How to get over Fear of male attention?

[Anonymous]

I've never had a relationship or even been kissed and if a guy shows any sign that he likes me I flee. Whether it's a friend, or a guy that I feel is trying to pick me up which it has to be really obvious because most of the time I'm oblivious. How do I get over this anxiety of dating or male attention in that way. Like what is wrong with me why am I like this how do I stop? It's gotten to the point that even when I like a guy I will avoid him so that I don'

t get more feelings. What do I do?

[Izzy2102]

I used to be the same. I don't know I guessI grew up really sheltered but I never really interacted with guys in more sexual way until college. I used to have tons of guy friends and I dated some guys from my school but I had known them all my life so I was comfortable around.

When I was in college and guys started hitting on me, I was so awkward and intimitated. They kept telling me "You look uncomfortable" and I was, but I did get used to it. I think you just need more practice it will come more naturally after a while

[Asker]

Well I think I developed this anxiety in college because I am going to school that is 95% women and 5% men and a lot of those guys are gay so. My school just recently became co-ed. So I think because I don't see men around and I don't interact with them like in HS when they were all around and I had guy friends and stuff maybe that is why I don't know tbh and that's the problem

[marshnewb]

I've been there. They shying away from attention. It usually comes from a deep rooted dislike of yourself. Something you are incredibly insecure with and you may not even realize it. The best way for me to get over stuff like this is to just jump. Forget about all those steps people tell you to take, just take the chance and accept the attention. You may discover that it feels good. Then you can move on from there to other things that feel really good.

[orangasing]

that's guy problem. I have problem with girl I like, I always run away I don't know why I am running away. I feel anxiety and cannot do anything.like your suggestion is easy to say but its really hard to do, you cannot just jump like you said, can you tell me more spesific.i am single almost 27 cause I feel ackward and cannot initiate conversation and I lose the chance, they looked me I am arrogant and they thought I don't like them,but I really like them, damn sh*t.it happens until right now.

[MrOracle]

You need to think about it and tell us: Why do you fear male attention?

I promise you that you have answers to that question. Once you have the answers, you can work on solutions.

[Anonymous]

you can take comfort in the fact that it's way more nerve wracking for guys to talk to girls like that. In other words, if you're awkward around them, they will judge themselves, not you.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

I mean the guy is probably way more anxious than you are.

[Anonymous]

Stop thinking so much.

[Asker]

But that's also the thing I feel like I'm gonna cry like shrinking on the inside so I don't think it's just thoughts it's anxiety.

[Opinion Owner]

It is EXACTLY thoughts and thinking too much.