could happen would be nice but she says she don't know she let's things flow she don't like to plan when were going to date or if we are..

[pj411985]

maybe, maybe not. If she's in school, she needs to focus on her education. It's difficult to balance between school and work, in addition, to new/potential relatiosnhip on top of that. You need to be patient with her. Understand and respect her decisions. In the meantime, just enjoy the time you two have and spend together.

[parkmonky]

hmm women are so confusing. I say back off for a little. Let her initiate the converstions. If you stop talking to her but she keeps talking to you.. then she likes you.

Or you could just have another conversation with her and tell her what you want from her.

What you're doing is thinking of the little details and giving yourself hope that she'll come around. Maybe she will, but if she doesn't the more you think about/talk to her, the harder it will be to get over her...

[Phoenix1991]

Well hear me out bro, if she doesn't want a relationship and doesn't feel like putting in the effort, I say walk. I say walk out and move on. I know its hard to do, but if you tried 6 months and she doesn't want a relationship or even a fling type of thing, I say move on. Don't waste your time, She doesn't seem cooperative or even considering your feelings/desires. Which is fine, but you don't need to waste any more time and effort on her, I say ON TO THE NEXT ONE! =D

[ImALuvrNotAFighter]

If she's unwilling to commit after six months, you're wasting your time with her. If she were really interested in you, she would want to commit to you by now, regardless of her obligations at work and school.

[Missionoftri]

I agree. If she hasn't commited yet then she isn't interested. I myself am guilty of using this excuse to lead men on. Keeping them in my life with no intention of progressing the relationship or using them as a backup plan. Don't become plan b. Move on with your life and get a girl who is able to give you the satisfying relationship you deserve.