I'm not shy because I don't swallow my tongue

[Anonymous]

Shy people are weak. I don't mean physically of course but mentally.

My mother often thinks I'm a shy person, because I don't go out often and I don't have any close friends or never had any girlfriend. Obviously she is wrong.

Actually it's not that I cannot make any friends or have a girlfriend. It's because I don't want any. I don't want to share anything with anyone. I go out with some people but I consider them just acquaintances. And I go out only if I want to "extract" some info from them (I mean in things they have some more knowledge about). So basically I "use" them you can tell. I don't feel bad about it. It's just the way I act.

And why I don't go often? No it's not because I'm afraid of people or afraid of the crowd. I'm not crazy. I just prefer spending my time playing games and listening to music. It makes me feel happier so I do it. But if I have to go to a crowded place for some errands my mother asked me to do, I will do it. I will not feel "drained out" because I was around lots of people I don't know. I will do what I have to do, and don't give a crap about them.

Also I don't swallow my tongue like shy people tend to do. It doesn't mean I'm shy because I don't start conversations. I don't mind voicing my thoughts if someone tempts me. Like for example if I'm in a bank and there is a bank clerk who's overusing this "fake formality" that it really pisses me off, I'd not mind to tell her/him "Stop it it's ridiculous". I'd not swalllow my tongue, I'd never let people take any advantage of me.

I just don't understand why people think someone is shy because he/she has no desire to talk. This stupidity pisses me off. Well to be honest I used to be shy as a teenager mostly, but now I've grown out of my "shell" and became stronger (mentally), and I don't mind voicing my thoughts no matter how they are going to take it or not. After all they won't do anything to me. I don't break any laws. I never cross the line between "legal" and "illegal". So why should I be afraid of them and swallow my tongue?

Well my general message for this Take was to state I'm not a "shy"/"introverted"/"lonely" person or however you call it as people tend to think because I don't talk. I just don't bother starting a conversation and I'll start only if I want some info or in order to "please" myself (well you know what I mean by my last 3 words.).

[Tanuron]

Shy people aren't weak, I know someone who is shy who can do all these things easily too. Stand up and say whatever they want if they really wanted to or saw something that really pissed them off, where they would yell or call someone out for their bullshit.

Although Im curious, are you scared to let people close to you since you dont want to share anything with anyone? While I get it, in many ways, its never been much of a point or helpful in general to really share anything. Life is always easier and more peaceful if you dont really, but just dont confuse the two in a way anyway. Difference between making an aware decision to not share cause find life better that way sort of, compared to making excuses to not share cause might be afraid of getting hurt.

In either sense, who cares really what anyone else thinks anyway, people can think whatever they want about you, you are you. As long as you know who you are sort of, people can talk or think whatever.

[myTake Owner]

Well yeah, indeed. I don't like sharing to be honest.

[NJ_Casanova]

You're not shy, you're an introvert... which most people mistake for shy.

Definition:
Introversion is state of being predominantly interested in one's own mental self.
Introverts are typically perceived as more reserved or reflective.
Introverts often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, using computers, hiking and fishing.
An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though they may enjoy interactions with close friends.

[myTake Owner]

I don't buy this introvert label to be honest.

[Anonymous]

A shy person can just be someone who does not believe in there ability to talk in front of an audience... being shy is nothing to be ashamed of.