Is it unhealthy for a guy to stay single forever?

[Anonymous]

I am 24. I have no experience with women at all. I never approach women and to be honest I don't want to. I'm a loner who doesn't interact with people unless it's very important. I'm not a people person. I have built a great life for myself. Great apartment, good job, and a nice quiet peaceful life. I honestly don't see myself ever having a girlfriend or having kids. My entire life I have always seen myself being alone with no female companion (not even a female friend either). I don't know why I feel this way, but I just feel I'm meant to be alone my entire life. Is this healthy for a guy?

[Willow4]

Hey :)

I know someone a lot like you and suprisingly they have an incredible amount to offer somebody, but unfortunately he doesn't seem to want a relationship. I often find that people who have had very little interaction with the opposite sex are the way they are for a reason, whether it's a bad experience, less than ideal relationship examples or role models, insecurity issues, anxiety.. lots of different things. I find that they hold people back at an early age from being able to form friendships with the opposite sex and therefore never feeling able to approach them as an adult for relationship purposes.

I'm sure for now you feel happy and content by yourself but I think by isolating yourself completely you become very fixed in a solitary 'bachelor' lifestyle and the longer you live that way the harder it gets to allow somebody into your life. You have your own routine and way of life and the idea of sharing that with somebody else becomes either daunting or unappealing or both. That's the risk I suppose, because later on should you hit a stage in life where everything seems fulfilling and lonely, you won't know or have the experience and skills to be able to go about finding somebody to share your life with.

Don't worry too much about what's healthy and what isn't, the most important thing is you're happy and if you're happy with the way your life is, who are we to judge you for that? It's actually refreshing to see somebody so independent and make so much of their life and enjoy like by themselves :) But don't close all doors for the future, never say never. Be open with people now and then if you can, maybe even have some online friendships with women men even, just to keep in the loop with people and keep your conversation skills relevant. You never know, you might meet a woman and your mindset changes, but if you've had no experience you could let her (and a different life) pass you by.

Just be how you're happy :)

[ironeddie]

This is without a doubt the best piece of advice I have read. :-)

[Belleza2]

it is an unhealthy thinking because ok you have everything you want so why not share yourself with the other person hey I do not know - I think if you are an intelligent human being who does good things on this planet or wants good things to happen on this planet - why not just simply share your knowledge

[MyUsernameRules]

I'm 26 and I've been single my whole life too. I used to be quite frustrated but for the past 3 years I stopped worrying about it. I wouldn't mind being single my whole life. I mean, I prefer having a woman and kids but being single wouldn't be too bad. I'd make a lot of money so I'd wanna live in a nice area by myself and just chill with my friends. Also I would travel many different parts of the world, go bungee jumping, sky diving and what not. Plus, no girl to judge me in taking certain drugs even though I'm no addict. Life can be really nice being single forever once you accept it. I would love to find a nice and beautiful girl for myself but I'm done approaching girls. If they approach me, cool. If not, I'm just gonna work, travel, and relax a lot in the future.

[ironeddie]

You answered a question are you happy with "I'm content"

That to me is a warning flag.

Take the advice of Willow4. Don't close your doors. Because having never tried something likely won't leave you feeling content later in life. Growing older and being alone usually results in loneliness. It's not something you want.

I was like you at your age. Now, I wouldn't wish my life on my worst enemy. It's hell. Believe me, I'm going on 50 years old and I have to try and learn what most people learn in their teens.
How many single women in their 40's want to date a guy like me? Zero. Sure I'm trying to learn. But they don't want to be a teacher at that age. They want to enjoy life with someone their age. They aren't looking to adopt someone their age.

[Gegalix]

If you are a loner, then maybe love isn't for you. Its not good for you to be alone. You need friends!

[Asker]

All my friends are guys.

[Gegalix]

Not a single female friend? You need some female friends. Actually, I have many female friends. Women are human just like me are! Find some common ground!

[kairon156]

I enjoy being single and doing what I want when I want.
there's a thing called Men Going Their Own Way. where they stop worrying about what women in society want of them and just do what feels right.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bjnv8LYNu5Y

[cajun]

yeah, but one have to deal with opposite in any point of life and always prepare for the worst encounter

[makoharu]

Since you said you don't want to approach women, I think that's fine.

[Anonymous]

Are you happy the way you are?

[Asker]

I'm content.

[Opinion Owner]

Then I would say it's not unhealthy. If you felt called to have companionship, and don't get it, then it would be emotionally unhealthy.