Have you ever regretted friendzoning a girl?

Question

She tells you she likes you, you tell her you are t interested and then later realize you do have feelings or maybe something changes that you regret friendzoning her?

bradderstheclaret · Accepted Answer

I don't believe in retrospective 'friend zoning'. When a guy meets a girl he makes an immediate, split second judgement; based on the question 'Would I like to have sex with this person?'

If the answer is 'no' you're in the immediate friend zone (IFZ). This means you will never have sex with him because although men have a very low standard you look like Dave Hill; the long haired guitarist from 'Slade'.

You could however, be in the maybe friend zone (MFZ). This is the group of guys who are attracted to you sexually and would have sex when drunkenly encouraged - but would be ashamed to have all their Facebook friends from high school see your wedding pictures: "Look at the fat fuck he married!" they shout...

Then there's the long term friend zone (TWATS). These are the guys who play a long game, they always wanted to have sex with you but pretend to be your friend whilst always undermining the other men in your life.

Instead look out for a guy who is different to the others, a guy who wants you for what you are, a guy who sees your flaws as endearing and not as weaknesses. Look for a guy who can be unconventional and spontaneous; he is the one who will always be there and will never let you down.

Tdieseler · Accepted Answer

No guy regrets friends-zoning a girl... why? because girl's emotions last long. he could "friend-zone" her now... and then later come back and the emotions would still be there... but any Smart girl will know to shut his ass down when he comes back, she ain't no fall-back girl.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know some guys who say that they regret friendzoning girls that they seem to see potential in sadly only AFTER they leave and are no longer in their lives. I guess when options run out, they start to realize what they were missing out on, or that something is really missing. On the other hand, I know plenty of guys who never seem to regret anything. Or at least don't show it and express their feelings. I'm sure somewhere in the back of the minds, they do think about the what ifs. Here's the thing though, if they do start to regret friendzoning someone AND they care enough, they will come back. If they don't, it wasn't meant to be. Move on, and find someone better who won't friendzone you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm not male, but I have been in this situation and I can say that I do regret freind zoning this one guy that I knew liked me!! We are like Best of freindz now and have been for 2 years and I fancy the hell out of him !! I freindzoned him cos I didn't like him and not long after that did I develope feelings! But I kept quite cos I had rejected him and my feelings have only gotten stronger over time... Now I'm deep in the freindzoned and if I do somthing now, I risk losing a good friendship !! Specially rejection, cos he has most likely moved on due to me freind zoning him long ago!
So yeah, I have freindzoned somone and regretted it!:(

sighnothing · Accepted Answer

Well, I've regretted friendzoning a guy before 'cause now we've been dating for close to a year after 3 years of "just friends".

As for girls, there's been a few I've had to friendzone, and I regret one or two. As for the other girls, after I turned them down I saw their true colors and I was glad to have dodged those bullets.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Definitely hasn't happened to me, if I don't find someone attractive then unfortunately that's final. I do know that some people are a bit more fluid about it for some reason though.

Lynx122 · Answer

Nope there was a girl that liked me but I wasn't attracted to her even though we got along ok. I didn't know she liked me for a long time because I was clueless, so I had friendly conversations with her which was probaby not the best thing to do.(I will give myself ten lashes to repent for my sins ) :)

Since I was inexperienced and didn't know what to do when it came to girls I had no confidence was shy even though I didn't really have many insecurities. So I actually was the most open and talkative with the girls I wasn't attracted to since there was no mess in my brain. So maybe she misunderstood that for me beeing interested in her.

Once I did suspect that she liked me I still wasn't attracted to her and she was also close to half my size (ok maybe not quite).
I don't mind hight difference if I like a girl but this wasn't the case here. Anyway I never regretted not dating her and as far as i know that's the only girl this happened with. If there was someone else then I didn't know, so I can't say if I regret not dating them.

Depongo · Answer

TL;DR: Yes, and I'm sure most guys would, too (though as I see the comments, most of them don't seem to. Maybe it's cause of my inexperienced young age at the time). I'm guessing girls don't regret it as much.
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OMG, YES! Just today I was getting torn over not getting along with a girl that obviously liked me (probably because of my fit body and unique coolness and craziness). I'm 16 and 3 years ago a girl named Elena was a very famous chick in school (part of my class). She had golden color hair, looked like an innocent angel. She even asked me for my number over Facebook, but I didn't know it. I was gonna check it, but I couldn't at the time. And so I forgot about it, thinking it'd be awkward to answer so late. 2 years later, I give it, apologizing for being late like that. By that time we're both our ways in high school and she already has a boyfriend. It's like making an invention and give it to someone else, thinking it's not good enough only to realise it made that person millions of dollars. We are great friends, still.
I thought there were more chicks like her, so I didn't commit, thinking someone would come up. I still feel sorry about it to this day and I wonder why I didn't get on with her. Maybe because I had overestimated myself, thinking I can find someone even hotter. Or it's probably because I was in love with anether girl that wasn't so famous, named Alex. She was a bit of a nerd... actually, quite a lot. She had short hair and was strange in her own way. She was also very thin. I was awkward around her, because I liked her the most, while I was confident and acting hot with other girls. Coincidentally, she didn't like me, while most other girls fell in love with me, at one point or another.

Anonymous · Answer

Only one but then I dated her and now I regret dating her and I miss having her as a friend. So other than that one time I've never regretted staying just friends. It was almost always for the better. Now I have developed feelings for girls I've friend zoned more times than I can count but staying just friends was almost always the better option in my opinion. Every time I've decided not to respect my original decision to friend zone a girl has lead to regret and remorse. (I've fooled around with some friends before but only dated the one) The friend zone is a special place I reserve for women I love (on some level) but don't believe I should be in a romantic relationship with for various reasons. If I didn't care for her on some level she wouldn't be in the friend zone she'd be a booty call or some girl I'm nice to when I see her places. My friend zone isn't a rejection bin or waiting list. My friends aren't undesirable or options. They're people I care about and want in my life that I simply didn't want to build a family with. Sometimes it's because I think they'd be better for someone else. Sometimes we differ on things that are extremely important but not important enough to end a friendship. Sometimes it's because I think they wouldn't integrate well with the rest of the important things and people in my life. So no I never regret it. If they're friend zoned it's for a reason and it's usually a good one. Although I have to admit I've been told that when it comes down to my friendships with women I'm very unorthodox.

MikeGaultier · Answer

Once. I was in a relationship at the time. A new girl hired where I worked. I was asked to show her the ropes. Naturally... we got a long - she came to me with questions, we cracked jokes, and were inseparable at work (we made a great team, so the boys upstairs didn't mind). She dropped hints that she was interested in me - mentioning that she is single, talking about how interesting my hobbies were and that she'd like to try them sometime, etc. I've always been loyal, so I didn't "do anything."
We both left the job, both of us are working on advanced degrees - she's in another state now. My girlfriend at the time and I broke up recently. Then it got me thinking... I should have left her when I met the other girl - I have more in common with her, we get along better, etc.
Oh well, that's life!

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know if this is called friend-zoning. The girl who liked me was already one of closer friends. She was inseparable part of my life. I could have given her a try, and there was very good chance that I would have developed feelings for her at one point. However, I do not regret it as at that point I did not have any kind of romantic feelings. I admit that I miss her as a friend but I know what I did was right for us. Only regret is the lost friendship.
Thanks to her I have gained self-confidence. I used to think that I'm not attractive look-wise and personality-wise but her confession gave me confidence. She'd get straight A's in most of categories if there was any dating/romance report card.

steveguitar · Answer

I have never friend zoned a girl. I have always been shy, and unconfident, but I never tried to friendzone a girl. there are girls that I have been around at work who may have liked me, but they never said anything, and I was shy and unconfident, so maybe it seemed like I friendzoned them, but in my eyes it wasn't that way.

There was a girl who I went to elementary school with, who through another friend I caught up with me. then I was supposed to hang out with them again, but she was drunk and texted me to have sex with her. but I wasn't going to do that because I never liked her that way, she wasn't my type, and we'll she was drunk. then she deleted me off facebook, but I never really talked to her anyways lol

truthhammer · Answer

actually yes.

i friendzoned way more than I've dated. if theyve opened up about their feelings, they ususally pretend they dont know me after the rejection.

girls talk about guys can't take rejection? (thats normal its not fun) but girls are at a different level.

some start talking shit to others or even to you to put you down. lol

anon56789 · Answer

Are you sure you aren't lowering your standards because your lonely? Sometimes I get these feelings but its because of a dry spell lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys don't get confessed by girls often in their lives. Typically only the really popular guys go through that. You would be surprised at how man attractive guys don't think any girl has ever even checked him out.

Most of the time in order for the average guy to friend zone a girl, he either has to be in a really bad place in his life, or she has to be really ugly. Either way there is a good reason, and as a result is unlikely to regret his choice. Otherwise most guys would still be willing to sleep with their female friends. The only guys consistently having the opportunity to friend zone girls are guys with so many options that I doubt he will ever regret friend zoning a girl. In that case he knows he can do better, which is why he can be picky enough to friend zone her.

ritxi · Answer

Yes, in some chances I haven't found a girl attractive until she has a boyfriend because I hadn't expected that I would have liked her behaviour with his boyfriend, and when I noticed her behaviour with her boyfriend, I regretted not to have been interested on being her boyfriend, because if I had became her boyfriend I would have enjoyed her behaviour.

frozenhorizon · Answer

I've done this like 3 times maybe and not regretted it, I think it would have been worse if I had lead them on more. There are other cases where I didn't know people very well but there was clearly mutual attraction, but I just stopped talking to them for some reason that I can't even explain. I do regret those.

rjroy3 · Answer

No, but a couple girls certainly made my life more difficult for doing so. I more so regretted picking that girl to be in my life at all

Anonymous · Answer

I friendzoned several girls in high school, one of them is still trying to keep in touch and what not, even be friended with my mom. The fact that matter is unless I found you attractive from the first time I met you, you pretty much enter the friendzone. The only way not to be in the friendzone is be attractive enough for me or have a personality that's irresistible.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, i started dating a girl then told her i felt more like a friend or brother than a boyfriend. It wasn't entirely true, i wanted to date this other girl that i was attracted to more... turned out she can be a real bitch and i regret friendzoning the first one now because she has a lot more quality traits than the bitch.

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

Nah not really. Like within 2 minutes to 24 hours I can totally identify if a girl I meet is my "dateable type" or not, and she gets compartmentalized accordingly. I'm like a robot

Anonymous · Answer

It would have been a failed relationship from my point of view as I'm pretty sure of what I am looking for in a girl. at times I did think back at it and wondered if I could have slept with the girl in question, but I did not want to lead them on just for sex only to leave them hanging.
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Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I once turned down a girl (my best friend) because she was too skinny. I didn't tell her that though, I just said I wasn't interested. About 2 years later, I notice she gained some weight and now looked healthy, and I regained interest. However, our friendship wasn't the same since then, so I can't say the same spark is there. I don't know if she is still interested in me either. She seems more distant, whereas before, she would message me almost every day.

DanteSparda · Answer

I told her that I wasn't interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with her. I didn't freindzone her because I didn't want to lead her on. I don't regret it.

singlebee · Answer

Unmm not I don't regret it... I had my own reasons.. I was totally unattracted to her as she was totally unattractive Lol

Pyrofox · Answer

Yea I did it when she wanted to move towards dating but I was going through a lot so I wasn't comfortable and so I regret just ghosting and friend zoning her.

JulieOrsini · Answer

I am not born pretty, but I do not think that it is right for me or any girl to show like on a guy. I have ogled at guys and many reciprocate it because they find me unattractive. I think a guy who rejects my ogling is an insolent coward.

cookieman12 · Answer

When I was in 1st grade there was a girl that liked me, although I didn't like her back. The last time I ever saw her was in 3rd or 4th grade. What sucks is that she could have gone through a transformation through the years and I wouldn't even know it. I don't necessarily regret friend zoning her, but I still think about what could have happened if I liked her back.

RuNFromTown · Answer

Never did that, it's hard to have male-female friend relationship. Too much hormones jumping around.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I have never friendzoned a girl before. I am the one always getting friendzoned and worse.

26ukdude · Answer

No, once I meet someone and get to know them I have a pretty good idea if I want to persue anything with her or not. So if you've been friendzoned by me sorrrryyy but it's gonna stay that way.

PrettyBama · Answer

You never have to regret friend zoning someone because if you're ready to have a relationship they'll always be down lol

Winesteed · Answer

I don't believe in the friend zone. In fact, my dating pool usually comes directly from my group of friends.

NotTheFBI · Answer

Yes I have but she was working for me and I'm not into that kinda 'relationship' if you know what I mean. Clearly she's a nice person and maybe if she wasn't working for me I'd treat that situation differently.

Anonymous · Answer

I have been frien zoned and like that she keeps wanting to meet up for a few weeks in a row then doess not. People have told me to move on as she can't make her mind up and it is very frustrating at times. I think if I did based on my experience I would be careful not to have regrets as not fair on that person

neoagent1 · Answer

i don't think i've ever friendzoned a girl in my life.

Anonymous · Answer

Well i haven't regretted, When i do friendzone her it's because i am not physically attracted to her in the first place, this can be changed if she puts a lot of effort then again it won't work to see her differently. BUT in rare cases if someone was desperate he might see her as the light of hope and asks her out.

matheus_mb · Answer

Yes, I have, but I was young and it was part of my learning process.

DruBiEN · Answer

Nope. All the girls are in my friend zone since I am straight. xD xD Apart from jokes, I know a guy friend who regretted friendzoning 1 of my female best friends. She ain't going back to him though.

WombRaider · Answer

Yeah.

There was this one girl back in school who had a major crush on me. Her friend came up to me and asked me whether I'd ask her friend out. I said no... even though I did fancy her. I guess I didn't understand it and I was taken aback.

Anonya · Answer

Yep. Made that mistake many times over when i was younger and couldnt see what was in front of me. Brought on some sad depressing situations. If I've any advice, dont let pride stop you from getting him back..

genericname85 · Answer

well not really as in i didn´t love her and i couldn´t see my self ever to fall for her. but i kind of wouldn´t have complained if we sexually "tried each other out" xD

Anonymous · Answer

Only after like 4 months have I developed feelings for her because it takes a while to learn her actual personality. Sadly she moved away before I could ask her out.

Alexious · Answer

Well I've never had to do that, but if I did I wouldn't regret it. But I would feel awful for shattering her feelings.

Sabretooth · Answer

No, I've done worse... I failed a friend who I fell like an avalanche for...

kittykatbrat · Answer

Bi girl right here = Never = My sexual interest is immediate OR non existent.

bloodmountain1990 · Answer

Not quite. If I don't feel it, physically or emotionally, then I can't really force myself to. No point in leading a person on.

Steelcore1085 · Answer

I've never had to friend zone a girl before and then regret it, like, ever. When that situation happens, it was me being the one friend zoned and it was the girl friend zoning me. Not the other way around.

Lendino · Answer

Never happened. Girls don't tend to like me like that, probably cuz I'm nice to everyone. "I want a nice and carrying guy" said every girl ever but 99% still goes with the shitty assholes. Don't really get it...

Silver119 · Answer

Yep, I told this girl who tried it on with me that I only liked her as friend and she told everybody that it was me trying it on with her and not the other way around.

Browneye57 · Answer

Silly, women are the keepers of sex, men the keepers of commitment. If you want him he'll be there unless you two are simply incompatible in some other way.
FZ is what girls do to guys.
Maybe up your game a little, honey.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Hasn't happened. The women I have rejected I was 100 percent sure that I didn't want to date. That won't change with time.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Hmmm... Im pretty fuckin picky. In some senses yes? but mostly i understood exactly why i friendzoned her.

evenlift · Answer

No. I have friend-zoned many girls, including girls whom I knew liked me romantically/sexually. But, I have never regretted it.

Anonymous · Answer

Actually haven't yet. I think so far, my decisions on relationship are all quite wise. By the way, could you help me on my question?

Awesome2 · Answer

All of the girl I've friend zone I was dodging bullets.

Frost_Byt3 · Answer

I don't think its possible to friendzone a girl if you've never had a female friend fall for you. Or any girl for that matter.

WhatTheHellAmy · Answer

has never happened to me :/ wish a girl would ask me out XD

TomMarks · Answer

Normally I’m the one that was “friend zoned” in the past. Only got out of that one time. Not my last ex, only broke up with her cause her family ended up moving out of the area.

Iron_Man · Answer

No I only had one lady friend she was a cougar but I never allowed her to touch me

serious · Answer

I have never had a female friend in my life!! and I have never friendzoned a woman!!

soccerchick4eva · Answer

Oh man I've heard this happen to so many of my guy friends hahah

Anonymous · Answer

The ONLY time a girl volunteered that she liked me had Down's Syndrome, and I didn't regret politely declining.

Kester135 · Answer

I'm not good looking enough to be in the situation where I friend-zone a girl :/

Anonymous · Answer

No never. I friendzone girls that I don't find attractive

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