My long distance bf lied to me about him being single as well his age and location while I was using this fake kik account.. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I made a fake kik account and used other girls picture and so I found his kik name n messaged him to see if he's going to flirt. then he said Whos this and I was like I jus found you in my contacts. isn't it weird? Lol... and then I told him if we can be friends n he said sure. He asked me Where I was from then I said I'm from New york.. even tho I live in Cali.. and he said he also lived in Toronto instead of Vancouver (which was his real place when I asked him) He also lied about his age and said he was 22 jus like me but I'm really 17 and he's 19... Then finally I get to ask him if he has a gf and he said I'm single... then he said I wonder why you ask that and I told him that I was jus really curious. And thats about it.. I guess n I don't know what to do now. Should I keep talking to him on the fake account or should I break up with him asap? I feel hurt what if he really lied to me..:( He seems mysterious by the way he doesn't open up that much to me but I'm a good listener and respects him a lot

[Anonymous]

im sorry to tell you this, but this guy is taking advantage of you. first of all, you've never actually met. second of all he's lied to you about countless things which alone should send you running in the opposite direction. third you met him on a chat site asking to be friends... that in its self is asking for a guy to take advantage of you. you are 17 and he is 19, you are still a minor and therefore what he's doing is illegal. he does not like you, nor is he interested in you. he simply wants to see what he can get from you sexually and thats all. dont dump him. DELETE YOUR ACCOUNT AND NEVER TALK TO HIM AGAIN. what you are doing is irresponsible and dangerous

[Asker]

No i mean being friends like getting to knoe each other not about sex n stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

either way, my answer is still a no. he is not a real friend. please please please listen to me and honestly, get off that site and focus on the friends you have around you and not some stranger you met on the internet who is a liar. also, most of the time, predators will start off being "just friends" and then manipulates you into revealing more and more personal inforamtion about yourself. its very dangerous

[Asker]

But we've been together for almost 4months and He trust me a lot also he doesn't ask for any nude pics n jus simply flirts with me. Oh by the way that fake Kik account I think he blocked me after that cuz he got weirded out when I asked him if we can be friends n then he told me he had to sleep so it wasn't that long convo

[Opinion Owner]

honestly, you are being completely naive here. the guy is not your friend. doesn't matter if you've known him a day, a month or even a year. this guy is not your friend. i dont think you are ready to accept that and unfortunately, its not safe. you need to realize that it is not a real friendship and ill bet that he's just telling u a bunch of crap to make you feel as though you can trust him. and its sadly working.

[Opinion Owner]

please dont think im being rude here. im just worried about your safety. the internet is a dangerous place and i dont think you have the maturity to be dealing with this right now. have your parents taught you about the dangers of the internet and chat rooms and how people prey on girls such as yourself. its not a judgement so much as it is a warning. men on sites like that know what to say to get a girl to believe them.

[Asker]

So should I jus stopped talking to him or tell him Im breaking up with u..

[Opinion Owner]

you said so yourself, you're not even in a relationship with the guy. and let me repeat myself HE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND!! he does not need an appology from you. honestly, he could probably care less. just stop talking to him period. the minute you tell him you're ending things with him is the minute he can lure you back in. JUST BLOCK HIM AND DELETE ALL FORMS OF CONTACT YOU HAVE WITH HIM

[Opinion Owner]

please please please do what im telling you. you are not losing out on anything by doing this. it is for your own safety. i also think you need speak with your parents aobut this because you need to learn how to use the internet smart and safely

[Asker]

Tbh he gave me his address where he lives n he even showed me around. And I guess I gave him my address as well which The worst mistake I ever made :'(

[Asker]

Thank you I will be careful from now on :)

[Opinion Owner]

thank you for listening to me. i am fortunate to have parents who taught us about hte dangers of the internet. they always told me to stay away from chat sites because of situations like the one you were in. the truth is that most of these guys, and ill bet anything, that this guy, had you gone to see him, u could have been raped. my suggesiton, in addition to removing all ties with him 100% is to research how to use the internet safely and learn about the dangers associated with it. often times, people get themselves into trouble because they lack the education they need to make informed decisions. you are not too old to start. and please tell your parents because of the fact that you gave him your address. its important for them to be aware. that may seem like a scary thing to do and ur probs worrid about how ur parents will react and judge you, but they are your parents and its their job to protect you and love u unconditionally. -c-

[Opinion Owner]

so you should sit down with them and let them know the situation and let them know that you have learned your lesson and that you plan on doing research on how to use the internet safely and avoid things like this.

[Asker]

Have u been in this kind of situation b4 ?

[Opinion Owner]

no, i have not. I've always been smart about things like this.

[JustinTheGreat]

If you really like him, tell him. I have no idea what his reaction will be. He might be mad, he might not. Either way it's sounds like you should just stick to dating people in real life, since you're just going to lie to get people to like you

[Asker]

I was jus trying to find his real intentions

[Drooogie4]

Break up with him.
Looser alert.

[Asker]

But we've been together for almost 4 months and Tbh he was really sweet n nice when i first met him n I don't know what happen he turned sour and dry and barely had deep convos..

[Drooogie4]

He lied, said he was single, flirted with "another " girl.

that means he has no respect for you

[Asker]

He didn't really flirt to my 'fake' account. He got weirded out for some reason n the convo we had was rily short

[Drooogie4]

If you like guys guys who disrespect you, there you go

[Perpligued]

Entrapment!!

[Asker]

What do u mean

[Perpligued]

You made a deal with the devil. It's witchcraft.