If you're on here discussing dating and relationships, you may have heard of some of the dating advice stuff out there for men. Double your Dating, The Game (or something like that, just looks like a drug dealer to me...)
Basically, the dating stuff I hear is kind of like School for Scoundrels, but nicer, and somehow lets your inner good guy shine through, while acting completely differently than you normally do towards women. At least, that's the impression I get from it. hehe
Think of it as a man's version of The Rules.
Anywho,
All the average looking, or overweight, or bald, short, etc men are concerned about how to become attractive to women, at least according to the guys selling this stuff. They're advised it's better to be a little cocky and funny if you're not Brad Pitt. Carry around playing cards and do tricks, just wander up to a crowd of girls and start busting on them, irreverently but not in a mean way, etc.
They say that guys who do that have a full dance card all year, yada yada.
Their advice for guys who get told they're good looking?
Shut up. Don't talk, anything you say will come out as arrogant, if you don't watch your tone.
WTF? I'm not a raging studmuffin, and I grew up thinking poorly of myself. I'm starting to feel better about it, and some women do tell me I am good looking. You may not think so, I may not think so, that's not the point.
I do get told I'm cocky, arrogant, full of myself, etc. a lot when first getting to know women. That I must have been a player when I was young and am just used to being spoiled.
Au contraire, ma soeur. I've been shy all my life. I may have figured out how to talk in a class or work environment, but I'm basically as shy as Ed Norton, when he's off the set.
Get me tipsy, I may stay near the bonfire of humanity that is a group at a party.
Is there something to the dating guru's snake oil pitch?
The question I have is - what about good looking guys.
For the sake of my ego, I'd consider good looking anyone better looking than me. Think of the cutest, or most handsome, or hottest men you've known in real life.
Did you think they were arrogant if they tried to be funny, or poked fun at you, or acted like they didn't care if you went out with them or not, like the gurus are telling everyone else to do?
According to the dating gurus women really aren't in control of who they're attracted to (don't kill the messenger, k?). So if/when a good looking guy picks on you, or becomes the center of attention when you're out with a group of friends, is there something that draws you to him, or does it push you away?
Basically, the dating stuff I hear is kind of like School for Scoundrels, but nicer, and somehow lets your inner good guy shine through, while acting completely differently than you normally do towards women. At least, that's the impression I get from it. hehe
Think of it as a man's version of The Rules.
Anywho,
All the average looking, or overweight, or bald, short, etc men are concerned about how to become attractive to women, at least according to the guys selling this stuff. They're advised it's better to be a little cocky and funny if you're not Brad Pitt. Carry around playing cards and do tricks, just wander up to a crowd of girls and start busting on them, irreverently but not in a mean way, etc.
They say that guys who do that have a full dance card all year, yada yada.
Their advice for guys who get told they're good looking?
Shut up. Don't talk, anything you say will come out as arrogant, if you don't watch your tone.
WTF? I'm not a raging studmuffin, and I grew up thinking poorly of myself. I'm starting to feel better about it, and some women do tell me I am good looking. You may not think so, I may not think so, that's not the point.
I do get told I'm cocky, arrogant, full of myself, etc. a lot when first getting to know women. That I must have been a player when I was young and am just used to being spoiled.
Au contraire, ma soeur. I've been shy all my life. I may have figured out how to talk in a class or work environment, but I'm basically as shy as Ed Norton, when he's off the set.
Get me tipsy, I may stay near the bonfire of humanity that is a group at a party.
Is there something to the dating guru's snake oil pitch?
The question I have is - what about good looking guys.
For the sake of my ego, I'd consider good looking anyone better looking than me. Think of the cutest, or most handsome, or hottest men you've known in real life.
Did you think they were arrogant if they tried to be funny, or poked fun at you, or acted like they didn't care if you went out with them or not, like the gurus are telling everyone else to do?
According to the dating gurus women really aren't in control of who they're attracted to (don't kill the messenger, k?). So if/when a good looking guy picks on you, or becomes the center of attention when you're out with a group of friends, is there something that draws you to him, or does it push you away?
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