Where did all the good/nice men go?

[Anonymous]

After all these years, it's getting more rare to find men who are 'nice' that tend for you. They were really prevalent in high school but after in college or uni a vast majority of them are the 'bad guys' and are assholes. If I did search harder I'm sure I'd find one but they're getting more rare. I remember there being this one nice guy he was really attractive as well. But now I think about it I do regret not talking to him more and not being as nice to him after awhile we began to drift away and I found this other guy who wasn't as nice at all and he wouldn't listen, it didn't last very long. Now it's been years and I can rarely find those types of guys. I wish I had a time machine to go back to that guy. I wonder where he is now.

[A_stranger]

They are everywhere but they usually get unnoticed. They usually don't be desperate for women and look for someone who'd they think is right for them.
And women have very high expectations and always looking for their 'perfect man'.
Like... He gotta be good looking, smart, strong and muscular, humourous, attractive and long list of conditions that the guy must fulfill to be eligible for the 'Perfect man' in her eyes.
But after all Men are human beings, gifted with many flaws too. You find a flaw you see it as a red flag and don't go for it.

I'm just generalizing it, I'm not saying this is just you. But that's what how it is now and people are very superficial these days, so that's what comes in the way of finding anyone good enough for anyone.

[A_stranger]

And there is another category of toxic men who think that they come in that 'nice guy' category and they push themselves too hard to be that gentleman and pressure themselves to be someone they're not, and do things that they don't want to do but it'd just make 'em look good.
And when they don't see anything happening, they come up with that toxicity and dark side and start complaining about the women, calling them names or judge them by their character or what not... So that's not really a healthy thing too

[timoz26]

They're everywhere; but don't bother looking. The "nice" men have learned that women don't want nice. They want someone to put their lives in order. They want a caveman. They want a bad boy; someone fresh out of prison. Of course they will never actually say it out loud. They'll continue to say they only want a nice man to treat them with respect and make a nice life together. That's what they'll say; but it's not true. They only want someone substantial.
In the years since leaving the Army, I thought I made a pretty good date. Flowers, chocolate; wearing my best clothes; making their family laugh, charming the kids and the dog. Planning a unique date instead of some movie, and some dinner, and some nightclub didn't get me anywhere.
I guess being single for the rest of my life could be worse. Too, bad. I'm not ugly and I'm a pretty good guy.

[LazerBean]

The majority of them get married in their early 20s and stop going places that single people lurk.

[Asker]

Why do they get taken so quickly?

[LazerBean]

Because they don't waste time with casual dating and only date other people who are looking for a marriage partner.

[bamesjond0069]

Im a total gentleman pay all the bills also attractive and confident. I only act this way for my girlfriend because she was a virgin for me, cooks, cleans, acts like a lady and is submissive. Otherewise fuck that im a total douche fuck boy to modern women or those with a past.

So im going to assume you were sweet and somewhat innocent in high school and now you're a modern nasty woman.

[DoctorSex]

Look at this question that a member posted. This type of behaviour is why guys stop being nice after college

[Man-O-Metal]

I found out too that the abundance of good/nice girls starts to get smaller as I get older. As people age, their true character becomes defined. Don't give up hope. It's sooo difficult, but we'll meet the right people someday.

[FilmGuy93]

They just get life experience. If treating women well got most men the results they are looking for, more men would treat women well. The problem is that most women don't respond well to being treated well.

[SiberFox]

On a similar question someone rlse posted this and I agree.
"Right next to all the good and feminine women"

[Wubs3000]

They are getting picked off by other women or are hiding in the shadows a bit more for another nice person

[Anonymous]

Men like these are shy and try to avoid imposing themselves on women, but because women give "bad boys" more attention they learn to imitate them.

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment and behave to have sex withy a woman.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is what it looks like.

[truthisthree]

no you mean hot men

those 20% of men

are over flowing with girls

so he really does not need you around

[Anonymous]

Your actions drove them to become bad boys. When you reward bad behavior and punish good behavior. People naturally drift towards bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/8YrCZ118o5A

304.

[jhl_x]

Being nice isn't rewarding anymore.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Nowhere, they're still in the same places.

[Wise4myage]

Were still out their.

[JackVE]

Out of your social circle. Branch out.

[Sam_25]

Nah I'm fuckboy... sorry.

[Anonymous]

Same place all the good and nice women went.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

were still out their