If I'm such a good catch, why am I single? Guys, help me out.

[Anonymous]

I've been told I am a good catch... A great catch even. I'm intelligent. Guys say I am attractive, have a great body (though I don't show off due to the cold weather) and an awesome personality. But for some reason, I am still single. Even when a guy does show interest in me, it doesn't last long. It's starting to affect my confidence and self-esteem. Could there be something wrong with me or have all the guys I've been interested in since the age of 13 (about 6 or 7) are bad picks?

[MrOracle]

The most likely reason is that you aren't letting these guys know that YOU are interested in THEM. When they start giving you attention, it means they like you, but are looking for you to give them some signs that you like them back. Most guys, especially young guys, are afraid of being rejected by girls, so they only ask out girls who give them lots of clear, positive signs that she's also interested.

If you're just hanging back waiting for them to ask you out, you're probably not giving them much reassurance that you're into them, so they decide not to risk it, and move on to other girls who give them better responses.

[danceislife080]

I have this problem too -- the whole being such a great catch and yet I find myself single. So I get a guy, and he seems very keen on me. But when I start to show interest back it fizzles. Why do guys do that?

[MrOracle]

@danceislife080 Likely because the guy in question simply isn't looking for a relationship - with ANYONE. He may want some casual sex, but if he senses that you aren't likely to offer that - with no strings attached - he'll move on because he doesn't want to be tied down.

Being a great catch is only relevant to guys who are looking for a relationship - the guys looking to "catch" a relationship partner. It's irrelevant to the guys who just want to get laid.

[Yuriy]

There is a legend which foretells that some beautiful women may be single because us guys are to scared to ask them out, or may think they are not good enough ( definitely a yes for me, but I'm trying to change the way I think). I don't think this is true just because there are to many players that go after them. If you don't mind me asking how long have you been single for? There are women out there that always seem to need to have a boyfriend, and may not be giving themselfs a time to grow on their own.

[sfauo]

There are plenty of great people out there in the world who are in the same position as you, wondering the same thing. Live your life, don't dwell on why you're single, focus on what makes you happy and not what bothers you. The right guy is out there, your paths just haven't crossed yet.

[Mesonfielde]

They might not know you're single (and if they ask that's an obvious sign of approach), or don't even see a chance that you'd even be remotely attracted to them(, or some just don't find you attractive, but that's most likely not all of them).

Establish connection, and *then* they might show interest. That's what I think.

[Spirit156]

Im a great guy and om still single myself.. nothing wrong with me

Im sure there's nothing wrong with being single.. You just haven't met the one yet.. Period

[6Paul11]

Be more realisitic in your expectations. Have a little humility and stop expecting things to happen. Maybe you aren't as great of a catch as you think.

[Asker]

I actually don't think I am a great catch. I feel like I'm just a regular chic. Nothin special. Like I stated in the question, I've "been told" that I am a great/good catch. Maybe I shouldve reworded by saying "if I am a great catch that like everyone *thinks* I am, then why am I single?"