My boyfriend of 2 years went from extremely clingy to apathetic in my time knowing him. He has always been pretty laid back and quiet and reserved. He is very caring nurturing and sweet but when he has his ugly side it's ugly. Like absolutely crazy it makes me feel horrible.
Two days ago when I called to tell him how much I appreciate him he got terribly cold and kept saying angrily like he were going mad "I don't care" whether it be about me my feelings his behavior nothing.
I tried to patiently talk with him to understand but being he "hates" talking he got worse. Trying to say or do anything to shut me up.
I come from an abusive parent so in the end I broke down. The next day he apologized saying he is apathetic and needs help.
I told him I support his getting help but you know guys he won't do it this is the 2nd time he said he wld.
I'm not sure if he doesn't care about me ik he doesn't about the relationship says if I go he won't b sad but I'm liberal and feel that's pretty healthy but the lack of effort on his end has taken its toll on me. I'm trying to find my worth and it hurts to feel not cared about mental illness or not.
I suffer from depression and anxiety at times. His apathy is tearing me apart and bringing me down.
How can I encourage him to get help if he really doesn't want it.. I can't say it's for US because he doesn't care if whether WE are or not.
If he doesn't care I feel like giving up. But if its a mental illness or not can it be not caring against his will? How is it against his will if he doesn't want to change being apathy? Could apathy be a mentality someone prefers? If so can depression and other mental illnesses become a lifestyle as well? If so then could it be they are not mental illnesses at all but just someone's will? If they are willingly that way it isn't sickness but choice if so then he really chooses not to care right? Which isn't apathy but just really how he feels right?
Two days ago when I called to tell him how much I appreciate him he got terribly cold and kept saying angrily like he were going mad "I don't care" whether it be about me my feelings his behavior nothing.
I tried to patiently talk with him to understand but being he "hates" talking he got worse. Trying to say or do anything to shut me up.
I come from an abusive parent so in the end I broke down. The next day he apologized saying he is apathetic and needs help.
I told him I support his getting help but you know guys he won't do it this is the 2nd time he said he wld.
I'm not sure if he doesn't care about me ik he doesn't about the relationship says if I go he won't b sad but I'm liberal and feel that's pretty healthy but the lack of effort on his end has taken its toll on me. I'm trying to find my worth and it hurts to feel not cared about mental illness or not.
I suffer from depression and anxiety at times. His apathy is tearing me apart and bringing me down.
How can I encourage him to get help if he really doesn't want it.. I can't say it's for US because he doesn't care if whether WE are or not.
If he doesn't care I feel like giving up. But if its a mental illness or not can it be not caring against his will? How is it against his will if he doesn't want to change being apathy? Could apathy be a mentality someone prefers? If so can depression and other mental illnesses become a lifestyle as well? If so then could it be they are not mental illnesses at all but just someone's will? If they are willingly that way it isn't sickness but choice if so then he really chooses not to care right? Which isn't apathy but just really how he feels right?
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