Every have a wife or girlfriend that comes to you with her vulnerability guys? Men are culturally expect to comfort them and show strength and understanding. Be her rock, as they say.
Ever notice that when a guy opens up emotionally about vulnerability women are turned off? A guy comes home from work and doesn't want to hear a thing about his struggle. A guy tells a girl in a relationship that he was abused as a child sexually or emotionally or physically. What happens when a guy does this while dating? The gal comforts the man. Maybe gives them a hug. But over time...she starts to friendzone the man. Right?
His vulnerability changes how women see him. He is no longer the strong masculine macho man and is seen instead as a "friend". The sex starts to fade. She starts treating him like a best friend rather than a person she lusts for.
For men, opening up with emotional vulnerability is a scary thing. It takes us out of our masculine frame. It changes how a woman sees us. It causes us to risk the attraction that a woman we love has for us.
To me it seems that women respond to the vulnerability of their men as a chore. It is empathy because they have to express and show it. Not empathy based on a deeply rooted compassion to move with a man toward a journey of healing and long term commitment.
This is the vulnerability of men. This is the disrespect and lack of empathy that we face with women we fall for.