How many of you have been admired but not chased ?

[TessAshwin]

i have noticed guy admiring me from a distance...sometimes...but they hardly ever chase me.. I mean today they will look at me,... the next day or after a couple days they hardly look at me...

i mean what is the psychology of guys

[mikess314]

Nerves usually. When I see a woman I like I get nervous that she'll reject me, thus confirming that I am an unlovable, hideous, worthless man and should proceed directly to the nearest 400 foot cliff. And so going to up to a girl and making the move is nerve wracking. Never assume that's it's somehow easier for men than it is for women to make the next move. We just don't have any other choice but to overcome that.

Most girls who aren't interested usually are nice enough to say they have a boyfriend or are engaged and just aren't wearing their ring or some other lie to spare our feelings. But some, and usually with a few drinks and around their girlfriends, will humiliate you publicly for daring to think they'd be interested. But that's a rare occurrence.

You need to look back and make sure you give him a little smile that's just for him. A little wave goes a hell of a long way too. If you aren't going to do the approaching then at least make damned sure that he knows you are approachable.

[wraite]

sometimes when we see girl sometimes we,re just checking you out you know that we,re visual it,s nature and there a times we would,nt mind trying to get with you if we think you are approachable,but then again some you give us that look like why would you dare to try to talk or even look at ME for that matter so we think you what what's the point F#@k it!

[Anonymous]

awesome question! I think every girl is pulling her hair out wondering why these weird creatures called men are doing this to us. they easily make eye contact, give all thee signs, but won't open their mouth and pursue us! what the fish!

from what I've learned, both from observing and from this site, men are afraid of rejection just like we are, probably even more, it hurts a lot if their ego is shot down, so sometimes they rather hide their feelings hoping the girl would approach them one day, and try not to make it too obvious. Or if they do ask you out, they will only when they are 100% sure you like them...

life sucks. =/

[TessAshwin]

This is crazy , I mean we girls even feel scared to approach becoz lol....wat if he says I was looking at someone else......i willl be completley shot down .lol..

[Rahim517]

Women control male/female interactions (i.e. they ultimately do the choosing), so they need to be more proactive in showing interest. I don't think women need to ask men out at all, but if you're an attractive woman, 90% of men will think you're already taken or that you may be looking to date only the ideal guy. If you just make definite eye contact and project open, interested body language you'll be surprised how many more men will play along.

[SugaSpice09]

ME! That is the story of my life! Even my friends comment on how many guys look at me yet here I am having only been in one relationship and I rarely to never get pursued or asked out. Guys make small talk all the time but never take it to the level of actually asking me out anywhere. Some people have said that I am friendly and sweet and innocent but still kind of give off a vibe of caution. But if I were to be more open then guys would get scared and run away and use the reasoning that "I seemed too eager". It seems you just can't win with guys. Maybe I just haven't met enough men yet.

[TessAshwin]

Wel.......can it be that the guys ......find you itimidating ...r you stunningly gorgeous

[SugaSpice09]

I'm not a supermodel, but I am more on the cute/pretty side. But apparently I give off the "don't go too far" vibe. At least that's what I've been told...

[TessAshwin]

Wel do you gets guys to admire you everday or two .....or is it rarely like wen you least expect it ....

[SugaSpice09]

No, I don't go a day without turning some guys head. I am not saying that to be full of myself or anything because that's not in my character. But it's true. But I never get asked out. It's nerve-wrecking!

[noricat]

Dating advice for men often state this but: Have the confidence to ask that attractive girl out, get to know her, yadda yadda so on.

The jist of it is that the irony is that she is so attractive most guys are too scared to ask her out, because they assume "I have no chance" or "she's probably already spoken for".

Your probably going to have to be a bit more proactive here, and do some approaching yourself. Guys like you, the problem is your too likeable from a distance, it scares us off! :)

[queenb2000]

it's simple...they're checkin' you out because you're attractive. doesn't mean they have to chase you. it works both ways; are you gonna chase every guy you thought was cute? I hope not! lol

[Dan2287]

I like what has been said already from the guys. We are just like you and fear rejection. Or they may be married but just find you attractive.

When I 'admire' a woman from afar, I'm usually afraid of rejection, and I don't want to creep her out by contantly starring at her. I never know when to approach someone or how to do so without feeling like a creep - like what do I say? 'Your gorgeous - give me your number and we'll go out sometime!'. Hell no, I can't do that

[ap1100]

I've looked at girls who have caught me looking at them and I didn't let up for a second or two. Sometimes, they would come over, sit near me, act coy, and I would be too nervous to strike up a conversation until they'd get up frustrated and leave. I feel a bit badly in retrospect, but perhaps that's your answer.

[noricat]

This. It can be really stressful to "be on the pull" or whatever 24/7 for some guys. Often I do notice the rare girl checking me out, and I ponder whether I should introduce myself, but at the end of the day I am just not that great at randomly introducing myself to strangers (sometimes I can, most times I have an "in", that is, a reason to talk or whatever, through a friend or because we share a class or whatever).

If its frustrating you, introduce yourself.

[AtomizerJr]

Don't assume that because a guy looks at you that it means he's interested in dating you.

He might be committed/married but simply looking because he thinks you're pretty.

[BlueGender]

Guys will only chase something they think they have a good shot of catching. A guy may like a new truck and be offered the chance to win it if he can run it down on the highway but most guys will just say. "Fuck. that."

They look away later because they think it's hopeless and they want to find something else.

If you want a guy to 'chase' you (and to be honest that really juvenile...) give him some hints you might be interested and that he stands a shot.

[GIntrovert]

I don't know why girls don't get that we are not all that different from you. Would you "chase" a guy? Why not? The reason you give, is probably the exact same reason you didn't "chase" that "cute guy" who showed no interest in you.

[Anonymous]

well us guys for sure can be admired by girls, but that doesn't mean they will chase us, sure some do but most won't, almost all the the time us guys have to do the pursuing and chasing.

[Anonymous]

thanks for the points

[lolli]

Lol