I posting this Anon because I want what I write to be honest. These are the top 2 reasons why I just can't stand guys sometimes:
They Can Compartmentalize So Effortlessly:
I think that we're in <3. Then it turns out he never really liked me. Or that he just saw me as a friend, that he may fuck sometimes. But all the important moments I thought we had? They were just him being *friendly*. Yeah, guys who do this are usually players. But the fact that it's even POSSIBLE to be so detached from someone, is just so amazing to watch sometimes. Let alone experience it. To be totally honest, I envy that guys can do this. It gives them so much control over everything, including our relationship. I'm the one who's supposed to have all the sexual control. But if he's skilled I can never win against him.
They Can Hide Their Emotions, and Feel OK Too:
I can hide my emotions too, and I do all the time. But that doesn't stop me from obsessing about whatever is bothering me. Guys can genuinely feel better only a few minutes after something bad happens. Even if it's violence or a fight. Even the most sensitive guys that I've met, have a completely different approach to handling emotions. Or, they may even say that whatever happened genuinely doesn't bother them....and they're really telling the truth. I can't make myself do that.