My boyfriend is VERY quiet!

[tff207]

So my boyfriend and I have been together for about a month now. I know he likes me but he is SO SUPER SHY! I get the whole shy thing in the beginning and when he's meeting my friends, but why is he so shy when it's just us?! I don't want to pester him and ask him a thousand times if "we're OK", but I have such insecurities from past relationships that I can't help but feel there is something wrong...even when there isn't! I guess this goes out to both girls and guys...how do you handle it when your significant other is so quiet? I should add that he isn't always this way...if we're having a conversation then he does involve himself, but I feel like I'm always the one starting the convo, ya know? Maybe I'm reading so much into this but I'm used to dating guys like myself who are outgoing, and very verbal..it's when they aren't this way it confuses me! Should I be worried or am I just being a neurotic female lol. And also does anyone have any recommendations on how to maybe approach this with him? We've had the talk about how we're serious about our relationship and that we do want to see where things go...like I said its really just the fact that he's quiet and shy that concerns me. I have yet to see him around his family and friends...I actually haven't met them yet but I'm not pushing for that until I know a little bit more about him! Any help would be greatly appreciated!

[Butterfly1002]

I used to have this problem and it drove me nuts! Unfortunately I was horrible at dealing with it until I watched flight of the concords and I was watching the episode where Brett falls in love with the girl who works at "the cheap zoo" and constantly buys 2 goldfish to get one free so he can have the opportunity to talk to her (although he is so stage fright he never does) and suddenly I was like omg that's ____ and I realized all the stupid little things my guy did that I had originally didn't realize meant anything, but suddenly realized to him the did. Oddly enough flight of the concords became like a replacement for sex in the city for me in how to deal with my guy. Unfortunately not to long after I discovered fotc I moved away and it proved to be to little to late, but I think things would have gone so much better if I had watched it sooner and had opened up my eyes to all the subtle things that were so meaningful to him that I didn't even notice :)

Sorry that I can't be more helpful since I've been there myself and know how difficult it can be, but this was strangley the only thing I found that helped lol

[bunny_luv]

just be yourself and give him more time to get comfortable. he might actually like you talking to him about things and sharing what's going on in your life. maybe you could find activities for both of you to do together and that way you're spending time together without any pressure to talk. I hope this helps.