Is there such a thing as an attractive loner?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy I know who is by far one of the most handsome men on the planet. He is musically gifted, a bit eccentric but non the less, intelligent. He claims he was a loner in high school and was quiet but i find that hard to believe now because he's so handsome and girls flock to him. Do you think he is lying to me? I thought most loners were deemed unattractive by societies standards? He is conventionally attractive. Men even admit he is a handsome man.

[Scrambledagain]

I classify myself as a handsome loner. I do gym, have 6 pack, v line, am a business manager and surprise surprise am also a musician who loves creating bands and I played in Brisbane now. But here is the thing: sweet men/nice guys/introverts/ etc are deemed boring. So although some men are hot as hell, they lose out because they are not dominant or have they fun charismatic vibe. Some can even have fun without dominance and these guys still lose to less pretty men. I am always out gamed by my chubby friends. Even my bassist who lives with his parents and is addicted to drugs at my age (yip) gets way more women than me.

[Asker]

The guy im talking about sounds a lot like u. he is a musician. he is a successful songwriter and music producer. so are u saying he's just maybe shy, introvertedd, not really into the norm or other guys and that put other girls off?

[Scrambledagain]

I would say yes. Many musos are introverts by nature, they can create a lot because they sit and think. but personality counts a lot for a guy and if he doesn't have that, he will struggle. I have another friend who is an fHM model l, they also asked him to work in Milan as a model. He is actually too pretty. He struggles with women too. Has only had a handful. That bassist I speak of had had way more than him. Ugly drug addicted bassist vs fHM model? It's ironic just how much "nice" or "shy" or "nice guys" lose out despite what they look like.

[Asker]

i agree. personality wins women over and looks win men over.

[Dan2287]

I've been told I was attractive in high school and knew a few girls were interested in me (One wrote her number in my agenda, one 'forgot' textbooks at home so she could sit by and work with me, I overheard a few conversations about me and some of the girls, etc), but I was definitely a loner. But they never actually approached me - and I sure as hell wasn't going to approach them, I was a coward and still kind of am.

Do I think he is lying to you? no. Are loners deemed unattractive? no, it's a personality trait more than anything

[existing_not_living]

Lol, what does it matter if he's lying? Like, I don't think that's something someone would lie about.

[Asker]

Well I guess I'm intrigued by him. I like him a lot. He is a little eccentric.

[MissNowhere]

They're pretty rare, but yeah, of course it's possible.

[DasVoz]

Being introverted is a personality trait that can be nurtured outward to some degree, but will revert once reinforcement is removed.

There is no correlation between a being an introvert and being ugly. However, there are plenty of introverts (especially women) who are carried along by extroverted peers and APPEAR to not be introverted.

Make no mistake, these people would be getting along just fine alone without other people holding their hand. This guy is an introvert but was more interested in his art than being carried by his peers, so he ended up alone. It happens. Heck, I'm the same way minus the handsome.

[serious]

Who ever said that loners are unattractive? I mean society will say anything and most of them are just plain nonsense, at least according to me. Yes, of course loners can be attractive and appealing to others as well, it's that person's decision to stay as a loner that doesn't necessarily mean they are unattractive.

[666MPH]

Yes, though they're rare. A lot of withdrawn people are ugly and have low self-esteem as a result, making it harder for them to socialize.

Also, I think most people tend to define loner incorrectly. It's not a moderately shy person who has friends but doesn't say much to strangers. They're the person who rarely opens their mouth, avoids contact with others, and has no friends at all. That's what I was like through high school, and to an extent, am like now.

[Asker]

He said by your definition, he was a loner...

[666MPH]

Then he's a rare case. Loners who aren't ugly, psycho, unsanitary, or a combination of those are unusual.

[Asker]

he may be psycho...

[666MPH]

Heh. What makes you think that?

[Asker]

I don't think that. But it's possible. I don't know him personally. Maybe he wasn't all that attractive as a kid. He claims he was a late bloomer. So maybe that's what it is. Oh and he is some what famous these days

[Jon_Gre_g]

Sounds like the definition of me.
#swag #alpha.

Loners are seen as mysterious and slightly alluring by the opposite sex for some reason so yeah those type do exist, although a bit more rare than traditional hotties. Most hot guys get a huge ego boost from their looks which in turn makes them more outgoing and confident. They have no lack of friends or admirers and are almost always surrounded by both sexes. But some do choose to turn down the added social benefits.

[AleDeEurope]

It's very possible, being handsome doesn't you can't be alone, or enjoy being alone more than with others, especially if those others are immature HS kids.

[jman46241]

I have been told many times that I am an attractive and a bit of an eccentric man, yet I consider myself somewhat a loner. I haven't ever really had a problem meeting girls or finding friends, but I just prefer to be by myself most of the time.

[mr90skid]

"most loners were deemed unattractive by societies standards" <- Fuck! I hate that!!
Looks have nothing to do with it! I'm somewhat of a loner and I know I ain't unattractive

[Sabretooth]

am i unattractive www.facebook.com/photo.php

[Daynada]

It says I'm not permitted to tell you

[Sabretooth]

@Daynada huh?

[Daynada]

Yeah, you're FB thing, whatever

[Sabretooth]

@Daynada not sure why.

[Asker]

@Daynada that link is a virus. Hope u didn't click it

[Sabretooth]

no it's not! my point is that there are a number of things that make someone a loner, the kinds of things you keep hidden.

[Asker]

Like what?

[Sabretooth]

Abuse, being neglected, stuff like that

[Asker]

Aww that's true. Do u think low self esteem too?

[Sabretooth]

Yes.

[Asker]

U don't think it's anything bad like him being a sociopath or anything?

[Sabretooth]

if he's anything like me, i'm sure he's had people call him such things.

[Sabretooth]

we're also the most loyal.

[Sabretooth]

if we let you in.

[Asker]

How do I show him in trustworthy?

[Sabretooth]

just keep yourself available, stand up for him if people talk about him behind his back, i'm sure you got a group of friends, invite him to hang out with the group.

[Daynada]

@Sabretooth no worries
@Asker thank you

[Sabretooth]

@Daynada no problem. good luck

[Daynada]

@Sabretooth good luck for what?

[Sabretooth]

@Daynada in succeeding

[Daynada]

@Sabretooth yep, you as well

[Sabretooth]

@Daynada thanks

[Daynada]

@Sabretooth why would you tell me that just out of the blue? I was just making a comment about your FB page. Why would you tell me good luck?

[Sabretooth]

@Daynada was talking to the asker.

[Asker]

but you mentioned her...

[Sabretooth]

to be fair, i've had a few rough nights.

[Asker]

lol... honesty is key

[Daynada]

@Sabretooth good backpedal

[Sabretooth]

Just don't follow through if you're only looking for something temporary

[Humping_Tornadoes]

Being attractive doesn't necessarily mean being popular, specially with men that re more competitive.

[Humping_Tornadoes]

are*

[singlebee]

Well being a longer can be along do because of being shy... He could be shy.. So he must be introverted

[Anonymous]

i'm like him so itotally believe him. girls flocking means nothing to me, i'm actually appalled by the criteria and attractions of most of them. when i became worse and achieved some superficial things i became more attractive but i dont like it.

[Asker]

How do you feel about yourself inside? Are you an angry person or are you nervous? Scared? What's going on?

[Opinion Owner]

neutral and apathetic. not bad. and i have sympathy for the weak, wronged and innocent.

[Asker]

Most people are apathetic. The extremes are the empathetic and the sociopathic. So your apathy is the reason for your loner preference?

[Opinion Owner]

yeah i like chilled things. there is no chilled with women. except if she is some extreme rasta pothead weirdo... .

[Asker]

Plenty of apathetic women out here. Very chilled. I don't think I could be with someone apathetic. I'm empathetic and I don't trust anyone who isn't empathic.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah, well dont waste your time with him. find someone who suits your style

[Asker]

I don't know if he's apathetic or not. I don't know him personally

[Opinion Owner]

well honestly girl. if i were you i wouldn't want to hung out with you. you think so superficially and societally. you have preconceived notions of how attractive men can be loners and "unattractive" can etc. an intellectual and artistic introvert like him probably wants nothing to do with you.

[Asker]

I'm an artistic introvert myself. So you're the one making generalizations. I asked a question. I wanted insight. You don't have to be rude. You apathetic asshole.

[Opinion Owner]

why thing something so retarded and insulting as that he is lying? i'd be insulted in his place if you told me "you are lying/kidding right?"

[Opinion Owner]

think*

[Asker]

I never expressed that to him. I didn't really think he was lying but maybe had a habit downplaying himself. Wtf are u talking about.

[Opinion Owner]

whatever the fuck i want. you accused him of lying, i told you he most probably isn't. proceed however you see fit with him. do you have any special fetish? you wanted him more experienced or somthing?

[Asker]

No. I like him just as he is. He's perfect to me.

[HaveNoName]

I don't know. I'm a loner. I love being a loner. But I don't know if I am attractive :)

[Asker]

Why do u like being alone?

[HaveNoName]

I love to be lost in my thoughts. And the hobbies I have are very difficult to share with others. can't find any like minded company in the family either.

[Woodyyyy]

Not too hard to believe. He was a loner in HIGH SCHOOL. Hell, most kids look awkward as hell in high school compared to older years.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Well I'm a loner. You don't think I'm attractive? :P

[APRU5]

Kinda sound like me. Minus the women flock around part.

[jwhit]

I knew a few girls back in high school that were like that.

[damiansgirl2016]

Yes, there are but be very careful.

[Asker]

Why?

[damiansgirl2016]

Because sometimes loners can be considered weird. I'm just warning you.

[Tha_Girl]

Maybe

[Anonymous]

Only if they are attractive and nice personality.

[Asker]

Huh what?

[Opinion Owner]

The loner must be attractive and personality to the beholder its only fair

[apple24]

I am a loner too!