Girls, Do Not Immediately Fall for a Guy Who Does and Say Sweet Things for You

[MysteriousPopato]

Do not fall for all the sweet words he is saying,

Do not fall for all the sweet things he's doing to you.

Cause you'll never know if he's just playing with your feelings or not.

For the past 3 months I fell for this guy who treats me special, who is so sweet and gentlemanly around me.

The way he looks at me, the way he touches me...I thought that he was the one I'll end up with, someone who won't break my heart.

But boy, I was wrong. I was so wrong!

After Christmas break he kinda stopped talking to me (( still talks to me but only if he wants to know something or asks for something )). And during those days, I felt like I was just used as an advantage.

Has anybody felt this way before or went through this? Please tell me...So I won't feel alone...

Now that guy((due to my observations)), the guy who made me fall inlove with him, is now doing all the things he did to me to another girl. He keeps looking at her, he does every possible way to touch her...Everything that is possible to make a girl feel special and make a girl fall for a guy.

So girls...If a guy does this to you, don't fall for it immediately please, make sure the guy is sincere with their feelings. I don't want anybody to be taken advantage of. You are more than that! You are not a toy for them to play you.

[UnaKaizen]

so you had nice time. you got an idea of how youd like a person to treat you. he wasn't genuine- it ended. you move on. you still enjoyed yourself& learnt more about people and yourself. and it only took a few months.

there's no reason to not enjoy getting to know someone and hope for the best--bc it MIGHT not work. bc it might not work. no matter how genuine. just move on when you see it isn't working. If you walk around paranoid of everyone life will suck and beclouded by negativity. you can wait thinking you're 'making sure' but even people who have genuine feelings can change, you have to be able to deal with the change rather than avoiding being a part of it.

[Browneye57]

The term that comes to mind is...'player'. The guy has GAME - and you fell for it.
A true alpha male doesn't bother with all that - he's busy chasing his life mission, going after his goals and aspirations. He's actually going somewhere and being someone.
If you have high value to offer then perhaps you can be a part of his life. So go out and find a guy like this. It won't be easy. But it will be worth it.

[Gh2000]

well said!

[windknowsmyname]

Sound like some context are missing. I wouldn't fall for girl fir smiling at me, touching me or contacting me. If she's nice cool, if she respectful that great but still won't win my heart. The only way she get close to me is by connection, relatability, attraction, and respectful to everyone.
If you felt special cause he did something that a good friend does then he is not responsiblie. If he admit his feelings and did these things then its his fault. We never what hapoen. But anyway. No this hasn't happen to me cause i dont fall 8n love easily. I see through bullshit and test the waters before risking a heart break.

[Sinister]

3months and what there was no sort of communication as to what his or your intentions were? What you or he really wanted or were looking for? Man, you're lucky you got that much time. I wouldn't not of given you a second date. If I don't feel like the vibe, chemistry or general baseline of intentions are the on a fair & equal wavelength then its a done deal. It was nice meeting you. When he was doing all this for you what were you vocally saying, what did you mentally REALLY want to say & why didn't you? Lastly, did you guys even kiss? This is sounding like a one sided story.

[sc15022]

In that case then why even date? Some guys are players and you'll definitely run into them, but I'd say just take in on the chin. At your age, don't expect a guy to want to settle down with you and be serious, not saying it can't happen but it's pretty unlikely. What I don't understand is why women don't enjoy just having sex sometimes and being casual fuck buddies? Do women not enjoy sex enough to be considered a "toy" every time some guy just wants to sleep with them? Even if you don't want sex, just tell the guy to forget it and move on. A lot of fish in the sea, yadda yadda, etc.

[Jamie1865]

Yea, I don't mean to sound insensitive, but he told you everything you wanted to hear, and because you wanted to believe it, you believed it.
Do you mean you waited 3 months before you slept with him, or was it just the 3 month itch and he wanted more thrill of the chase?

[sovetskii13]

This method will significantly reduce your chance of identifying that special someone. There is really no correct way to show true interest in someone because each giver has their own technique and each receiver takes hints differently. Just because a guy used the method you described doesn't mean every guy will move to another girl like a player. So don't treat every potential partner like they are the same as this guy.

[Mi2mi2a]

When going into dating, it should be a given that you would be a little vulnerable. And it should be a given that there are some people who will use you.

The only way to know if someone is an asshole or not, is to let down the guard. That's why Girls you can fall for a guy who does and say sweet things. Consider him a good guy by default until proven wrong

[UnaKaizen]

I agree.
if you are on guard, he will reciprocate in kind and you never know if he actually was interested but guarded bc you are guarded, or just not interested.

you can't throw water on a fire and expect it to continue burning.

[Sara-91]

In EVERY relationship I've been in, the guy first shows great interest in me. He'd text me every day, says sweet things. After some time however and when I really fell for him, he starts to distance himself. He'd reply to my texts late or even not text for couple days. I don't think such guy is necessarily cheating. It's more like the chase is over. I started to think this is how men are. If you search the internet, you'll see many stories like this one.

[Nivinxus]

Guess I border on that kind of guy. This is mostly because I don't feel there is any return of interest from the girl (e. g. not initiating conversations), at that point, I just lose interest because I feel like I'm just wasting my time.

[Pyrofox]

Be aware though there are guys who really mean it. There are guys out here who aren't looking to see how many flings they can have with different girls.

So just be careful assuming guys are all the same stereotypical sex addicted guy.

[MysteriousPopato]

I know. But, I'm only telling that so girls won't IMMEDIATELY fall for it. Cause we'll never know if the person actually means it or not.

[Pyrofox]

Well if you gals are sincere guys will be too. Cause to be honest girls aren't any better than a guy at confessing they actually love the other half.

[Anonymous]

You have to show interest too and not by pointing your toes at him or playing with your hair. Im going to hit an ultimatum fast with a girl if she's getting cold and keep pressing it until its over or she convinces me otherwise. Its easier to just go silent though.

[MysteriousPopato]

I did actually. I never even show any signs of coldness... Apparently, the guy I am talking about just stopped talking to me after Vacation break. and now ((from my observations)) he fancies a different girl...

[SomeStrangeGirl]

So sweet of you to try to help other women out on this one. I truly hope you find someone who actually treats you as a queen not to get in your heart or pants but because you are a sweet loving person they want to learn more about and love.

[Whichwitch]

Yeah, I had a similar experience. I have a crush on a guy and he knows. Whenever I text him, he will reply late and give excuses like he was busy or his phone was off etc. When I try to pull myself together and end my feelings and stop texting him, he would text me. He would initiate the conversation. And once I start texting back, he will go on ignoring me. He kind of wants to keep me there for him. I feel like he is using me.

[Gedaria]

Men have being saying these to women for thousands of years , its nothing new. Its up to the women to read between the lines to understand what is really being said that is why dating is for mature adults not young teenages...

[themetalhead]

I know the feeling. I've certainly dealt with it myself.

[StickStickity13]

Have you thought about maybe you weren't reciprocating enough and he thought you weren't that interested?

[SportsFan78]

Have you ever thought of initiating a conversation with him ever? I’m not saying that your lazy, I’m just asking so I have a better understanding.

[Anonymous]

if you two didn't get together then don't be upset that he stopped trying. you never mention a relationship with the guy which leads me to believe that he got tired of trying to date you and moved on

[Anonymous]

lol don't worry, almost all girls don't even want guys that do the sweet things. they're going after the guys that say sexy things

[Sexy_Steve]

So basically you got hurt and now you're trying to poison other women's minds against men.

[Adrianna7868]

I agree with you on this one. It sounds like a classic case of sexism, just listen to what she's saying: "I've had one bad experience with a guy so now all men are evil!". It just sounds childish, and this is coming from a girl.

[Anonymous]

What if he is shy and nervous around you and takes a while to ask you out? He seems so genuine and sweet but I'm so scared of getting hurt.

[bubble_tea]

Maybe he thought you weren't interested?