Will a guy talk to other girls comfortably but not talk to the one he likes?

he seems capable to talk to other guys and girls on the spot and he looks really relaxed, leans back and just has a good time smiling and stuff. Yet when I go and talk to him, he seems quite tense and anxious, sitting straight up and sometimes seems caught off guard when we are talking. We talk online, he seems fine then, having good conversation, and he helps me with things I’m confused/worried about. I also see him stare at me, my friend said when I was talking to another guy he was staring right at me. And last week I turned around and was looking at something and my eyes passed him and he was looking at me and when we made eye contact he quickly turned away. He seems to only make conversation with me when he has a specific reason too, like something to start off of, I don’t know if he’s shy around me or something though. I know in one class we have together he can go and talk to the girl he sits beside and not have any trouble; he talks to her as he does to his guy friends, but around me he’s different. The thing is he’s a year older (that other girl is too) so I don’t know if that makes a difference. What’s up with him though? He talks to everyone else fine, but he stares at me all the time until I notice then he looks away.


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  • Makes complete sense. He likes you. Guys, at least to my knowledge, get nervous around the girl they like. Ok he can talk to other guys fine but he is looking at you, that means he is thinking of you all the time. He talks well with you if he has a specific reason to because he practiced that all night and he doesn't want to mess up and look like an idiot in front of you. He is all tense and anxious when you go and talk to him, that is because he was thinking about you and you showed up and he is wondering if you somehow figured out what he was thinking about. He can talk easily online to you, that is because online you can type something, look at it, then delete the stupid joke he made, then retype it and send it to you. He can talk to other girls because he doesn't like them, he likes you! Being a year older doesn't matter, all that matters is how he feels for you. He looks at you then when you look back he looks away because he is shy and embarrassed that you caught him looking at you. Go up to him calmly and talk to him, maybe bring up hanging out outside of school if you like him back. See what develops.

    • Thanks!

      one other thing...he was away yesterday, but he didn't ask me what he missed...when he came into class he talked to the girl beside him about what we did, yet then I looked at him at one point and he turned quickly so I think he was looking at me. at the end of class he looked again, but then I held the door for him and he moved quicker to get the door but he didn't say thanks and then another guy came and talked to me and he just walked behind...why wouldn;t he say thanks/talk?!

    • Most likely he is just really shy, he wasn't prepared to ask you, and when you were nice to him by holding the door he was thinking "aww <3" but he was too shy to thank you! Just try what I said and maybe it will develop.

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What Guys Said 2

  • He likes you. And he's making it as obvious, to the best of his ability. Most guys will be like that (not saying much to their romantic interest). They want you to view them in the best light as possible. That involves not saying something stupid or weird. So he's scared that something he says will repel you, and then he'll lose you. So yeah. Talk to him, make yourself appealing and natural in conversations with him, and he'll loosen up with time.

    • Thanks :)

      I wanted to ask about this situation

      last week we were going to another room to do work and I was behind him when I went in and he was just standing there and I took the seat by where he was standing and he looked at me and his hand was on the chair to take it but then someone yelled me name and then someone called him and he sat behind me instead of beside me...but then after I saw him looking at me and when I made eye contact he looked away...but why didn't he sit by me?

    • Fear more than likely. It takes courage to be that close to a crush, especially if he doesn't know his feelings are reciprocated. The calling of your name may have scared him too, possibly because he wants to be alone with you, and he's worried you're too popular (eg: out of his league/too good for him). Whatever his thoughts, he just chickened out at the time. It happens a lot. Don't worry about it; it's just another sign he likes you.

  • He likes you. I have tons of friends that are girls and I am totally comfortable talking to them because we are just good friends and I know they can tell me anything and I can say ANYTHING around them because we are close. They all think I'm really funny too, however when I get near the girl I like, its totally different. I can't tell any jokes, I don't know what to say, I'm real nervous she thinks what I'm saying is dumb, and I never talk to her unless I have a good way to start a conversation. He obviously likes you.


What Girls Said 1

  • all the facts you told seem to be that he really likes you and it's normal for everyone to get anxious and bit conscious when ever we have someone around whom we like or we want to have something else rather than friendship:) he likes you alot...it's just tht he's unable to say it to you may b he feels about what you'll think or feel after this...