Some good looking women have a hard time finding love. Jerks are only out to use her and ditch her. An the nice men are too afraid to ask her out or talk to her even.
I don't think of myself as hot or attractive. Very unconfident. But many guys have said I am attractive an one time when I went to a bar an met a few of my girl mates guy friends they was all gazing then all clammed up around me.
One guy weeks after seeing me out messaged me an said he didn't talk to me cus he was nervous as he thought I was pretty. I didn't get it though like we all human so what does it matter. I am shy so it does me no favours as I obviously would come across badly to the likes of this guy an any other who fancies me.
This one guys hand shakes when he serves me an he is extra nice when I would prefer him to say a joke an relax not consider me in high regard when I don't think or act that way.
I have dated hot, average and really not so hot guys as personality usually does it with me an I just have to like something about someone like smile , eyes an I will be attracted to them enough to date them.
An I get advice from guys like you approach them but I am shy too so I am screwed. Rejection sucks we all been there but if nobody goes for it nothing happens for me 😭
Guy on here was even shocked he got a date which shows he's a nice guy but not confident in himself. We all deserve love I just wish guys would give themselves a break an I realise how much harder it is to be a guy in the dating game
This site is really interesting :https://www.themodernman.com/dating/intimidated-by-beautiful-women.html
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I can help you understand why men are often intimidated in the begging vs a women.
Women can see an attractive man which gives them, lets say the initial attraction level of 5/10. Then given his interaction that level can either rise or diminish very quickly as we all know women connect on an emotionally level.
Men however can see an equally attractive female and his initial level will be at a 9/10. Already men (who we know are more responsive to visual stimulation) are on edge and throughout the interaction, the women has to have an abortion on the spot to break diminish her value to the guy.
I'm being very exaggerated to try to prove my point but think about when you've had a crush and the initial feeling you get when you see him enter a room. Men can have the same anxiety that you're experiencing however w/o the work up and interaction that women have built up to (i hope that made sense).
So in my opinion, women aren't as worked up as men are when meeting and for the most part, women have had more practice with this as they like you've pointed out, are approached by all sorts. She's had more experience in the dating and the situation as a whole is more comfortable.
An attractive girl in her 3 months will probably have had more "dating" encounters and opportunities than i will in my life time. I believe i represent the average guy in this observation.
Yeah I agree with you an understand that so men find it tougher in dating
Wow I read it again I totally get how hard it is now for guys :/
Boy i should proof read what i write. Pretty confusing stuff, i am glad you got through it.
Was bit confusing but hey don't worry lol
I would also like to add that women are enhanced by make-up and can (especially in bars / clubs) wear outfits that show off their figure and body more so that will also add to the visual stimulation a man gets from the woman. I read this somewhere when a woman said she hardly found that many men attractive visually, she said 10% were visually attractive to her and also if you remember a lot of the no make-up selfies women were posting on Facebook about 3-4 years ago, a lot on mine were dramatically less attractive without make-up, ones on mine that are really beautiful with it.