How do guys deal with bitchy, bossy, mean girls?

[shesaladyround2]

I've recently asked another question on here and got quite a few nasty answers from girls.

Now already as a girl I'm completely put off by them but I wonder how guys deal with it, since there seems to be more and more girls who act like that. Are there really guys who would like to be in a relationship with such a girl?

[jdcpa]

If contact with them is not NECESSARY, then just don't deal with them. People often forget that as a member of society, you're only as powerful as your social network. The more society shuts you off, the less power you hold in society. So, if she gives me a reason to shut her off, I will. I will avoid the added expense (time and money) of dealing with a problematic high conflict risk person like her, and she will lose the opportunity to deal with a low cost and low conflict risk person like me. It's her net loss at the end of the day.

Now, if contact with her is NECESSARY, as a man, I have to deal with her in "slightly" sub-male standards. Men need to understand that it's never okay (legally) to get physical with an other man as a means of resolving conflict. However, when the other person is the aggressor, the law of self-defense kicks in, and for as long as the other person maintains his (or her) initial aggressor status, the other person will be criminally liable for assault, civilly liable for battery (and assault), and I'm good to go. So, if the initial aggressor really wants to empower me to beat the living sh*t out of him (or her) or pepper spray or stun gun him (or her) into a crying coma - in the name of self-defense of course - he (or she) is more than welcome to attempt to resolve the conflict that way. The only difference if she's a woman? Chances are she'll weigh less than 220lbs., so use of my body is probably off limits (but pepper spray and stun guns aren't, especially if I have witnesses seeing how violent she's being with me, and if I've repeatedly asked her to stop).

Now, the way it should be dealt with is through what the French call "savior vivre." Instead of telling her to "go f*ck herself" or insulting her (i.e., falling for her bait and allowing myself to look like a bad person, lose my good standing with my co-workers, lose my respect and credibility), I will just continue to troll and bait her into doing that exact thing herself. However, my trolling and baiting will, on its face, seem like a good faith and genuine attempt to peacefully and fairly resolve the issue. The point is to make her seem unreasonable, angry, uncooperative, and like someone the whole company will no longer want to NECESSARILY maintain contact with. It's much better if she starts playing dirtier. The contest is NOT who can play dirtier. The game is won by the person who can make the other person go crazy, while appearing like an angel and leaving no signs of culpability. (as an aside, this is why juries give very lenient punishments to men in domestic violence cases, especially in the black community, and especially if one or more women are on the jury).

Moral of the story is, "savior vivre" is the ability to tell someone to "go f*ck themselves with a cactus" in such a way that he or she is looking forward to the experience.

: )

[AllDay]

Love this question! However I don't really know what you're fully asking.

I try not to deal with them and surround myself with good people but as time goes on tist becomes more and more difficult =/

There will always be that mean girl in everyone's group of friends so the best thing I can do is be myself and not let her get to me or let her walk over me.

I have had means girls walk all over me and that's not good feeling so I can relate to how someone would feel.

I'm not here to lecture her on what's right or wrong (I'm not better than anyone else anyways) but if she comes to me asking a question. Then I will answer it to best of my ability.

I can only speak for myself so I can assure any girl/guy, I would almost never go out with this type of girl.

I have had girls like this hit on me but I denied them. I don't think I would like a girl like because we would be too different. I'm a nice gentleman but if I went out with a girl who is bossy and mean then I think that would be too great of a difference.

Why do I think guys go out with this type of girl?

Some guys like a girl who tells them what to do.

Some guys don't think they can get another girl.

And I agree with the female users on here.

"The hotter the girl. The more they put up with."

I am guilty of this but try to avoid this at all costs.

Good Luck!

[AllDay]

Sweet!

Thanks =)

[shesaladyround2]

thank YOU! :)

[AllDay]

Friends help each other out ha ha

thanks again!

[KissMEinTHErain]

To be honest the only few reasons why I think guys are in that sort of relationship is because they don't believe they could do any better. Maybe they are just as immature as the females that act like this? maybe because they don't like the thought of change, changing from being in a relationship, to being single? Or it could all come down to sex, sex is maybe that good that they are actualy willing to put up with it? at the end of it all, it is all about immaturity, despit what sort of issues that are in a relationship, if one or both parties are not happy ? we be together.. that's my thoughts.

[shesaladyround2]

hmm yea I think you're right. it could be sex. or maybe some guys really like to be bossed around. I know I couldn't be with a guy who enjoys that. it'd never work out lol

[KissMEinTHErain]

lol, I've been in a few real bad, crazy twisted relaitionships and I was actualy one of these bitchy controling, nasty girls. only because I was bored and jealous. my boyfriend at the time only stayed with me because (the sex was good lol) plus I he enjoyed the fact that one min I wanted him, the next min I didnt.. Everybody wants what they can't have, as soon as he thought he was going to lose me, he did everything I wanted. its all a massive mind game, munipulaition if you may lol

[shesaladyround2]

i see :)

[Anonymous]

They generally love it, but only if she's hot. It makes a hot girl hotter to them, if they think she's hard to please. The hotter she is, the more they put up with.

[shesaladyround2]

you might be right...what a pity

[Opinion Owner]

You'll see dumb girls who do this too. Keep dating a cheater because they're convinced "it's love" and you can't do anything about "your feelings."

[shesaladyround2]

yea it has happened to me before...

[aMuse]

ha! You're delusional hun... They are just using them for sex.

[kheserthorpe]

It makes her hotter because they don't feel bad using her in bed.

[Opinion Owner]

Guys wish. Hot, bitchy chicks always have a line of guys eager to wife them.

[kholland65]

I used to just avoid them but now I tell them off to their face. I'll be very blunt about how I feel about them. I'll tell them they are a bitch and to f*** off. It puts them in their place because bitchy girls are used to thinking they are queens and can get or tell people to do whatever they want. They're the female version of a bully. Standing up to them usually shuts them up.

No I do not like dating them by any means. The only guys that I think like dating them are the douche bag player types. Players like the challenge of trying to control such a volatile girl. Most guys however, have no patience for a girl who is a bitch. They'll tell her to take a hike, because guys don't like being bossed around by women. It's not conducive to our masculine egos.

Frankly some people just enjoy the fighting and banter. I dated a girl I met online for about 2 months who seemed really cool at first then turned in a total bitch. She fought with me about anything and everything. Eventually I just told her I was done with her BS, that she was a bitch, and to leave me the f*** alone. She previously had dated one of those abusive, douche bag guys, and so I could tell she was one of those girls who loved the excitement of a fight. There are people who there who just like to fight and banter with others because it excites them. Even if its about petty things, like which way you put the toilet paper on.

[OpenClose]

Either I just avoid them, or I focus on keeping a level head around them.

Also, if they think they're such hot stuff, I make sure to act almost "actively indifferent" towards their appearance. This freaks some girls out. (but...I'm HOT! Why is he not bending?)

Appearance doesn't necessarily improve your perception of someone, it mostly amplifies it. An arrogant girl who is hot becomes obnoxiously arrogant.

You may find that guys sleep with these girls, but rarely commit to any kind of relationship with them. In other words, it's not making love, and it isn't out of respect, so you don't have to worry about these girls being considered "more lovable" or anything of the sort.

But the fun part for me is the indifference and keeping a level head. If I get in an argument with one of these girls, instead of getting all worked up about the issue, I basically make an approach like "you're so silly". In that way, she gets all worked up, and I keep a level head and a strong position in the argument.

Basically, when people show you disrespect and impatience, it's a good opportunity to manipulate it against them, almost like a mirror. You watch as they disassemble themselves from their own ignorance.

And the best part? It doesn't really work on patient, respectable people.

[OpenClose]

On the "lovable" point. It's interesting, because the guys who sleep with these girls usually don't have much respect for women, in the same way these women have little respect for anyone else. Yet we consider these people "on top of the sexual food chain".

It's an interesting irony: We look up to those who are mentally towards the bottom of society.

[krisdaschwab912]

If I could, I'd cover them in gas and set them on fire. In particular, there's this one girl who would bitch at me for EVERYTHING. We disagree on a lot of things. She's a Vikings fan; I root for the Packers. She's conservative, whereas I'm what would be considered "socialist" by American standards.She listens to what I consider sh*tty music. Fine. But when we lived in the dorms, she went out of her way to confront me just for the sake of arguing. One day, I had enough and told her to f*** off and that I was tired of her bullsh*t. I haven't had any run-ins with her since.

[Electric_Boogaloo]

I'd prefer to be with a Stronger woman, she practicly boss me around if you think of it like that. But only to me though, I'd be pretty put off if she was a bitch to everyone.

For girls who are bitchy and I'm not intrested, I just ignore them.

[shesaladyround2]

interesting..

[Electric_Boogaloo]

I can explain why I'd prefer it, I'd know that I was wanted. That I was hers, kinda like a possesion.

[shesaladyround2]

being bossy shows you she wants you? you mean when she tells you to do this and that? I'd feel used but that really is interesting. when I want a guy I'm all over him and I can't get my hands off him lol it's like muah muah muah muah muah m?ah muah muah! :P

[Electric_Boogaloo]

Yeah you could say I'm used, I'd not be fussed if I wasn't with a superior woman, or infact one that shows their affection alot. I know for a fact I'd like if a girl couldn't get her hands off him :)

[DeepBlue]

My normal personality is very relaxed and chill but I don't respond well to nasty and aggressive behavior and I can give as good as I take. I don't need someone in my face constantly over a bunch of bullsh*t. She can find some doormat to bitch at and go nuts. Not for me.

[7gnat]

Chech out tha answer by Chanen on a previous post of mine she insisted that money was a quality of a person. Now check out this post-she somehow got lucky and found my next question lol- link I listed qualities for her and she still thinks that a mans big bank account is a quality and she has insulted my age calling me old ( I am 36)sincerity

unfeigned

wholehearted

honest

heartfelt

hearty

humility

personal intergrity

incorruptibility

sound (judgement)

whole

courtesy

civility

wisdom

charity

empathy

sympathy

compassion

altruism

magnanimus-I am not sure how anybody besides her and the mod Kheserthorpe think money is a qaulity in a human being but I guess being stubborn goes both ways but wow this girl is nasty

[aMuse]

I just give them lip and put them in their place. =P They change their tune and chase me after I do that usually, but there's no way in hell I'd give them the light of day. Me ignoring them, leads to them wanting me more... Those bitchy, bossy, mean girls want a bad boy to be dominate over them... They are a total waste of time and energy... They are some of the most predictable, most easily manipulated, messed up girls on the planet.

[shesaladyround2]

i agree that they're messed up and I know most girls want a dominant guy. I just alwways thought that bad boys go after bad girls. they don't seem to like nice girls

[aMuse]

Well, as I said those mean girls are very easy to manipulate. If you are a "bad boy" that just wants to f*** and chuck girls, then those mean girls are such insecure wrecks that you can take advantage of them all day long. They think they have power over the relationship because they are being bitchy, but all the guy is thinking is "I'm going to hit this piece of ass until I get bored and then move on to the next one". Those girls are just for sex, and nothing else.

[aMuse]

Until they clean up who they are as a person, and start treating people better, then they are not going to get a confident man who actually wants them for them and will commit. They will just keep coming back to GaG after being used wondering why "all guys" just want sex. =P

[shesaladyround2]

i see. if I go back to a guy even though he treats me bad but I'm not a bitchy girl, does that mean I'm simply stupid?

[shesaladyround2]

i'm nice to all people, even beggars and prostitutes...i know that what he did was not nice and my friends all hate him but somehow I still think he's good :(

[aMuse]

I'd say maybe you need more experience to gain better judgement as to whom are really the confident men that are worth while vs the cocky men that just want to get laid. You're young, and can't expect to have all the answers yet. Just learn to set your own boundaries and respect yourself. Constantly running back to someone that is always a jerk to you, doesn't show self respect.

[shesaladyround2]

i know for a fact that he just wants sex, and I know he has like 20 new female friends on fb every week. I'm virgin and he knows that. I've only met him one night and kissed him. (I sucked at it lol it was my first kiss). he wanted to hang out again but I always refused...

[iXenomorph]

lol? Girls tend to lose their bitchiness, bossiness, and meanness around me. Not because I'm super hot and charming, but because I am probably the birth product of a camel turd and satan's left nut. My cynicism and snide humor tends to make them run away in disgust.

[shesaladyround2]

good for you ;)

[Girlie8780]

Lol!

[Xwtxx]

I am a man who will not put up with it. I will no longer have any relationship with her because I work long hours, and I do not have time to deal with people like her on my time off.

It is wasier said than done because sometimes lust gets in the way.

[HeroOfVillains]

Haha women don't boss me, I boss them. Only time a woman ever caught me off guard was this stupid lesbian who got jealous I was flirting with her friend so she punched me. About 10 min later her friend was fixing up my bruises and we ended up making out :)

[yulbsari]

I try to completely ignore them. I don't want to go to jail.

[shesaladyround2]

xD

[dan123z4]

I believe in being very nice to ppl, but if a girl is a total bitch I can be very rude. I want a girl to be sweet not mean.

[Anonymous]

We deal with it this way...a shovel and a backyard

[shesaladyround2]

that's also a way =)

[yopyopyop]

You know the song.

I used to love her, Mm, yeah

But I had to kill her

I had to put her six feet under

And I can still hear her complain

lol

[Opinion Owner]

Guns and Roses! grrr hell yea

[wimpyguy]

Some males need direction from a dominant female. Period.

[Hyrule]

No, I avoid them like the plague...