Why girls don't put as much effort in me, when I put effort in them?

[Anonymous]

Somebody told me that all you needed to get a girl was to put effort in them, make the first move, be chatty, fun, show interest and what not, but I have realized that girls rarely put the same effort as I do if any at all.

[Yriuqni]

That somebody forgot to tell you that all this ONLY work with that special girl that is meant to be yours :) .. it will not work with anyone except her .. so wait for her! Don't lose hope if some weird girls don't get your message .. they most probably are not worth it ! Trust me .. when you ll meet the perfect one, it will be more than obvious .. you will feel it , as much as she will feel it :) .. you will complete each other trust me .. and no I am not one of those cheesy teenage girls :D .. I am 21 and I was a very cold person and never believed in all this until I met my guy .. I tried what you tried with many guys and no one appreciated ... EVER! good luck

[sweey_mamy]

Ok.. Girls are kinda weird... they like to fight for what they have, I think you are a nince guy. :) and you can make girls put as much effort as you want, but firs you have to give a little less effort. You can't be the only one putting effort into your relationship. You have to give just enough effort to keep her with you, but not too much that she would wanna go away? didn't get it? write a comment with your question... XOXO.

[Anonymous]

I was or still am liking this dude, I couldn't tell at the time but looking back he did everything that would show he's interested. My guards and thinking "oh he probably says that other girls" didn't allow me to open up. I wish I put more effort, but I also don't want to come off as pushy. I played it cool, but maybe too cool.. now I don't think he's interested "/ ..just be patient with her don't give up.

[Anonymous]

you don't go to the girl you make them come to you. I kinda get where your coming from about being nice and talking etc but your setting yourself up as a friend not a love interest. girls I find tend to be the most interested when they are chasing you.

[Asker]

how do you do that, when they expect you to chase them?

[Opinion Owner]

haha well its easier said then done I have friend zoned my self a lot and try and learn from it each time. EXAMPLE: I bet when you first meet a girl your nice to her right? I found it works better if you tease them, the reason? girls are more social and want people to like them in this situation your giving off the vibe your not interested so she would come to you and start doing things to prove she is worth your time.

[Moloch]

Because they're not into you. You gotta find the right girls. Remember this: The majority of the women you meet will not be interested in you. If a girl really likes you, she WILL put at least some effort in getting to know you.

[upood]

Maybe they're shy or they think they're above your level. It's not you, its the girls you're putting effort into. A little mystery is also good, don't shower them with affection ALL the time

[cookiemonsterlove21]

What you have heris a girl who might not like you. If you are friends or just met her. she wants to getto know you. Girls like someone for their personalty. and play this game... its when she actslike she doesn't like you just so you like her more.. simple as that

[Anonymous]

What girls are you putting effort into? The girls that are hotter, smarter, more outgoing than you? If you're only ever reaching up, you can't really blame them for not stooping down. Try going for women like you.

[answermethis20]

Depends on the girl and if she's into you or not, if she is she'll put in some effort. Or she might not be trying because she's probably just not feelin it! Especially how picky people are now a days

[Anonymous]

Depends on the girl, I always do about 50-50 about those. Things

[moviedude714]

yeah tell me about it