Where have all the good men gone?

[Adaeva]

Lucy Verner, Lesley Roberts, Julia Van Der Wens, Laura Hall, struggled to find men who meet to their dating expectations.

Google or search YouTube videos and you have lots of explanations. Regardless, the women asking are in their 30s and 40s or above. Girls in there early 20s never ask that question. Partly that is because women above their early 20s are far more likely to post. However, it may be that women in their thirties and above have failed to accept the reality that men they rejected in there early twenties no longer want them and because the women have failed to lower their expectations.

[RavVid]

I think you are mostly on the money Adaeva. I think there are other factors as well.

A guy in his early 30's can still form a relationship with a girl in her twenties. So women in their 30s/40s probably have to look for someone older. The balance of power starts shifting to men after the 20s where it is definitely girls that are running the show. Some 30s/40s women might not be facing up to that

It also depends on what women in their 30s/40s are wanting. Possibly it is marriage and children.

A guy in his 30s or 40s has certainly had failed relationships and so is going to be far more cautious. He will certainly know that he will do badly in a divorce and quite possibly think it is not worth the hazard ( As I do for example).

While there lots of guys who do want children, I think it is less important to men than it is too women. More it is men accept kids follow marriage. Men are more likely to see it as an economic question. Do I want that great car or children?

What I suggest is that whilst there are roughly equal numbers of single men and women in the 30s/40s a reasonable percentage will have decided against children and marriage. Those men who are pro marriage/kiddies are quite probably already taken. A smaller number are looking for a 20s girl.

Plus women become less attractive to men in their 30s/40s. They can still be undoubtedly but not Phoar attractive. I think the women in the pic are prob 40's (a bit old for me). I could still see men thinking 'nah no thanks'.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's a common tale. Women start off young with everything going for them. They have countless options and therefore they squander every opportunity looking for something better. One day the phones stop ringing. She looks in the mirror and sees the leathery skin and the creeses staring back at her. She goes into damage control and starts hitting the clubs. But no guy is approaching her. Finally she swallows her pride and starts approaching men. Some of the same men she's already rejected. These men converse with her after them not making a move after a while she frustratedly makes a move. He politely declines. She goes down the list, lowering her expectations (in her mind. Probably her biggest problem). Each time getting politely declined. If she was introspective at all about what she had done to men her entire life she would understand she has not lost any real value. She simply never had any value beyond her looks because she never developed anything beyond her looks. And now she is paying the price for that when her looks have failed her.

It's a very common tale.

[jshm2]

They haven't gone anywhere.

The meaning of "good men" has become so fragmented that most woman don't know what one is!

In the 40's a "good man" was one who wore a hat, had a moustache, and could work.

These days a "good man" is whatever pop star is flavour of the week.

[FilmGuy93]

Gotta blame the rest of the sisterhood for this one. You can only abuse, berate, and neglect a group of people for so long before they lose interest in dealing with you.

[OfMiceandMen]

We're hibernating, crawled under a log in the bush after being rejected so many times. 😂

[misogynistic_pig]

Good men are beta men, there are many of them.

[LazerBean]

Classic beta thing to say

[Jennz6]

Good question, that’s why I have a girlfriend

[inhua]

they should check their friendzone if it isn't empty yet

[Anonymous]

We're told they over inflated their own value, dismiss most of the men that are available, and the rest are either not available, not interested, or in their friends list.

[weysally]

I have a good man in my husband, and why should I lower my expectations anyway

[Keishio]

Maybe you didn't have high standards to begin with and had very realistic expectations for your partner to meet which isn't often the case nowadays

[Fryday_Knight]

I will answer. The truth is the following. The good men are either with good women or in the process of looking for a good woman.

[exitseven]

My sons had all they friends are good. Sometimes when I see them I remember that there are still good men out there.

[LiamJHayden]

" Hi, we waiting till our 40's and 50's and can't find any good men." That's because they are all with younger women.

[Adaeva]

Men are programmed by natural selection to be attracted to good baby makers; that is, younger women. However, younger women prefer men near their own age to a few years older. In fact, in the USA, the average ages for first marriage is 28.6 for women an 30.4 for men. www.brides.com/what-is-the-average-age-of-marriage-in-the-u-s-4685727

Therefore, older men must settle for who they can get. That is, mostly older women. That doesn't imply it is as easy for older women as it was when they were in their twenties for a number of reason including the demographics.

[mobiusforniner]

Married... geez, when i got my shit together, i was not on the market long.

[scott04sa22]

I looked for over 20 years and all I get is rejections. I have 2 ex's and both of them didn't worked out. I decided to stay single and enjoy life.

[Keishio]

I'd agree with that statement. People who have remained single into their later years are more than likely single for a reason

[RARETRAMP]

Good men don't exist deteriorated by playing video games and fapping all day long😠 😠

[Anonymous]

Home to watch Pornhub.

[LazerBean]

They're mostly married and off the market by 30.

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

Probably where all the good women went

[LimitedBenefits101]

Lol ofc they are in their 30s and 40s