Why does she shy away from me if she sees me from a distance? Thanks for reading my details and for your answer!!

[Anonymous]

When I first met this girl about a month or 2 now she seemed very out going. she said she was a country girl. she was saying that when she throw another house party she would invite me because I was cool and we had a lot in common. a week or 2 after that last statement she spoke to me all the time first because she seen me before I seen her everything was going good. Now all of a sudden she seem to dodge me if she can. if she heading my way and she can't dodge me she would put her head down and look the other way. but when I speak to her and flirt with her she show smile at me and playfully touches me. when I'm with someone and talking to her she can look at me but she don't look long. but when I just stop conversing and let them talk I see and feel her eyes looking at me quickly and then look somewhere else before I notice. now when I look at her and speak she don't seem so outgoing she seem like a little girl that's lost. but around other she seem strong and very outgoing...WHY IS SHE ALL OF A SUDDEN ACTING SHY TOWARDS ME? SHOULD I JUST STOP TALKING TO HER WHEN I SEE HER AND MAKE HER JOB EASY? it's like she look at me as we walking but then as we get closer she put her head down until I come and flirt with her. why she not speaking to me first? did I do something wrong?

[mauporte]

Similar thing happened to me. I recently sterted a masters at a new school and met this girl whom i kinda liked, so i got close to her friends and got invited to things. I got the oportunity to talk to her and realized we have a lot in common. We talk via e-mails (oldschool but fine, i enjoy it anyways) she started most conversations at first so i got a little more confident. She even would tell me to come with her friends to pubs and stuff like that. But whenever i see her at the university, which is not that often, she always just says hi and then sort of hides at her office, even if some of her friends stay and chat with me. At first i was confused, mixed signals always confuse me. What i've noticed though is that she gives me a very warm smile and she kind of looks nervous before hiding in her office. I think she likes me but dunno how to act. I suppose its better to domt go near her at school and jurt approach her outside of it. I don't mind, as I personally don't like to mix personal with work life.

[relationshipDNA]

She might just be really super shy. Some girls just don't know how to act when it comes to romantic feelings. She's probably also scared and unsure of what to say or do. If you really like her and want something to happen beyond the flirting, try to do things a little differently to make her more comfortable. Ask her questions about stuff she likes, buy her something cute and thoughtful from the store (doesn't have to be expensive) and most importantly, tell her how much you really like her. She might not really know how much you like her which could keep her from being completely open with you. She might just need a little watering and sunlight so she can open up a little. Let me know how it works out!

[Asker]

when I first met her she seemed so outgoing though. yea I do ask her more personal question to try and get to know her.i been heart by faily members very close family members soit feels like ting my feelings out there getting in haring them hurt by an outsider(not family member) is tought something I'm working on at the momment and it also makes me feel weak(I gues a man thing?)

[relationshipDNA]

All you need to know is that healthy relationships don't involve unnecessary drama and this girl is nothing, but. I feel for her because she doesn't even know what she wants. Her pattern of behavior is someone who doesn't trust so even if she likes you, she doesn't know how to be with you without the drama. When you consider the fact that her ex was a drug abuser then it all makes sense, don't you think? I'm not sure what you're into, but if you pursue her, know that it will be a roller coaster ride that will end in someone crying their eyes out.

[tayterkinz]

I don't think you did anything wrong! more like I feel she is devoloping feelings for you and is afraid you won't return them, ask her on a date or to go and get coffee sometime. talk to her! My second theory is that maybe something tramatic happend between you two? maybe something you didn't quite pick up on, but I would definitely just go up to her and say you were sorry for anything you might have done wrong and maybe you want to make it up to her and then ask her on a date!

[Asker]

i don't know what I did. she went from speaking to me first to not saying nothing. but when I talk to her she smiles the whole time and laugh etc. etc. but she don't look me in my eyes no more. I try to return eye contact and she talk but don't look at me. I barly see her maybe 3 or 4 times a week. I really like her to. she caught my eye when I first seen her I went up and got introduced through a mutual friend. I like her buti barly see her and now she seem to shy away from me alot.

[tayterkinz]

Then she is just developing feelings! every time I meet a guy I try to act outgoing and to catch their interest, but then I get really shy once they flirt back or something, I don't really know why, it just kinda happens!

[Asker]

that's exactly what happened. it happened so fast. one day we are talking and joking the next week when I go to talking to her she seems little and trying to find a place to run and hide. I seen this for myself I was coming to her department of the store we work at and she seem me from a distant when I was talking to a coworker. she was headed our way then she hurried up and turned around and walked back to where the other coworkers was at. she starting to have the body lagauage of a litte girl

[Asker]

towards me

[tayterkinz]

She may just be new to the whole relationship field, let her ease into it, don't push her or over react. maybe if you catch her looking at you, give her a smile and wave a little. small steps stay in a women's mind forever, ya know.

[Asker]

she was talking the talk so I thought she was outgoing and very straight forward. I leaarned 2 days ago she only 22 one and half years older than me. I asked her how old she was cause she looked like a baby when I don't see her outside of the wolk place and she told me and had a big smiel cause I thought she was young liek a baby(even though she is young. younger than I thought.) how can I get her to open up and what I have to do?

[tayterkinz]

Make a habit out of things, let her get comfortable with you. Take her out to coffee before work every Wednesday or something. become friends with her first! Let her get comfortable with the stage you are at in your relationship, then take it a little bit further. What you have to do: be patient, wait for her to open up to you, do NOT pressure her at all! Little steps count!

[Asker]

Ok thanks but I knew that but she don't hold a conversation lobg anymore its like she trying to get away from me or scared to say something stupid

[tayterkinz]

yup. She likes you because she is scared of the opinion. Tell her you like her just up front. Hell, she could be one of these people on here freaking out because she thought she might be pushing her crush away!

[SouthEastAsian]

I will do that if I have a crush on a guy whom I think likes me but I can't be with him.But everyone is different.

[Asker]

it happened out of the blue. one day we are talking laughing and joking the next week she changes up. I get no eye contact from her if I do it's quick or I'm not looking and then the next week she acting like this.