When you hear someone say they have no regrets what do you think? Be honest please.

[7gnat]

When you hear someone say they have no regrets what goes through your mind? Do you truly believe them?

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I had a very hard time giving a best answer. Peacelovecouture-lala-193-bronzybrownchick-Stacyzee-want2helpout84-Everythingreal(prolly 2nd best answer or tied for 1st)-justme20-derbpie-Carrie123(my personal fav answer)-sevetski13-baliguy-molloch and maybe a couple others had great answers. I liked this question very much and would like to see more answers from different people. Maybe one of you could ask it with a twist of your own. Hope you guys are all doing well. Thanks :)

[EverythingReal]

I feel like they're full of sh*t. Or at least dumb. For them to have no regrets, means that they think have never made a mistake, for if they have acknowledged that they have made a mistake it would be considered a regret. If they are one of those "I learn from all my mistakes and would make them all over again XD" type of peoples, not only would I feel the need to slap them, but I would question their intelligence and the quality of their contemplation. I think those who think deepest are able to identify the times in their lives when they have faulted and could think of a better alternate route they could have chosen. Acknowledging that there is a better choice you could have made, and the natural want to have made that choice (after one has discovered their fault), would be a regret. And for one to not have wanted to made that choice to better off an end result would be purely incompetent, and would in result not have learned from their mistakes.

[7gnat]

AWESOME ANSWER!

[lace1228]

I believe them because I feel that everything happens for a reason, good,bad and the just plan ugly, People are always growing and changing and when mistakes happen they can actually change you for the better. I have made mistakes but I am who I am because of them therefore I have no regrets. I also believe that when one door shuts another one opens.

p.s Your probably think I am stalking you but I really not lol

[7gnat]

ps I don't think that :P Good answer although I tend to disagree but that is why I ask questions here.

[want2helpout84]

Wow!

[lace1228]

I still stand by my answer, for me life it to short for regrets :) but \i respect your choice to disagree

[7gnat]

You are a great person Lace

[lace1228]

I try... not going to lie not always easy ;)

[May31]

You have a lot of awesome questions on this site! Lol, but what usually happens is when I hear that, I have doubt about them telling the truth. I don't deny them though because they could be. I say that sometimes, and I mean it! What's the point of staying stuck on one subject and regretting it so much? It's not worth it.

[want2helpout84]

True! So very true!

[7gnat]

Thank you and good answer.

[May31]

Thanks & you're welcome

[Operations]

You smell that? They're full of crap. Some just play it off because admitting you have regrets in life can be seen as having a weakness-or they're admitting a fault or flaw of some kind. In my own life, there are somethings that I regret, and some I just don't regret. The things I've done, the choices (at unfortunately any cost) I've made I've done to better myself. Those are the things I DON'T regret.

[7gnat]

This may be the best answer so far.

[Operations]

Thanks :)

[want2helpout84]

Wow you look like David. Hasselhoff

[Operations]

Thanks for the BA :)

[Bronzybrownchick]

Say it like it is...good answer.

[7gnat]

You are very welcome brother

[aMuse]

I would say it's a sign that they are strong enough to face life, hit the bumps and learn from them. Just because you don't hold on to the pain of bad decisions and let that fester disappointment in your heart, doesn't mean you didn't live, take risks, or make bad decisions. It just means you picked yourself back up again, dusted yourself off, and moved forward.

[7gnat]

My definition of regret may be different I guess from you.

[aMuse]

The way I see it, regret is a feeling of sadness, shame, embarrassment, depression, annoyance or guilt, when reflecting on ones past. Regret is negative emotions that haunt you. You can't seem to get over your past. Something like: "I knew I should have apologized. Why did I treat her like that, I loved her... Now I'll never see her again or get the chance... *guilt in ensues*"

[7gnat]

Regret-a feeling of sorrow or remorse for a fault, act, loss, etc. Regret is nothing at all like a state of mind. It is about a specific act and choice that was done at one time so I obviously do not dwell on it all my waking moments. But being extremely cruel to someone, hurting someone by my choice, or any other choice that ended up being a bad thing in the long run is a regret of mine. I have many regrets and made many bad choices but do not dwell on them.

[aMuse]

I feel most of my bad descisions have hurt me more then anyone else. I took risks that harmed me, but I recovered. I learned from them and grew as a person. Thus I don't regret the actions I took at the time. I don't feeI that I have wronged anyone so greatly that I feel a need to make it right. I can understand that people do experience that remorse. I've had people wrong me, and seen them fall apart within their own regrets... I try to tred carefully around people I care about.

[7gnat]

Well I know I have regrets that have hurt me and hurt others and some of my mistakes have stunted my financial growth from trusting the right people. If I was not so foolish in the past I would be worth quite a bit more and have many less problems. Yes of course I have learned for these mistakes but in nop way am I happy that I chose so badly.I am happy 4 you that you never made any mistake bad enough that you had a regret. Happily I do not fall apart from the regrets and or choices I have made.

[Bronzybrownchick]

I think that phrase depends on the situation 7gnat. Sometimes people use negative experiences as a learning curve to better themselves and generate it into positivity, content with what you have and so on. On the contrary, this can be used to hide real emotions such as hurt.

[7gnat]

Great answer Bronzybaby :)

[Bronzybrownchick]

Why thank you 7gnat.

[peace-love-couture]

Living in denial and trying to be optimistic but no, I don't believe them. I think we all have regrets, some bigger or smaller and there's nothing wrong with admitting that.

My friends say "If I can sleep at night, I didn't do anything wrong" but they turn around and tell me how much they regret getting drunk and hooking up with 3 guys in one night or how they should have tried harder in their classes. That's regret my dear friends.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

I find it highly unlikely that anybody has no regrets. Wait, does that make sense? Either way you know what I mean. I think everybody has regretted at least something in their life even if it's just choosing Pepsi over Coca Cola that one day.

[7gnat]

Very well put ...or is it...:P either way I agree

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

I don't know and thanks for agreeing.

[justme20]

they have regrets. EVERYONE does. they don't have to be huge regrets but people do make choices that they don't like. even it not choosing the right college/not getting accepted, dating the wrong person or breaking up with someone you still love. everyone has them :)

[CatholicVirginia]

I believe them, for two reasons:

1. I'm incredibly naive. I believe everyone and everything.

2. I have no regrets myself. I make mistakes, but I never regret what I do or what happens. I guess I figure if that's the way it is with my life, why not another person?

[7gnat]

Ok I surely have regrets. If I had no regrets I would be quite wealthy with less broken bones and much less trouble but hey I envy you if that is true

[CatholicVirginia]

It's not that I can't look on my past and say, "I wish things had turned out differently." That's not a regret, because I don't regret the decisions I made or the things I did. I made the right decision, or the decision I wanted, for the time. Besides, what prize does regret win? Nothing but sorrows and misery. I'd rather look to the future and what I can change than regret the past.

[7gnat]

Well I looked up the word regret and yes lol I still have regrets. Doesn't mean I am stuck in the past I just have regrets.

[want2helpout84]

Yeah cool

[CatholicVirginia]

I wouldn't change a single thing about my life - the good or the bad. It's all made me who I am and leads me on the path to great happiness in the future. So no, no regrets. :o) It's very freeing.

[baliguy11]

too many participation trophies. we all f stuff up/lose. wish we had not maybe. that is regret. learn from it and move on. that is personal development.

[7gnat]

YES AND YES

[Stacyzee]

I think they are trying to look on the bright side of things, or not dwell on them.

Whether we'd like to admit it or not we all wish there were certain things we could go back and do over again.

[7gnat]

Very very good answer Stacy

[Stacyzee]

thanks =]

[sovetskii13]

I think they are trying to hide a big regret they don't want anybody to find out about, or hear about ever again.

[7gnat]

Great answer

[lala-193]

the first thing that pops into my head is bullsh*t

[7gnat]

Ditto

[martyfellow]

If they have to say that, then probably they really DO have regrets. What they are saying is that they realize they can't change history, so they'll just have to live with the regrets.

They can't 'fix' the situation ,in other words.

[madiocre]

I think they are just sheep like victims of the positive pscyology culture.

:D

[7gnat]

Wow great one

[Anonymous]

I think they haven't lived long enough. They're living the YOLO lifestyle.

Some people I believe but most I do not.

[7gnat]

:P nice

[want2helpout84]

Yeah. Its far too tempting to make bad decisions lol!...But don't (to everyone). You pay for it if you do. Is it worth it? Sometimes its too late to go chose and go the other direction!

[want2helpout84]

I think they are either lucky, overly positive, unrealistic, pure, or a kid/baby /infant that doesn't have their own mind or someone who thinks they're perfect (not a bad thing mind you lol) .

[arashmenalagha]

lul rly? :)

[7gnat]

Seems like a somewhat reasonable answer. Why did you not answer the question arashmenalagha?

[THE_Godfather]

Like we wrote about many time before. I haven't talked to that thing that gave birth to me in 20 yrs. I heard that she died.

I have no regrets.

[7gnat]

No regrets in your whole life or just about that? And you just recently found out she died?

[THE_Godfather]

I have no regrets about her. I heard she died a couple of years back.

I may have thought that I could have been a little nicer in a certain situation. At this moment I don't think I have any regrets. None that stick out in my mind.

[7gnat]

I am jealous. I have many regrets.

[THE_Godfather]

I wish that you didn't. At the time whatever was said was meant to be said & probably had to be said. I have burned many bridges. Even ones before I crossed it. What's done is done. You can't unring a bell

Keep in mind I may be emotionally detached because of my mother.

[7gnat]

Thank you man. Really. I just know that my throughout my life I made some choices that I would take back in an instant. Yes I learned from those bad decisions and there are some bad choices that I made that I do not regret and am glad I made them. I think most of the bad choices I made were good lessons. Without getting to private on a public thread I will say that some things I chose to do were EXTREMELY stupid.

[THE_Godfather]

I'm assuming that no one was hurt of physically abused.

You learned a lesson, which we all do the hard way. I'm sure that you tried to apologize.

Nothing more can be done. You now know what the repercussions are to both yourself & other party. I'm sure you will remember & make better choices in the future.

I hope that your not beating yourself up over this.

[7gnat]

No I am not beating myself up at the moment. There are times that I have but I certainly do not dwell on it. Some results of my bad choices are a home burned down. Dead pets. Financial losses that are close to 200 thousand dollars altogether. So lol there are some regrets with the choices I have made.

[THE_Godfather]

Sorry.

[ben890]

That they know they've made mistakes but they accept how things turned out and they're happy with where they are.

[rachel05]

nope.. everyone has regrets, everyone takes chances and gets hurt at some point in life..

[MeAndAHalf]

First thought... "Arsehat!"

[7gnat]

Exactomundo

[DebiPie]

No, I think they are big, fat liars.

[7gnat]

Yuppers

[Carrie123]

If they have no regrets, they probably haven't taken many chances.

[aMuse]

no necessarily true.

[aMuse]

*not

[lace1228]

or you take chances which is why you have no regrets

[7gnat]

Or lived a lot. But that is my opinion.

[Moloch]

That they have regrets, lol.

[7gnat]

:)

[Your_Desire]

That they're fooling themselves.