I know this is wrong, but I've purposely acted stupid and ditzy, well, stupider I should say. And male attention did increase. Someone here also did something similar and got similar results. How is being stupid the same as needing someone? Well, dumb people need extra help.
Here's her take https://www.girlsaskguys.com/flirting/a30274-what-i-learned-from-pretending-to-be-a-ditz-for-a-week
A trait that many men, foolishly, overlook is insecurity. This leads to very needy women who their 'want' becomes obsessive to "need". I've always felt like it's an even somewhat preferred trait of many men. Insecure women (people) are easier to manipulate and make you feel needed more.
Men seem to also be turned off by the whole "independent women" types. I get it, we can be arrogant sometimes. But insecurity=/=humility.
I don't know, I pay my own bills, have been taking care of myself AND my family for nearly a decade and I'm barely turning 25. I drive my own car, I go to school and work. I know I don't have time for mind games (Sorry this sounds like bragging). I'm not going to lie, I don't need a boyfriend, but when I get into a relationship, it's because I WANT him. It turns men off to hear this lol when in my mind, that seems flattering. I'm not saying he's replaceable nor that men are dispensable, because when I fall, I fall hard.
So do men prefer to be wanted or needed? Like if you could have more of one, which would it be?
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