How to tackle a creep on G@G

[JimRSmith]

I've recently been aware of a number of incidents where a G@G member has been having difficulties with other member(s). I thought it worthwhile to write this, to describe what I think you should do, when this is happening.

Keep evidence of what's been going on

It is pointless to make accusations without evidence.

Never, ever get rid of private messages sent by a harasser, do not remove any answers they've posted on your questions, which could back up your case, and do not allow anonymous opinions on your questions, if you're having trouble.

Admin won't be able to take any action at all, if it's just your word against another user's.

This might feel to you, like they're ignoring a problem, but consider the reverse - if somebody was running to Admin, with tales about you, and not providing any evidence for their claims, would it be fair if Admin took action against you?

What if I'm being harassed by a Moderator or a G@G 'celeb'?

Then the same applies - it's all about evidence.

Moderators are all volunteers, and none is paid, or is otherwise in any way a member of G@G's administration.

If you are being harassed by a Moderator, please report in just the same way you would report anybody else who is bothering you - it won't cost you your account, and there aren't any formal measures that Moderators can take against you. If you're able to provide evidence for your claims, then the Moderator in question will lose their Moderator badge, and may well be removed from the site. I've seen that happen.

I put G@G 'celebrity' in inverted commas, because I don't believe that having a lot of followers, or posting a lot, on a site like G@G really qualifies anybody to consider themselves a 'celebrity', but some members have, in the past, behaved as if they believe that this entitles them to act outside the rules.

Just because some other members kiss their arses doesn't make them special.

What you absolutely should not do, is allow another user, Moderator, G@G 'celebrity' or otherwise to negatively impact your use of the site, to the point where you feel uncomfortable, that you consider leaving, or deactivating your account to start over again.

[Goodwifie]

Creep out the creep by acting creepier than the creep.
" hope you get gang raped and murdered" was a reply from one user for my last question. Just block and report.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Good myTake Jim. Meanwhile, I'd rather just block 'em.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

@JimRSmith: Thanks for the other MHGirl. :)

[Prof_Don]

As a former mod / supermod and a veteran user of this site for over 10 years... this article is spot-on!

Mods are high-activity users selected by the admins to help regulate the site as volunteer work. They are very much like other user here and not to be afraid of if you’re being harassed or creeped on!

[D_Bone_Steak]

I just don't understand why you don't just block them. I mean it just sounds like a hash tag me too moment of an attention seeker, and I'm not trying to be mean, it just honestly sounds and looks that way.

Just block em... why waste your time collecting screen shots, continuing to communicate, and writing this post?

Yeah... you sound like a bullshitter to me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

At the same time I believe you because I myself was 'mysteriously' blocked from being able to write. But bitching to people that are popular here pulled enough weight to have me talking to a moderator.

It was all kind of shady because I really was blocked, but I got told that basically she doesn't see anything blocked... and all of a sudden, I was back like magic.

I don't know what to think... I say just avoid this person and block them.

[wankiam]

this isn't about simply blocking or attention seeking or bullshitting or vrtue signalling... its about some of us that have been active users for some years wanting to see g@g clean up its act... we do that by reporting abuse so we can discourage that reported user from continuing to abuse other users long after you have blocked them yourself. fine if g@g is just a distraction to you but you must understand that rightly or wrongly some people take this site far more seriously. have a nice day

[spuitkaas]

Blocking someone doesn't remove their opinion on your question. Sometimes checking the opinions and being constantly confronted with a hurtful opinion is not a great feeling.
I feel like we should be able to remove opinions from our own questions if they are harassing.

[wankiam]

@spuitkaas you can do that... you either hit ''i dont want to see this'' or report offensive comments and admin will remove them whilst also giving a warning to the user

[spuitkaas]

I always report them but they don't seem to get removed.

[wankiam]

@spuitkaas sorry to hear that... maybe if it happens again contact a moderator or admin direct. please dont feel you have to tollerate it

[D_Bone_Steak]

I get reported all the time, it equals a minus 7XPer points. I mean I guess whatever, getting a bunch of points isn't why I'm here... you're right about me in that I don't care really.

I still think blocking would resolve the issue pretty fast. I mean take it from me, I'm a complete a-hole, but sometimes even I run into the random radical/vegan/flat earther/stalker/ect that just cannot be reasoned with. Blocking removes all there bullshit.

[D_Bone_Steak]

*their

Fuck I hate when I do that. I know the difference but I still make those mistakes when I speed write.

[spuitkaas]

@D_Bone_Steak I have been here for years now, don't always have the popular opinion and tell how it is, but I've never been reported. Maybe you should choose your words differently. Even radical vegans are still people behind the screen and you don't know what is going on with them and what type of influence your words have on their mental well-being.

[D_Bone_Steak]

They're welcome to argue against my opinions, but them being butt hurt about it isn't a 'me' problem, that's their problem.

[D_Bone_Steak]

... I mean it's not me that starts ad hominems or going to every question they asked just to call them names. Those types, need to be blocked because they're not reasonable.

[wankiam]

so as the radical vegan here, thats ironic isn't it, i can say i wouldn't do that kind of thing myself but if anyone does its technically harassment so if you did want to report rather than just block you would help others not have to deal with that shit too.

[D_Bone_Steak]

You have a point. I don't care if it's a radical vegan like you or a vegan, they kind of cross the line when they get so emotional... I probably should think of other's more instead of just safeguarding myself from it.

On the other hand a report only drags 7Xper points out of them and they can continue calling me a fag (even though they claim to support gays) until they get blocked.

I would suggest maybe a report and block at this point, but somehow I don't think that protects others at all. I mean yeah they'll take there own 7Xper points from them as well, but don't they still have to block to rid the problem?

... I'm just saying. Nobody cares. Expecially moderators.

[D_Bone_Steak]

"Or a vegan"... I meant to say Nazi.

[wankiam]

all of that is understandable apart from one single point... this question was asked by a moderator, im a moderator and i can speak for all of us when i say we do very much ''care'' thats why we do this but the problem at the moment is there is a huge disconnect between mods and those above us who may have more commercial nterests motivating them... ofcourse its the mods that get blamed for site shortcomings because we are seen as the frontline but its the officers that lose battles, not the cannon fodder ground troops

[D_Bone_Steak]

So is this moderator infighting? I'm lost tbh... I got banned by one of you and put right back in by another. I have no idea what's going on between you all. I mean, literally this is a case of a moderator harassing another moderator?

[wankiam]

it will be admin that reinstated your account... its not infighting between mods... no we dont all see eye to eye all the time but we all follow a set of guidlines when we moderate... as i just said the disconnect is not between mods but between mods and the site owners.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Damn I'm confused. I'm just being honest. If it was just one of us plebs talking shit to another my easy answer is block. This though is out of my element. I don't know the politics between you all. I think it was admin that kept me here too... just never thought about it like that. I'll have to review my own messages to make sure.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yup... admin let me back in.

Would you dejected me like that other mod? I don't think I'm that bad. I'm a yoda that just talks crudely.

[wankiam]

yeah i dont want to comment on your particular case and im pragmatic enough to say we dont get it right all of the time but i will tell you straight, mods have endless disputes with those above us and we are the ones that are everyday users of g@g with no commercial interest but their motives are different to ours which is where we get this disconnect

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah my situation was stupid, I was arguing with a guy and that mod stepped in. It was him, the guy I was arguing with, that pushed me to the admin and all. Even he thought it was fucked.

They're out to make money, not some cause. This might be where you and me don't see eye to eye... maybe, just maybe the admin is right sometimes?

[wankiam]

no i do accept that... i thought i intimated as much but i can only speak in general terms... you might note the asker actually referenced the fact not all mods are saints too.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah... I see your point. Thanks for not being a kunt like that other mod that blocked me too. Great power holds great responsibility. I always try to find middle ground, as in the shit we might both agree on, before I chimp out. But that's in a different case than this.

I honestly think you might have better advice for her than me in this case... experience and all.

[wankiam]

see thats exactly why i spend time here promoting civil discussion... that way we find common ground and in this case i think we now understand each other perfectly. cool chatting to you ;)

[D_Bone_Steak]

Thanks and much love. <3

[Dongtai]

At some point you’re just too sensitive to be on an online forum. They are words. Block and report. You’re not being physically harmed, stalked or anything life threatening.

I’m not justifying creeps. But those who deal with creeps aren’t powerless or in peril. Block them or stop using the internet. If you don’t have the sense to ignore them and block them you don’t need to be online. Put more energy into avoiding the creeps who are offline that can actually hurt you

[anon1903]

this is highly useful. thank you. i remember being fifteen and naively deleting my first acc because of harassment issues😭😖

[MzAsh]

Screen shot everything.

[BronzedAdonis]

delete/remove this mytake! you're making it harder for me to prey on minors and @ChefPapiChulo

[wankiam]

brilliant

[wankiam]

blue anon troll strikes again

[themomo84]

I did but I appreciate your post.

[LexyIsSexy23]

Thank you this was helpful