I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together for almost 10 months. I do plan on spending the rest of my life with him. He's amazing and I'm perfectly happy. Although I still live at home with my mom, I was taught (and learned) independence at a pretty young age. So, all of the typical self-efficient tasks are just routine to me now.
Whenever I'm at my boyfriend's house, who lives with his parents as well, I've noticed that his mom does everything for him. She is a stay at home mom, if that makes a difference in anyone's response. She does his laundry, folds his clothes, cleans his room/bathroom, makes his food, etc.
We've been talking about moving in together within the next year or so. The fact that he doesn't usually do those things for himself, is a little concerning. I did talk to him about it a tiny bit, how I hope he doesn't think that I'll be taking over the role of his mom. He said he's capable of doing them, but he might as well take advantage of it while he can. He also said that he wouldn't expect me to be like his "second mom", but he might have a lot of questions on how to do some of those things and may need my help.
I don't know why it bothers me so much though. I really just don't want to get myself into a "mommy role" for my boyfriend. I understand parents do anything to help their kids, but he's an adult and should be doing these things on his own. In my opinion, she's only hurting him, for when he is ready to move out.
I guess I don't really have a question, I'd just like to hear other people's opinion about this.
Whenever I'm at my boyfriend's house, who lives with his parents as well, I've noticed that his mom does everything for him. She is a stay at home mom, if that makes a difference in anyone's response. She does his laundry, folds his clothes, cleans his room/bathroom, makes his food, etc.
We've been talking about moving in together within the next year or so. The fact that he doesn't usually do those things for himself, is a little concerning. I did talk to him about it a tiny bit, how I hope he doesn't think that I'll be taking over the role of his mom. He said he's capable of doing them, but he might as well take advantage of it while he can. He also said that he wouldn't expect me to be like his "second mom", but he might have a lot of questions on how to do some of those things and may need my help.
I don't know why it bothers me so much though. I really just don't want to get myself into a "mommy role" for my boyfriend. I understand parents do anything to help their kids, but he's an adult and should be doing these things on his own. In my opinion, she's only hurting him, for when he is ready to move out.
I guess I don't really have a question, I'd just like to hear other people's opinion about this.
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Word mistake: I meant self-sufficient, not self-efficient :-p
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