My partner very recently asked me to call him daddy with things like "do *blank* to me daddy"
I laughed, a lot. It made me so uncomfortable because I didn't understand the psychology behind it or where this has come from after 6 years of being together. Reading up here and other forums has helped understand and to try to not be so creeped out by it. It's still sort of a turn off for me because I'm still working through being in the moment with him calling him Daddy and not letting my mind drift to my father *bleh!* but seeing how turned on it makes him brings me back into the moment pretty easily.
Has anyone else found that to be a problem? The unwanted horrific visuals when introducing this kind of play can bring? What's some tips you've found to stay in the moment and be more comfortable with it? After 6 years I wouldn't say things are stagnant, not at all but if he wants to try new things I want to be able to support him rather than embarrass him but it's a working progress I guess.
My fiancé likes me to call him daddy too and he calls me mama. Yes it does turn him on, but he sees me as his (second) mama, hence why he calls me that. And when we have children, he also wants me to breastfeed him...(*sigh*). But he mainly just uses it as a nickname.
I guess some guys like it because:
1. It turns them on;
2. They feel powerful;
3. It's a fantasy;
4. It's just another nickname I guess.
I don't think you should worry about it much (if you even did). Whatever floats his boat I guess.
Good luck :]! x
Because it projects that you accept his authority. It projects that you are innocent . And it is the fantasy of control , power and bieng macho that many men has. By calling him ''daddy'' you actually want to obey him and please him. Like I said, it plays on certain fantasies of control and innocense.
( oh and in no way I am f***ing talking about real dad daughter relationship)
In my experience this is more of a girl thing. I've had several girls who liked to call me daddy, especially in a sexual context. It does nothing for me, although I see it as harmless and don't mind it.
So yeah, why do girls like to call guys daddy?
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That is a very good question, it reminds me of incest and I think it is creepy.
It's almost like saying "yes sir," it's less about seeing himself as a literal father figure.
My wife is the first woman to ever call me daddy during sex. At first, I was put off but then got to thinking that in some families, the wife will call her husband daddy and I was okay with it. In fact, I told her I'm her Very Bad Daddy!!
Makes them feel powerful or something. It's a kink that's way out of hand. 15 year old boys are not day lmao.
usually associated in Daddy Dom/Little/kitten or DD/LG fetishes.. which from what my ex explained how she felt, she felt safe, she felt security and comfort in the role, plus while she was in "little space" as she called it there were no sex, it was for comfort etc... whenever though she was back to herself she would call me daddy during sex which she loved to do, and tbf I found it a turn on... nothing perverse or incestuous about it
it also shows that she is submitting to the one they call daddy, which doesn't come without certain conditions though
Its a dominance submission thing. She is being submissive when she calls him daddy, however its a dominance thing that in my opinion is far more intimate. Basically a daddy is the one who takes care of her, loves her etc. So her calling him that shows that she trust him and loves him and wants him to take care of her. So it also kind of reinforces his masculinity as well as the fact that he is in control. However its a type of control that is different then other dominance play, namely that its coming from love from intimacy and by choice vs. dominance play that would be say bdsm where its about physical control and forcing them to obey through threat of pain. So That's why I prefer it, I like the dominance and her being submissive but I want it to be willing and loving (and in a weird way he is being submissive as well because he wants you he wants and needs you to choose him to be the one in control so this is also something that creates another layer of intimacy).
My boyfriend does the same thing. He's 21 tho. Anyways... he only does that when we are you know, having sex. he also makes me or asks me to tell him that I love him. Over and over again. What I think it is, is that they just want to feel in control. Like he also asks me that if he owns me. And stuff like that. They probably just want to be in control, and make sure you obey and respect what they say... I don't know... that's my opinion.
While I certainly don't like it, I think that it plays into certain elements of male psychology. The man tends to want to be dominant and protective. That stereotype of men who want to be providers is actually rooted in evolutionary psychology. When a woman calls a guy "Daddy," especially if the woman is younger, the man gets to feel like he is in that protective role and suggests that the girl needs him. In that it also flatters the male ego.
My girlfriend likes calling me daddy, mostly it's about the power dynamic of the relationship. He wants to see himself as powerful and you calling him daddy helps him achieve that. It's loving, respectful, and intimate and sets him up as the dominant figure.
You're right to choose Meedo as best I'm pretty sure that's what it's all about. My girlfriend is older than me by eight years but I have more grey hairs than her so part of it is just kinda playing off the idea that I look somewhat older than her and the other is, I mean, as he said, she's mine she's doing what I tell her and that's... that's pretty fucking awesome.
Some do it as fantasy role play, there are many like it including rape fantasy and if its confined to the bedroom and dies nobody any harm then each to their own. Not my thing really unless the girl wanted to do it but not something I would initiate myself.
Latent oedipal complex, perhaps?
Some people use it in domination/submission, and if that's what floats their boat then I'm TOTALLY cool with it, but I think there's some weird shit at play there.
Just my opinion and I don't intend to offend with it at all.
I just want to state that not all guys like that kind of stuff. I personally don't like it. But, as explained below, it's fantasy or power, but don't worry too much about it--when it comes down to it, quite a few people have strange quirks like that. Now, if there were bigger and weirder things that were happening, that might be something to worry about.
When being sexual with a girl she has called me "daddy"...i didn't ask her to call me that, but if that helps her fulfull a fantasy and "get off", I'm all for it. :)
However, I have NEVER been called "daddy" outside the bedroom...especially since I don't have kids. :-P
Cuz it's sweet. He's probly thinking of your future children. My mom called my dad dad. She had eight children, and he called her mom. Becuz she was mom.
Maybe not the best explanation. But if my wife had my children, I'd call her mom. Just becuz she is.
Its a less formal way of saying "sir". It shows him that he's dominant. Its usually not actually anything to do with pedophilia.
it makes us feel more power and dominant.
after all the first man you came across in your life, who raised you, who you should always respect, who pointed you in the right direction, who yelled at you, who put you in timeout or whooped your ass when you were bad was indeed you "Daddy"
i think people are getting the idea that daddy is referring to ones own parent, but in sex i think its more of like referring to your partner being the daddy of your children even if you dont have children or are trying to make a baby. its just kind of sexy, and it makes me feel like she's all mine
I think that is the weirdest fucking thing in the world. Also when I guy sees a hot chick and says "daddy likes." Creep swag on a hundred million billion trillion.
Their are many reasons why, but I suppose it's because it makes us feel dominant or that we have control. But to others it may be for incestuous reasons. It is also used similarly to the term "baby". We don't literally mean baby when we call our bf/gf that, but it reveals we have the same qualities for them. Same goes for "daddy".
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