Is there such a thing as an attractive loner?

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There's a guy I know who is by far one of the most handsome men on the planet. He is musically gifted, a bit eccentric but non the less, intelligent. He claims he was a loner in high school and was quiet but i find that hard to believe now because he's so handsome and girls flock to him. Do you think he is lying to me? I thought most loners were deemed unattractive by societies standards? He is conventionally attractive. Men even admit he is a handsome man.

Scrambledagain · Accepted Answer

I classify myself as a handsome loner. I do gym, have 6 pack, v line, am a business manager and surprise surprise am also a musician who loves creating bands and I played in Brisbane now. But here is the thing: sweet men/nice guys/introverts/ etc are deemed boring. So although some men are hot as hell, they lose out because they are not dominant or have they fun charismatic vibe. Some can even have fun without dominance and these guys still lose to less pretty men. I am always out gamed by my chubby friends. Even my bassist who lives with his parents and is addicted to drugs at my age (yip) gets way more women than me.

Dan2287 · Accepted Answer

I've been told I was attractive in high school and knew a few girls were interested in me (One wrote her number in my agenda, one 'forgot' textbooks at home so she could sit by and work with me, I overheard a few conversations about me and some of the girls, etc), but I was definitely a loner. But they never actually approached me - and I sure as hell wasn't going to approach them, I was a coward and still kind of am.

Do I think he is lying to you? no. Are loners deemed unattractive? no, it's a personality trait more than anything

existing_not_living · Accepted Answer

Lol, what does it matter if he's lying? Like, I don't think that's something someone would lie about.

MissNowhere · Accepted Answer

They're pretty rare, but yeah, of course it's possible.

DasVoz · Answer

Being introverted is a personality trait that can be nurtured outward to some degree, but will revert once reinforcement is removed.

There is no correlation between a being an introvert and being ugly. However, there are plenty of introverts (especially women) who are carried along by extroverted peers and APPEAR to not be introverted.

Make no mistake, these people would be getting along just fine alone without other people holding their hand. This guy is an introvert but was more interested in his art than being carried by his peers, so he ended up alone. It happens. Heck, I'm the same way minus the handsome.

serious · Answer

Who ever said that loners are unattractive? I mean society will say anything and most of them are just plain nonsense, at least according to me. Yes, of course loners can be attractive and appealing to others as well, it's that person's decision to stay as a loner that doesn't necessarily mean they are unattractive.

666MPH · Answer

Yes, though they're rare. A lot of withdrawn people are ugly and have low self-esteem as a result, making it harder for them to socialize.

Also, I think most people tend to define loner incorrectly. It's not a moderately shy person who has friends but doesn't say much to strangers. They're the person who rarely opens their mouth, avoids contact with others, and has no friends at all. That's what I was like through high school, and to an extent, am like now.

Jon_Gre_g · Answer

Sounds like the definition of me.
#swag #alpha.

Loners are seen as mysterious and slightly alluring by the opposite sex for some reason so yeah those type do exist, although a bit more rare than traditional hotties. Most hot guys get a huge ego boost from their looks which in turn makes them more outgoing and confident. They have no lack of friends or admirers and are almost always surrounded by both sexes. But some do choose to turn down the added social benefits.

AleDeEurope · Answer

It's very possible, being handsome doesn't you can't be alone, or enjoy being alone more than with others, especially if those others are immature HS kids.

jman46241 · Answer

I have been told many times that I am an attractive and a bit of an eccentric man, yet I consider myself somewhat a loner. I haven't ever really had a problem meeting girls or finding friends, but I just prefer to be by myself most of the time.

mr90skid · Answer

"most loners were deemed unattractive by societies standards" <- Fuck! I hate that!! Looks have nothing to do with it! I'm somewhat of a loner and I know I ain't unattractive

Sabretooth · Answer

am i unattractive

Humping_Tornadoes · Answer

Being attractive doesn't necessarily mean being popular, specially with men that re more competitive.

singlebee · Answer

Well being a longer can be along do because of being shy... He could be shy.. So he must be introverted

Anonymous · Answer

i'm like him so itotally believe him. girls flocking means nothing to me, i'm actually appalled by the criteria and attractions of most of them. when i became worse and achieved some superficial things i became more attractive but i dont like it.

HaveNoName · Answer

I don't know. I'm a loner. I love being a loner. But I don't know if I am attractive :)

Woodyyyy · Answer

Not too hard to believe. He was a loner in HIGH SCHOOL. Hell, most kids look awkward as hell in high school compared to older years.

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

Well I'm a loner. You don't think I'm attractive? :P

jwhit · Answer

I knew a few girls back in high school that were like that.

APRU5 · Answer

Kinda sound like me. Minus the women flock around part.

damiansgirl2016 · Answer

Yes, there are but be very careful.

Tha_Girl · Answer

Maybe

Anonymous · Answer

Only if they are attractive and nice personality.

apple24 · Answer

I am a loner too!

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