Why did he kick me out of all sudden?

[Anonymous]

I was shocked when I got kicked out in the morning after I slept with a guy I have been seeing and built some sort of relationship with. He did it in a nice way but that night of all sudden he was rude towards me for the first time ever. I came over only to sleep with him but I still thought it was weird after all time spent with him, I felt like a piece of meat unlike before. I thought it was over between us but then I get a text where he tells me he wants to keep stay in touch, I told him I would get back to him and ended up in his bed later on but now he definitely wasn't rude towards me it was like it used to be. He did not kick me out in the morning, he cuddled me, we talked until I decided to leave. I still talk to him but what he did definitely ruined my opinion of him and I don't talk to him that much anymore and he keeps asking why he never hear from me. I do not get it.

[pavlove]

I got this I got this...

So he spent time with you, enjoying the process along the way which all guys must do in order to avoid coming off as a jerk/creep, but ultimately so he could sleep with you. once that happened, his body no longer felt a strong impulse to be around you and yet you were there (this is the basis of someone annoying you.)

He kicked you out but told you stay in touch because he wanted you available for sex later when the feeling of not wanting to be around you passed (when he got horny again.) When you responded favorably, it translated to him that you were fine with the arrangement that he created (hooking up with no strings) and so he could relax around you knowing he could hypothetically send you home whenever he wanted and you wouldn't insist on staying with him (being annoying.)

Of course what he suspected but hoped wasn't the case is that you weren't so happy with this arrangement but only went along with it because you believed something more may come from it/were confused by his actions. However, the resentment that comes from the realization that who you are or even that you are doesn't matter to him causes lack not only anger but lack of trust.

this is why a guy has to be really honest about wanting to be hook up buddies. the problem is, its hard to find an attractive girl who isn't already someones hook up buddy but is looking for one.

[Asker]

That is a great opinion. So basically after five months together, he just sees me as something to hump now? He still asks me in person even after this, why I never reach out for him. I simply don't. I keep getting texts where he once again says he wants me to stay in touch with him and then these texts where he is trying to get some but I turned him down.

[aliencreature]

if you want to know what a man REALLY thinks jerk him off

too many girls love to delude themselves into thinking the way a man treats them when he's horny is how he should treat them always, but its him YOU can't accept, not vice versa

[MargaritaPeach]

You said he keeps asking you why he doesn't hear from you anymore. Tell him! Just say: "Look, after we slept together last time, you kicked me out. That made me feel disrespected. I don't like it."

Then he will know. He can take steps to correct the situation, or he can continue acting like a jerk. Either way, his reaction to it should help you decide on how to move forward with this guy.

It may have been intentional, or he could just be clueless. But telling him is the right thing to do, NB because leaving someone hanging is never the decent way out.