Why do guys feel so comfortable around me so quickly?

[Anonymous]

whenever i Meet a guy whether im interested in them or not they always get too comfy w. me & in result of that makes me uncomfortable. For example a guy would talk to me & we strike up a convo now they feel comfortable enough to ask for my number which makes me feel uncomfortable. Or some guys will too comfortable with me by touching me , grabbing me , & giving me hugs each time they see me & im not really the affectionate type , especially if i. dont know u & im not that comfortable with u. It sumtimes upsets me because i feel like there crossing boundaries one , & i feel like u give a guy a inch & they take a mile. It really bothers me cuz i dont like people touching me , especially guys i. dont find attractive or are interested in any type of way.

[AnonKuma]

You are prob unintentionally doing something that is causing them to misunderstand the situation/circumstances between the both of you that is causing them to b so "comfortable" around you. This may sound unfair, but if you change your behavior (whereas you may ask why should u change since it's their problem and not urs) then maybe they wouldn't feel as comfortable as they would feel or you could lowkey avoid there approaches by having a girl friend near u which could give u a reason to somehow redirect the atmosphere somewhere else

[Asker]

what do u mean by unintentionally doing something? can u give an example please

[AnonKuma]

I can't really give you an example, but basically what is happening is that something you're doing or the way you behave around them is causing them to either misunderstand something along the way into thinking that you might be interested in them or that you are a really open person.

Perhaps it's your actions, them overthinking something which leads to misunderstanding, something along those lines.

[rwlock]

Haha well I'm usually pretty aggressive when it comes to approaching girls so I tend to get physical pretty quickly. But I'm not stupid, and if I can tell she's uncomfortable then I'll back off.

So either you're sending mixed signals, or the guys don't know how to take a hint.

[Anonymous]

You probably have a "vibe" that makes them feel comfortable around you. It's usually a positive thing.

[Asker]

What kind of vibe

[Mesonfielde]

Because you wrote an entire paragraph about all the things that make you uncomfortable around them, and they can see that.

[Asker]

U sound dum

[Mesonfielde]

LOL.

[D367hcetuu]

Jerk.

[tyber1]

Ok look, I get you not liking the touchy stuff but you're seriously going to get upset that guys ask you out? Women expect us to make the first move. Most women are too cowardly to do it on their own so it's their only means of getting with a woman. Guys will not know about your preference and they won't care frankly, its women who insist on things being this way so don't blame us.

[Asker]

None of them asked me out...

[tyber1]

If they're asking for your number, they're basically asking you out unless you're friends or they have a reason to text you. How are you not getting thay?

[D367hcetuu]

Woman hating jerk.

[Pyrofox]

maybe because your so open to them that they feel like they can take advantage of you.

Me personally I leave the making a move stuff to the female gender.

[Asker]

what do u mean by open? , i thought i was rather secretive & closed

[Pyrofox]

They way you hold yourself the confidence aura you give off is too friendly sometimes its better to believe in your self. If you seem like someone who needs others to function people will take advantage of that.

[Asker]

Wait i dont get it 😩 elaborate more pls

[Pyrofox]

If you act open and dont seem to hold your self up right men in particular will take advantage. Its effectively the same idea as getting bullied.

Where the the bully keeps picking on the person because that person isn't standing up to the bully so the bully feels pride and a rush of pleasure from picking on the weak.

[D367hcetuu]

Pusssy boy

[Pyrofox]

@D367hcetuu So you want to be treated like a trophy?

[jc1982]

we dont know you and can't answer that. Your fuck off sign is too subtle. Some boys think if they can get you to talk with them they can get you to sleep with them. but dont be uncomfortable just be more of a bitch maybe they will all back off.

[D367hcetuu]

Stop cursing to a woman.

[Dat_Kid]

If you're respectful, friendly and open, you'll get along with a lot of people Don't be too open though.

[Anonymous]

you just probably have that "thing" about you. why question it?

[Asker]

what "thing " elaborate please...

[Opinion Owner]

again, why question it?

[Asker]

Ur annoying...

[Opinion Owner]

as are you

[Asker]

Smd cunt

[Opinion Owner]

bitch

[D367hcetuu]

You are an assahole prickkk.

[Splintercell]

When they go for a hug give them a hand shake.

[Walls_and_Doors]

You seem human enough.