Never give up on those you love and care about, no matter how difficult they are. You have chosen them already!

[Anonymous]

Let me start by saying, I am one-love-at-a-time kind of person, and I have a loving heart, so it is not difficult for me to start genuinly caring, but it was always hard to find that man it will be woth doing that for.

Now I am at the very beginning of a relationship with a fantastic, brilliant and great in every way man. The only problem he has- he's socially incompetent. What's that you say? Well, psychologically saying: he doesn't know how to react to some stuff, he is geuinly lost and confused. That leads to some really not nice behavioural patterns, that I don't inticipate to change any time soon. I have seen people like him at different ages, and belive it or not, they only get worse with time. Why? because most of then are being mistreated by women. No! I am not giving men any excuses! Your social issues, men, come from within you, and it is a battle you will have to fight alone. What I am trying to say is that women generally tend to overanalyse, we don't see how bad it is for him and we rush into a new relationship thinking that more out-going man is the solution. But put yourself in his place! how will you feel if every person you're interested in gives up on you, because you're not able to express yourself effectively? Believe me, every time someone gives up on you it is painful beyond measure! By going away you only prove to him that he will never be able to do this, while he can.

What do I do, you would ask? Well, if you're like me and you're stuck, and you understand that the next time you'll feel this way is not going to be any time soon... I would suggest giving him time. I have been on the side where you just don't understand what to do, I have ran away from man, I have been afraid of being wrong. All of these fears is exactly how it feels like! It takes time to get over it, and it also takes a person to fight this battle for. If you truly know how to love, and you really care, being there for him while he sorts himself out is not a problem! Just don't ever tell him that that is exactly what you're doing! Men are strong creatures, at least they have been tald by the sociaty that they are, and harming his self-worth is a sure way to ruin everything and anything. Support him, be there for him, if he does something worong... well you only have two options really, let him know, or (and this one is effective but will hurt him a lot!) stap away. But not far enough, don't get out of reach! Loving someone is not a game, if you're willing to play with his feelings- it's not love. There is a problem with both of those solutions.

1. He will hear you, but he will think that you don't appreciate him.

2. If you overdo it, he will lose you. He needs an incentive to keep going.

Please don't give up on those you ove and care for, if you feel that way they're worth all the effort you make, no matter what anyone else says!

[Azara]

analyzing things would mean you pay MORE careful attention not less.

so thats an odd statement. that bc of looking at things a person will misunderstand and leave.

second. you're troo ambiguous. I don't know what kinds of things you mean he dopiest or can't do. there are not any problem, a person is going to have particularly bc of their sex-posyuchologhically speaking. of course a partner deserves patience. but patience should not be confused with allowing disrespect. and bc you're being vague abouut the types of bafd things you're saying hell do, l i can't really answer specially. however, if he's being disrespectful he absolutely needs to be told. the reason bad behavior continues is not bc people leave but bc no one ever cared enough to stay AND TELL the person they are being inappropriate,.

thirdly. stepping back when they behave badly i e not standing yup for yourself instead giving them space is rewarding bad behavior. giving space doesn't solve problems it just encourages bad behavior. your recipe will create a spoiled partner who thinks they are entitled to special treatment. this is the kind of treatment that creates socially deficient behavior in the first place. if he doesn't understand in the first p[lace how does space help. obviously if someone wants space and lets you know then you can give them space. nit no0t as a cruise for disrespect. ofd someone disrespects me ill tell them constructively then IM the one who deserves space and will want it. mean while they can think of whats going on.,

fourth. self worth. you think mens sense of self is more important to them than yours is to you and that his should be more important to you than yours? this is an abusive relationship join the making, he needs to be treated like a hum, an being not a 6 year old king. if he's doing something wrong he should be told., how else can you fix it,. he chose to be with you which means he's competing to treating YOU well. if you treated a guy badly you think they are going to say well ill just give her space its hard for her. most will call you a drama queen and leave. and thats what it is. a person creating problems instead of communicating. there's nothing wrong with patience but he shouldn't be afforded more than you are by him. otherwise the relationship becomes tyrannical. i dont have a problem with being understanding but you seem to think being a guy entitled him to better treatment than you get asa a woman., and a lot of guys think this way which is why they

[Azara]

continue to behave badly. not bc women left them but bc they are taught by their partners that they dont have to be accountable for their actions bc they are men and have special psychological needs that permit them to disrespect other people.

if a person is confronted by something they did, and that makes them, feel bad, then they SHOIULD feel bad. and learn from it.,

this doesn't sound to me like you're talking about guys who feel rejected. it sounds like you've had guys leave bc they dont want to act like adults and you're afraid of another one leaving so you're creating frilly language around the fact he is going to act like an ass one day and you're getting ready.

men dont face anything worse than women in romantic relationships. everyone is vulnerable everyone is scared thorns reason anyone should get special treat, went based arbitrarily on their sex. its a view many peopler hold and many get taken advantage of for it.

[myTake Owner]

I would have gladly argued with you, however, your command of English language seems to be below legible level while your vocabulary exceeds your ability to use it. Sorry.

[Not_Helping]

Absolutely!

[Ashely_Princess]

This is a very good take :)

[LovesDemBabes]

great mytake :)

[Anonymous]

Good take :)