Here’s Why You Can't Figure Women Out

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Here’s why you can’t figure women out...

Here’s why you can’t figure women out.

Because it is impossible to figure women out.

Not because we are incredibly complicated.

Not because we can’t make up our minds about what we want.

Not because we contradict ourselves constantly.

It’s because we are individual human beings whose wants, needs, desires and values differ from person to person. We are not a homogenous group. There is no secret code to crack that will suddenly make you attractive to all women. There is no rulebook that, if followed, will make any girl fall in love with you. There may be certain characteristics that are by and large considered attractive, such as self-confidence and being funny, but even the definitions that individuals attribute to those characteristics differ from person to person.

Here’s Why You Can't Figure Women Out

If you are finding yourself constantly confused by “women,” step back and consider for a moment that perhaps your problem is that you are so preoccupied with trying to figure out women, that you can’t be bothered to try to figure out the particular woman you’re trying to woo. Instead of trying to find some fool-proof strategy to impressing any woman (which doesn’t exist), try basing your strategy in any given encounter on the information you can glean from the particular woman you are trying to impress. Not only that, by narrow your sights to women with whom you might actually have some common ground.

Here’s Why You Can't Figure Women Out

I’ll let you in on a little secret – most of us can tell when we’re just the next target in your numbers game. We can tell when your attempts to woo us are based not on anything you find particularly intriguing about us as an individual, but merely on the fact that we are female and meet a basic arbitrary minimum of attractiveness that you have set. When we can tell you’re playing a numbers game (if I hit on 10 women, 1 is bound to like me), it tells us one of two things. Either you’re a “player” who’s simply trying to add another conquest to his tab, or you’re desperate for female attention - any female's attention. In either case, you couldn’t care less about who the woman is or what makes her interesting, and in either case your superficial interest doesn’t make her feel good. It makes her feel like an object.

Here’s Why You Can't Figure Women Out

If you want to have better luck with women, the number one thing you can do for yourself is to start seeing us as human beings with individual tastes and personalities. Don’t just approach every attractive woman you see and hope that one of them will have you. Narrow your scope to women who you might actually be able to build a connection with based off of mutual interests and values. Look for women who you find interesting, not just physically attractive, and base your interactions around that. When you do that, you not only make her feel respected, because you are treating her like an actual human being, but you make yourself seem more interesting as well.

Here’s Why You Can't Figure Women Out

Walking up to a beautiful woman and telling her she is beautiful is not interesting or engaging. It’s boring and overplayed. It tells her nothing about who you are as a person, and it provides you no means of learning more about what makes her interesting. It reinforces that the thing you are most interested in about her is her body and that who she is as a person is secondary, if considered at all.

Here’s Why You Can't Figure Women Out

Here’s Why You Can't Figure Women Out
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