Where did all the gentlemen go?

Question

Today I had to stand and wait for an entire group of friends (all guys) to exit a building, they all looked at me but not one of them stopped to let me walk in. 

R. I. P Chivalry

Crossroads-USMC · Accepted Answer

I'm right here. I am very proud to treat women properly. But in this day and age hold a door open for her makes you a sexist-bigoted-misogynist. But I have to treat you all they way yo should be treated - its in the blood, or maybe its a Marine thing. Either way, we're still around.

I've heard several women say the same thing here before, and a big part of it, is SO many women today are only attracted to good-looking assholes. With the exception of all the jerkoffs at that building, the main problem is when you girls are looking. Kansas, for example, will yield you a better crop of men than here in New Jersey.

Your thoughts, Sweetheart?

TheYellowBear · Accepted Answer

Welcome to an equal rights society.

Also a lot of guys don't do this stuff for women because it's not appreciated. I've held doors open and let women through first and got no thanks for them. It's as if it's to be expected.

Such arrogant behaviour doesn't deserve chivalry; manners cost nothing.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because nowadays, people don't tell their sons that they're handsome and smart, they tell them they're a heartbreaker and will have all the girls and be a little player.
What people teach boys nowadays is different to what boys were taught previously. I worry so much about having kids, because if I have a daughter, she's got shitty choices and if I have a son he'll be called a "white knight" and people will act as if he's a moron for being a good man.

itsme_goodsamaritan · Accepted Answer

Things have certainly changed. These days, its not the women themselves who want to work and be financially independent, even the men seem to prefer career women, and that's definitely not because they are promoting equal rights. Chivalry is out, and selfishness is in.

Nanda · Accepted Answer

when i was in north American id have guys watching me working carrying heavy stuffs... They would only watch and never help. While here in Brazil as soon as a guy sees u with heavy stuffs to carry or in trouble they would help in no time.

SingingBlue · Accepted Answer

I actually think that question should go both ways tbh... Welcome to the modern day world, crude, rude, and attitude is what you get ;) The good ones are rare now, when you find one, don't you dare let go!

Mesonfielde · Answer

You'll get out through that door eventually, just because you're female you won't get extra benefits unless they feel like being extra nice, but apparently these guys didn't bother with that. It happens.

Outofthegrey · Answer

Yep, chivalry is dead. Maybe now we can get some equality up in here.

I have a dream of a world where it doesn't matter what's between your legs, but what is between your head. I world where no matter who you are, if you act like a retard you get called a retard. A world where wanting to sleep with someone does not exclude them from the common sense wish list. And a world where being attractive is not the same thing as being better than everyone else.

So chivalry is dead, good. That's progress.

EntourageNaj · Answer

Chivalry is dead unfortunately.

As a boy I was taught ABOUT chivalry, but it wasn't part of the list of manners that were instilled in me. I did it for a while but quickly got tired of it as the reward wasn't worth the effort.

Seriously, when was the last time a guy got laid/loved because he held a door open? I'm sure a majority of women appreciate it, but appreciation isn't really what we're after. Its a perk at best.

People (including guys) what to be loved... not the platonic kind. Chivalry just doesn't accomplish that for us.

meatballs21 · Answer

Dear girls: MAKE UP YOUR MINDS. Sincerely, The gents.

Pariah_Dog · Answer

If a whole group of people is already in the process of exiting the building, then it would have to be the whole group stopping collectively to let you in, not just one person. Logistically, trying to get a large group to do that takes more time and effort than just getting everyone through the door.

It also depends on the size of the group. If it's a whole auditorium of people coming out, then it would be polite to let the other person in on a basis of time. If it's a group of, say, 20 people, then you may just have to wait patiently for fifteen seconds.

TheShadowKnight · Answer

Female individuals fight for equality. When they get it, they complain. What is a man supposed to do? We're confused on what to do now. As kheserthorpe stated, some women even start to complain if a man lets a woman through, because it is the opposite of the equality they want and now it can even be called sexist because apparently, by doing that, you have labelled them as a weaker sex.

kheserthorpe · Answer

Is this really a question? I still tend to let women go through first, but I'm old... Boys are not taught to do this any more. And some women actively complain when men do it. Not many, but a few.

Bandit74 · Answer

I predict this post is going to become another debate about feminism.

KINGIRISH · Answer

Honestly us GENTLEMEN are still her it's just ye girls treat us like shit. Now I am a genuinely nice guy never do anything illegal and always help others, but everyday in college and every day life I stop and hold doors open for girls. Anyway the one thing that frustrates me more than anything is when I hold a door open for them they don't even acknowledge my existence but yet if they saw a good looking guy holding a door open for them there all over them and they can't say thanks enough. Don't even speak to me about how girls treat us on social night's seriously all girls want now day's are ass hole's

kambo_trick3y · Answer

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BertMacklinFBI · Answer

im just trying to picture this correctly because.. I don't know im kinda dumb right now hahaa :D okay so like basically you're trying to leave and then a bunch of d00ds start walking through the same door you're trying to go through and its basically like 300 so they won't let you in until they all finished walking through?

Anonymous · Answer

not all men are like that. i happen to know lots of guys who are very polite and respectful. plus it all depends on how someone is raised. you can't judge a book by it cover. and don't put a stereotype on men because a couple guys didn't do what you wanted them to do.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

It's chivalrous to open or hold a door for a woman, but not to hold up a group of people all trying to go. Maybe the last guy could have held the door for you. But you shouldn't complain, it's a luxury afforded to you because we're stupid. You're not entitled to have a door opened for you any more than guys are.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I was raised to be a gentleman and I haven't gone anywhere. I apply the code when it applies in life.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it appears in our society that any act of chivalry done by the male is considered either sexist or flirtatious
The fact that if I hold a door open I apparently like you is absurd, therefore I will reserve my "chivalry" for people I actually like

Anonymous · Answer

They all diapered when they realized there were no ladies around any more. How is a gentleman supposed to charm the knickers off a lady when she isn't wearing any? How is a gentleman to lay his velvet cloak across a puddle for a lady when she is lying in said puddle covered in vom? Double standards.

MaskedSanity · Answer

And why exactly should they have let you in? Please describe in extensive detail why should have right of way.

ogutbomb · Answer

Personally, I hold the door open for anyone, irrespective of whether the person is a man or a woman. But then, expecting it to be done just because you're a woman isn't very fair and I don't blame the people who don't do it. When we throw away traditions to uphold equality (I favour that move), we need to throw away the meaningless traditions favourable to women too.

AJElectric · Answer

They were all destroyed when the feminist intercontinental ballistic missile hit them and turned us into assholes.

Anonymous · Answer

Why should they let you go first? Because you're a female? LOL... Sorry, but feminism erased that privileged for you. Welcome to the world pf equality that you fought so hard for.

cavmanier · Answer

Oh I held the door open for this girl that was like 40 feet away at the gym the other day. She was really surprised :) It may sound corny but I do like to give people the feeling there are people that care about others.

CuriousCatbug · Answer

To expect men to do that, means you would have to fit the bill of being "typical woman"
stay at home
cook
clean
always dress to impress
great partner with a drink as he comes home and hangs up his fedora

ÉlanVital · Answer

Those young men are still out there. Not just done for women but for anyone in general. Its the polite thing to do than to just walk by and see that girl or guy standing there waiting.

1-3-2-4 · Answer

I still hold doors open but I guess it's just a way I was brought up.. I can remember one real case where I did not hold a door open because she pretty much let it slam right in my face I ended up returning the favor

Anonymous · Answer

I used to hold the door open for everyone, but lately I'll only hold it open for men and older women. Young women rarely ever say thank you. I'd rather let it slam in their face than have them stroll through with a nasty attitude. 99% of men will say thanks in my experience.

citroen · Answer

They are few and far between, i think if u want to find a gentlemen you will have to be transported back to the 1920's haha

ThatGuy98 · Answer

I actually held the door open for a group of grandmas yesterday, their smiles were just adorable :)
I'm 16 and I always try to be a gentleman, but I agree with you, a lot of guys these days don't care about that stuff anymore...

CrazyMinta · Answer

Gentlemen and chivalry are endangered and near extinct species.

mutedaisy · Answer

Yeah, I think you are just one of the guys since you are a friend.

Ghosty · Answer

TV killed the Radio star. Feminism killed the chivalry..  .. jokes&propaganda ;), they still exist. But more often found in people who don't try to act tough etc.

Prof_Don · Answer

What benefit goes a guy get from a girl, by holding a door open?

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, you wanted to be treated as equals, there was a big thing about it in the 1960's. Look it up.

stud_muffintoronto · Answer

thats because there aren't enough true ladies out there for us to continue.

i always said gentleman is for a lady and an asshole is for a bitch.

what happened to all the ladies? the ones who are gentle, conservative and caring?

adamski24 · Answer

I'm still here. Please don't paint us all the same.

front2back · Answer

I don't really care. I'll hold the door for all types of people, it's just what I was taught to do. I'm far from being a "gentleman" though.

Anonymous · Answer

Chivalry and feminism can't co-exist. As for it being rude on a completely gender-neutral level, sure. But that's got nothing to do with chivalry.

I-Am-Bored · Answer

We do not need people to open doors for us and shiz. WE CAN DO IT OURSELVES

Anonymous · Answer

i totally agree with you and i wonder the same thing sometimes :( and LOL at the immature "boys" blaming their lack of manners and their ignorance of chivalry on feminism ! lmao pathetic

Anonymous · Answer

Hiding in the corner while other men procreate, it'll get worse with each generation.

myspacemybroke · Answer

Ask your feminist buddies

XEmmaSigsX · Answer

Not all men are like that. kindve like how most of us aren't "proper ladies"

AadiGuru · Answer

Nope i wait for females... and for those is just how they have been brought up...

aseemraj123 · Answer

i think all the gentlemen are standing somewhere wiping the ass of some lady but with due respect.

Anonymous · Answer

I try to be as chivalrous as possible, I may miss a few beats, but, I try as best I can to be

creativeusername101 · Answer

same place all the cowboys have gone. ;)

Jakesusername · Answer

I still open doors for women.

Keyspirits · Answer

Baby I'd do anything for u if u were mine ;3

Anonymous · Answer

Quit telling the world how selfish you are...

StickStickity13 · Answer

They're with the good girls

koko124 · Answer

Lol. Troll elsewhere please.

Anonymous · Answer

At my bus stop haha :D

misscoffeehead · Answer

Erm taken? Lol

Neverwrong05 · Answer

It's 2014, wake up.

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