Why didn't my ex-appreciate me?

[Anonymous]

My ex-boyfriend didn't appreciate me and I don't understand why. I did everything I could to be a good girlfriend. I was faithful, supporting, and loving. He didn't have a car, lost his apartment, couldn't find a job and I stayed by his side. Even after "he dumped me" I offered to take him to school so he didn't have to quit. I met his family and friends but he NEVER mentioned me on Facebook or liked any of my pictures. However, he'd always like half-naked pictures of other women (THOTS). He prioritized everything over me and made it seem like I super demanding. All I ever ask from him was to communicate and be honest. He'd rather post perverted things on Facebook, and entertain THOTS than be with me.

I really don't understand because I thought I had a lot to offer. I'm pretty (or so I thought), funny, I have a nice body, and I'm in school (on the dean's list). I'm not perfect, I have major trust issues and I'm not good at controlling my emotions. However, I was still good to him.

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Oh, and every time I threatened to walk away he never asked me to stay.

[Anonymous]

Without knowing anything about your relationship I can only give general opinions, however it does sound like it had problems from the start. None of the problems seem about yourself, but more where he is in life.

- He was having a hard time.

Men in general have a much harder time opening up then women do. You mention liking photos on Facebook... This is a terrible way to judge a relationship. It's not a way to replace communication. I like more things from men's humour then anything anyone else posts, and yet if I see something bad I contact the poster. Pictures of friends don't do much for me in general, but they are all over my feed. My point being Facebook isn't a reflection of me. It's just a thing I have on my phone.

- There was little to no actual commitment from him

Your word being ' Even after "he dumped me" '. What was this about? He made it clear, but I have to ask did you ever talk about what happened? Maybe you slipped from friend to partner, and back without noticing?

-You seemed way more committed to him.
A lot more. Ask your self would he have done anything for you if it was you having trouble getting a job?

Like I said this is in general. It's possible you just picked a guy who wasn't worth your time to start with. Trust me it happens.

[Asker]

-Yes, we talked about what happened. He dumped me because of my trust, control, and emotional issues. However, he also said he isn't ready for a relationship because he is having a hard time, and doesn't have much to offer me. He said did love me but felt like I was settling for him.
-I was committed. Before our break up he was very understanding of my trust issues and when he wasn't taking me for granted I felt very loved. He did warn me to calm down or I'd push him away, but I didn't.

[coachTanthony]

Here's the Truth. You don't value yourself enough to realize that you deserve better. Just because you were good to someone or stayed by their side doesn't mean they are obligated to LOVE YOU. It just doesn't. He doesn't love you. End of story. You love him... I get it but the reciprocity is not there. You need to value yourself and hold yourself to a higher standard. Your the prize.. Period. You will attract what you are willing to accept. You are worth more... act like it and good things will happen. Don't settle for anything less.

[Asker]

I never obligated him to love me. Sadly, I do love him, but he told me he loved me first. I believed him because when he wasn't taking me for granted he was loving. However, I do agree, I am worth more and should act like it.

[TenderFantasy]

Maybe he just said he loved you so he could get in you pants/apartment/car/was lonely and horny, etc. etc. etc.

[Saramana]

you should move on... i feel that but im serious. it happned to me. i moved on then he regret it.

you will find someone nice, better and who really love you. he doesn't deserve your kindness. you love him so much yes! i know. it is hard but it is easier to move on than change someone :(

[CosmicallyCombined]

Because he was a hoe-bag.