We're in an era where the prevailing sentiment encourages us men to share our feelings, under the pretext that it makes us feel liberated and understood. But here's the damn truth: men are expected to maintain a level of stoicism, especially when life throws curveballs. It's not just about personal resilience; it's what society and women look for and need in a man.
Consider my experience in the Marine Corps. I was privileged to serve under remarkable leaders. One individual, in particular, comes to mind: let's refer to him as Staff Sergeant Edington, a man of mere 5'8" stature. Yet, he was the most intimidating and daunting individual I've ever encountered. It wasn't his physical stature, but his demeanor and the way he presented himself. The man was unwavering, embodied stoicism, and never whined about life's challenges. As a young Marine, his leadership felt like a shield, especially during wartime. The man would never gripe, whine, or let on if he was grappling with personal turmoil. If he was drained or if he faced personal problems, it was never mentioned. He prioritized service and duty over everything. If he constantly griped about life's hardships, my trust in him would have wavered. I'd worry that any enemy could exploit our perceived vulnerabilities. Unit cohesion would plummet and there might be infighting due to unchecked emotions.
Let's be clear: life is warfare. As we age, challenges mount. Financial success brings its own set of troubles, and poverty can trap and exploit you. If you're too passive, you'll be at the back of the line. If you neglect your legacy or health, there are consequences. In the face of life's battles, women seek steadfastness in men – someone unflappable amidst chaos. Whining about every emotional hiccup is inherently self-centered because it will not give your woman what they need. It's a dereliction of duty to let fleeting emotions cloud your ability to be there for them. Being that rock that they can lean on is your responsibility. It's not about bottling up every sentiment, especially serious traumas. A supportive partner can indeed help navigate those. But broadcasting every feeling as if it's therapeutic? That's utter bullshit. Don't give in.
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