Found used condom, proof of cheating?

Okay. First the facts:
1. There's a condom in his trash.
2. He lives with roommates. His roommates could have had sex, disposed of it where ever and forgot about it.
3. The trust in the relationship is obviously shaken.
4. He's being "defensive". "Evidence" aside - if I was innocent and my girl friend accused me of cheating I would be appalled. I would see that my girl friend doesn't really trust me at all and she thinks I'm some really "easy play toy".
5. You two were on a break. A break usually constitutes being able to have a fling. I'm not sure why this is so important nor why the word "cheat" is being brought up by others.
While it's quite obvious he probably slept with someone on the break. It *was* a break and shouldn't be thought of cheating by any selection of thought unless this is void of the rules of the break. I perfectly understand why he would be "defensive" (See reasons 4 and 5). He still probably did it but there's no real proof and unless there was rules to the break that veto him sleeping with another it's best to forget and just move on.
Him being defensive like tells me all you need to know.
However...i will say that the fact that yall were on a "break" when this happens demonstrates why "breaks" in relationships are bullsh*t.
Either be 100% together (and not see other ppl), or be 100% apart (and see other ppl).
He probably thought it was OK to have sex with another girl because yall are on a break from each other. I can't fault him on his actions (but I will fault him for lying about it).
1. If it is his he didn't cheat. You two were not together at the time.
2. Its possible that it could have been one of the room mates, girls carry condoms too you know
3. You've accussed him of "cheating" of course he's going to get defensive.
No matter who's condom it is the trust is gone for both of you. You obviously don't trust him and he knows it which can be hard to recover from
Maybe it was his and maybe it wasn't - who knows? Only he can answer that question and if he doesn't want you to know then he won't be honest about it. By not using any protection you are putting yourself at risk (that privilege is for married couples) of diseases and infections some of which are incurable. The truth of the matter is that you can never soley trust someone.
I believe it's his, as I don't see why he should be threatening you to break up with you, if he knows you trust him he shouldn't have to make these kinds of threats.
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There is a used condom in HIS trash.
He can't explain it.
His friends can't explain it.
He's getting defensive and upset at you trying to get you to drop it...
So not only did he likely cheat on you but he has no problem lying to your face making YOU look like the bad guy.
This guy has got some serious balls. I'm actually quite impressed.
3 reasons
1) its his and isn't man enough to admit it
2) its his roommates and they are setting him up out of jealousy and not admiting to it
3) someone no one knows broke in to the room and did it and had sex etc
Maybe it was a prank. A very stupid one, but who knows.
Anyway, if you were broken up, it wasn't cheating.
I agree
He slept with someone. He's becoming overly defensive because you caught him and now he's trying to avert the problem by turning it around on you and making you think he'll break up with you.
I think he's lying and agree with pretty much everything SixStringSeal said
Well either one of his roomies hates him or he is a cheater and a liar(maybe not so much of a cheater if it was during the break-up time but still bad)
" even though they always prank each other."
Nuff said.
I think he cheated on you!
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