I had a one night stand and now I have feelings for the guy... Should I text him?

[Anonymous]

In that moment I though it was a good idea but now I feel awful and it was my first time. He is from Germany and I always had a thing for german guys (my first kiss was a german guy too).
We spend the night together and he hugged me all the night and the next morning he didn't said anything about see each other again but I am obssesed with him and I want to text him but I dont want to look like the stupid girl that acted so easily and now is demanding a relationship or something.
What guys think about that?

Updates

+1 y

Sorry my English !

[Anonymous]

NOOOOO.

He expected you to be what you were, a 1 nite stand.
Unlike with most females, he did NOT get feelings for you because of sex.
You were simply sex. Nothing else and the ability to go from an easy lay to a relationship is a low one, because once we determine that a female is willing to reduce herself to that so easily, we lose any sense of respect that we normally would have for a female who doesn't. There are two types of females, those who make us work for sex and inevitably the side affect of having to wait and work for it, forces us to get to know her more and we grow attached to her as a person... or the girl who allows us to have sex with her without any of the actual effort or time and therefore we have no need to by the cow because we got the milk for free.

[Asker]

But I am from Czech Republic and most of the guys don't look bad at girls that have casual sex because if they can do it why girls don't? But I don't know with german guys, especially because he hasn't contacted me in 2 days.

[Opinion Owner]

That may be true, but I can assure you he didn't grow feelings for you over sex. Women get attached with sex because of chemicals in the brain. We don't.

[ChocEyes]

No, don't do it. If it was a one night stand, it was a one night stand. Texting him would mean breaking the original agreement. Besides, if he was interested in you he would have showed that, don't you think?

My honest advice is: try to get over it before it turns into something bigger. You're still young; withtime, one night stands won't be a big deal for you anymore. Take care, kid.

[naughtygal]

No, you won't look stupid, most certainly he would feel very flattered. I think you SHOULD TEXT HIM! You will regret if you do not do it now.
Some guys are just to shy to text a girl, but that does not mean he would not want to see you again or maybe even date you. Good luck

[alonzoslade]

HAHAHAHA, don't listen to this woman. I HIGHLY AND VEHEMENTLY disagree. There is NO logic is what she just said.

[naughtygal]

WTF is your problem with my answer? After all she does what she wants and what she feels I just gave her my humble opinion. If you dont agree you should give your opinion, but not on my answer.
And if I will ever have a one night stand with a guy and after I would want to see him again I would text him, there is no big deal. But yeah, we europeans see these things very different as far as I can see... and please, dont bother to replay, I dont care ;) @alonzoslade

[alonzoslade]

He doesn't want to contact you though. If a guy has a one night stand, he just wants some booty.

[smartgal]

I think you should text him. If isn´t interested in you he would let you know ( he won´t text you back or he will make out excuses why he can't talk) and you shouldn fell stupid about it.

[Yesits_GalaxyHotChoc]

If he knows you really like him he may sense clingy-ness and pull away, if you want to text him just do it but keep it brief and see how it goes, but don't expect too much out of this.

[kambo_trick3y]

...

media0.giphy.com/media/Rhhr8D5mKSX7O/giphy.gif

...

[I_am_repulsive]

Nothing good can come out of this so don't text him at all; it was a one night stand after all

[QuestionMan]

Well if the original intention was for a one night stand then I don't see how you could get a relationship with him. Don't text him you will seem very clingy just move on.

[idkwtftoputhere]

No. It was a one night stand so you knew what you were getting yourself into, just let it go since you were probably just sex to him.

[reptocarl]

Yeah say nothing, that'll get you what you want. Have fun with that

[Anonymous]

Don't text him... you were just sex to him... nothing more really :( else he would have texted you...

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Text him. But keep it casual and dont be pushu