Surely, you've heard of that girl (who's pretty cool) who hangs around with the guys and is "just one of the guys?"
Well, that isn't me. At college, I don't have many friends - considering most of my friends went to another college - but I have a couple who I would now call my 'friends'. Well one of them, I knew from secondary school and I was already kinda friends with him, and the other- I met through the guy I was friends with at secondary school and since we all have a class twice a week together, I guess we've become a little group of three who have a laugh and talk about random memes.
And I don't get that feeling where I'm "just one of the guys" I definitely feel like I'm "the girl" of the group and I don't mean that in a bad way.
Here is why.
#1 - Not Being Able To Complain About My Period To Them Because It's Awkward
So back at secondary school I had so many friends who were girls and every single time my period came I could always complain about the pain I felt and the cramps and sometimes they had things on them to make me feel better, and when they were on there's they'd complain to me and I'd have things to make them feel better.
Now at college, my only friends are two guys- I can't complain to them about it. Firstly, they won't understand and not have a clue about what I'd be going through. And secondly, I'm sure dudes don't wanna hear that kinda thing because it can just be awkward.
So when that time of the month comes around for me, and I'm hurting really bad I just have to sit there in silence and I think they can sense I'm in a bad mood lol- because they don't talk to me, unless I talk to them- and they don't annoy me either😂😂
#2 - Sometimes I Feel Like I'm Hanging Around With My Little Brother
So, sometimes both of them remind me of my little brother, and it's funny😂
Especially when they're talking about their xbox games, or Minecraft (I play it sometimes, but not as often as them) or they just decide to repeat a meme over and over again. One of them did that today on the way to the bus stop and I was like:
"You're worse than my little brother!"😂
#3 - Them Making You Feel Like The Third Wheel Because Of Their "Bromance"😂
I feel like they have this little "bromance" going on- I even commented on it today on the way to the bus stop- and one of them said:
"Plot twist... We're both in a gay relationship!"
He was joking, but honestly that wouldn't surprise me- but I would also be kinda mad because one of them is dating one of my friends.
Especially when they talk about their xbox parties or something... I definitely feel like I'm third-wheeling sometimes😂
#4 - Complaining About Other Girl Problems But They Can't Relate
A problem which I face as a girl is weirdo dudes popping up in my Instagram DMs asking me to "chat" and sending me disturbing messages. Always, it's a block after they do so- and now I've resorted to setting my profile to private and uploading and having an ugly picture of me, so they don't even bother me. I was explaining to one of them how weird it always is- but he couldn't relate because as a guy he doesn't get weirdo guys popping up in his inbox asking for disturbing things.
There's been other things too, but I can't think of anything else right now lol.
#5 - Them Talking About Things I Find Awkward As A Girl
So they didn't do this intentionally or anything- but they were talking about a topic which let's just say as a girl I find awkward and I asked them to not talk about this stuff infront of me because it's awkward... And I also told the one who's single that it's best you don't talk about that kind of thing in front of girls if you want a girlfriend considering he showed me a meme today he could relate to about being single.
And they respected my wishes, they were all "Okay let's not talk about that because it makes her feel uncomfortable" which is good.
#6 - Having Smaller Legs So You Basically Have To Speed-Walk To Keep Up With Them😂
I know this isn't specifically with just girls- because girls can be taller than guys, but based off of my experiences I have to do this more with the guy friends than I did with my friends who were girls lol.
It's because they're both taller than me, one of them only by like 3 inches, but still his legs are longer than mine- and the other is just wayyyyyy taller than me I feel so tiny standing next to him lol and I swear one his strides equals three of mine.
#7 - Feeling Awkward When Other Guys Who Are Their Friends Come
This has happened multiple times... When we're waiting at the bus stop, usually some other dude who they know either from college or their street or both comes and again, they're there having a little "bromantic" moment and I'm just stood their with an awkward smile on my face...
I don't know why but I find it less awkward when friends of friends are girls. It's still awkward but I find it even more awkward if they're guys. I mean when it's guys, I even find it awkward making eye contact and stuff- I mean it happened again today and the dude decided to say "hello" to me so I was just like "uhhhmm hello?" I sounded really stupid at the time lol.
#8 - But None The Less, They're Still Nice To Hang Out With
We still have fun.
Like today they introduced me to this online drawing game, where you get a word, and you have to draw an example of that word- and the other users have to guess what it is. We were so terrible, it was funny😂
And you have to pick and screen name for yourself, and at I decided to call myself "shitbag" because... That was the first that came to mind, and a teacher walking past saw😂😂
And the teacher was walking past, and saw and he laughed and was like: "Okay, who's done that?" I think he expected it to be one of them two because I look really innocent- but they were like:
"We didn't call her that!"😂😂
And I owned up to calling myself that- because it was me lol, I'm not gonna lie about it😂
Any Last Words?
Again, I know lots of you don't care about what happens- but I just like writing about it anyway, it's just a way of letting it all out.
And this sounds a little sad, but I'm kinda happy I've got a little group at college- even if I don't hangout with them all the time, but it was fun hanging out with them today after college.
I don't really have much else to say other than, I hope some girls could relate to this and if not I hope it was a good read for everyone anyway and...
Thank you for reading :) <3